I was talking to FMIL and she made a comment which made me wonder. We were talking about family vacations. They have been trying to go on vacation with us and our daughter for a few years. I on the other hand have tried to avoid this because the first time I didn't enjoy my vacation. During the day we were traveling with an 8 month old, FFIL, FBIL, FI and FMIL visiting family for hours on in. Would drive 3+ hours to visit a person for an hour. Then came the night and I was in bed with my daughter by 8-9pm because no one would offer to watch her and everyone else would be having a late dinner and watching shows at the resort.
Second time was Disney and although it wasn't as bad because as soon as they said they were going I told FI my mom is also. However, we had to go at their pace, eat when they wanted, stop when needed, and even had a bad argument about the princess breakfast being too expensive. When I mean bad, I mean FI and FFIL were arguing none stop. This was something FI and I wanted to do for our daughter since it was her birthday. So we ended up paying for everything to avoid more arguments.
Last year we went to Disney and this was a huge disappointment for them. Every conversation they had with us they would throw in a "since we weren't invited.'
Now this year, although she hasn't asked about the vacations because we already said nothing until after the wedding. She started talking about a vacation a family member is planning. She asked if we were planning anything this year. I'm confused, either she wants to know in order to schedule her time with the other family or she is asking to tag along on our plans.
I don't know what to do without hurting feelings. I told them already I refuse to go to the same place as we did the first time and they didn't like that.