ok

L Stuart

well

J&K10910

A bridle shower?  So, was it for her horse?

lyndausvi

It never once occurred to me to ask my MOH (who was my sister) to order anything for my wedding. 

I've been a BM plenty of times and I never once was even asked to do such things.  Where is your FI?  I mean he would be the one I would ask to help with that sort of stuff before a MOH, It's his wedding right?

For the record I did help out the brides in the wedding I was in, but it was more like stuffing envelopes while having glasses of wine.  Or the WEEK of the weddings helping with last minute stuff.    Asking  (or it sounds more like telling them) do order tables does not seem like a job for a MOH.  

Sorry,

ggirl2001

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_having-moh-problems-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:f25af612-c158-4b8f-938a-2dfa97135d43Post:be601eae-e83c-403d-ac62-68de795df836">Having MOH problems.... venting</a>:
[QUOTE]My MOH duesn't really help, i have asked her to book the tables and chairs for the local hall, 4 weeks ago. I have asked her if she has done it 3 times and she says '' o, yes ill do that on monday''....it has not been done yet. Also when i she her opinion of she thing it's ''o, ya that's good'' and ''What ever you think''. We have been friends for 8 years, i was in here wedding party last year(so i thought it would be easy b/c we have been threw it before). I made all of her invitations, thank you cards and planned the decorating at the hall before her wedding, threw her a bridle shower. <strong>I'm not saying she has to ''pay'' me back because that not what i want. I was just hoping she would realize that i may need a little more help and a little more try from her.</strong> I do not want to be the Bride from hell...and start giving her orders. I want her to want to help. Thanks for listening
Posted by L Stuart[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Why the H are you asking your MOH to book tables and chairs? This is your wedding not hers. It's great that you helped her out, but that doesn't mean she needs to do it for you. Why do you need help? Is your FI unable to help you? </div><div>
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</div><div>And yes that is exactly what you are saying. By pointing out what you did for her, and then complaining she is not doing the same, you are saying that you want her to pay you back. </div><div>
</div><div>If she offers to help great, but you do not have the right to give her orders. That is ridiculous that you even think that you would need to do that. </div><div>

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L Stuart

i guess i should have also said i had asked her because she volenters there on weekends, at the hall and she said it would be no problem.

lyndausvi

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_having-moh-problems-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:f25af612-c158-4b8f-938a-2dfa97135d43Post:ce7039f1-73b0-4ce6-8e82-8bf1503c02f3">Re: Having MOH problems.... venting</a>:
[QUOTE]i guess i should have also said i had asked her because she volenters there on weekends, at the hall and she said it would be no problem.
Posted by L Stuart[/QUOTE]

<div>Since she works at the venue I'm sure she understands when the job actually needs to be done as oppose to when you think it needs to be done.</div><div>
</div><div>Just trust her on this.</div><div>
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Grits8812

where is your fiance in all this?

run262131

Perhaps she deleted it, because like myself when I described similiar issues, she realized it wasnt worth losing a friend over and that not everyone knew the background of the whole issue. Golly, give a girl a break. There is no need to be relentless. Just saying

To the orginal poster, having face similiar issues with my BFF/MOH and then mistakenly writing about it and being told I may be expecting slave labor, really my advice to you is simply reconsider what you are asking of her. And at the end of the day, do you want to lose a friend over it? Trust me, it is VERY frustrating when someone promises to do something and then backs out. Its kinda like why promise if you dont want to help? However, it sounds like you are close friends and this can drive a wedge between you. Speaking from VERY RECENT experience, its not worth it and there are probably other people who would really like to help. Good luck to you

Mrs.B6302007

I get being aggravated that she didn't do something that she said she would do.  However, you did say you asked her if she would so it's not like she volunteered and didn't follow through so you really shouldn't be too upset because it was your idea, not hers. 

Really, in the time that you spent asking her a couple of times about it plus the time you spent to gripe about it here, you could have made the call yourself and been done with it.  It is your responsiblity, after all.

L Stuart

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_having-moh-problems-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:f25af612-c158-4b8f-938a-2dfa97135d43Post:cbf79d0f-f126-4356-9a3f-5fc9da9e03e1">Re: ok</a>:
[QUOTE]Perhaps she deleted it, because like myself when I described similiar issues, she realized it wasnt worth losing a friend over and that not everyone knew the background of the whole issue. Golly, give a girl a break. There is no need to be relentless. Just saying To the orginal poster, having face similiar issues with my BFF/MOH and then mistakenly writing about it and being told I may be expecting slave labor, really my advice to you is simply reconsider what you are asking of her. And at the end of the day, do you want to lose a friend over it? Trust me, it is VERY frustrating when someone promises to do something and then backs out. Its kinda like why promise if you dont want to help? However, it sounds like you are close friends and this can drive a wedge between you. Speaking from VERY RECENT experience, its not worth it and there are probably other people who would really like to help. Good luck to you :)
Posted by run262131[/QUOTE]

Thank You

run262131

Agreed 100%