anyone else feel like this?

Cola1511

Let me just start by saying that I am very excited for the wedding and to marry the man I love.

I just feel like the rest of our life is ON HOLD until this wedding is over. ALL this money, we could have paid off my car or put 20% down on a REALLY nice house. Instead, we are saving like crazy for the wedding, living in a rental that I absolutely despise, all for one night of entertainment for us a our "200 closest friends"? I don't like my job but can't even start looking for a new one until the wedding is over (I need to have paid time off to use for the wedding). I just feel overwhelmed by how much everything is costing and how limited we are by it... I know / hope we won't look back and think "I can't believe we just spent that much money / worrying / time on ONE night".

Is it normal to feel like this after being engaged / planning for a while?? We got engaged in July 2009. Maybe I'm just impatient?

Spim7

It's perfetly normal. I felt the same way.

AlexiaANDRobert

I felt that way in the beginning, so I cut back a lot and butchered the guest list.

At this point, just try to look at all the positives.  You're getting married, you've probably planned an awesome event, you'll get to see/hang out with tons of people, etc.

It's like buying a dress and then still looking.  STOP!  Just enjoy what you have!

jl.williams38

I know EXACTLY how you feel. Everyone keeps telling me everything will get better after the wedding. I have heard that for over a year. I just don't get it. I will still be in debt, still have the crummy job, still be paying bills 'till we celebrate our 50th. I just don't get it, but I feel your pain!

SuMmErKuTiE

FI and I feel exactly the same way!! We feel like everything has been put on hold for the past year and a half so we can save up and pay for the wedding and HM. We hate our living situation, not doing as many fun things as we used to, and not buying new things we need. It stinks, but before you know it, it'll all be over and you'll be married to the love of your life and can start planning and saving towards your house and starting a family.

debdebdol

Yup.  We talk about our future plans as "after the wedding".  After the wedding we will have money for this...  After the wedding we can buy this... 

I actually don't mind.  I have been with FI for 11 years and we are finally getting married, so to me it is worth the year of saving and not spending.  I just wished I would have saved money for at least 5 of those 11 years, that would have helped us out tremendously, but oh well, we can't go back in time.

jenn.daniel

I feel like everything is just starting.  Then again, our wedding will cost nowhere near 20% the cost of a nice house.  If our parents weren't so generous, we'd probably have a small wedding for just 25 people and at-home reception so we could avoid touching our house-savings.

MISSCOURTNEY20

I sometimes feel the same way. We are possibly not going to take our family trip this summer because of the wedding expenses. But you only have 1 month left. Focus on that last minute planning and I gurantee, that at the end of your wedding day, you will be soo happy you did what you did.

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Yes, its normal. I am at the point where I am done spending money (imagine that) and want it all to be over. Things will get better over time, it is just a major life change right now, and then you will be ready for the next one.

socialworksarah

Yes. A million times, yes.

I'm about 2 weeks away and I'm still thinking that eloping sounds amazing. 

ETTK10

YES!!!!

We have been living in a crappy apt for 3 years now and wish we could use our wedding money for a down payment on a house, especially with the federal credit!  I keep telling myself 3 more months!