I'm Going Into Panic Mode

rlavach

Oh man, this is getting too much. This past week has been quite a rollercoaster of emotion. I did get a lot done, inculding meeting with my florist. It just feels too overwhelming.

Last night while brushing my cat, she scratched me. I flipped out and started balling. I have 6 cats, I've been scratched before. Clearly a little scratch does NOT warrant balling my eyes out. I think it was just the last straw that broke the week's emotions. 

Someone else please tell me that they've freaked out for the tiniest little thing...

blgrout

Yup.  I freaked out over my dryer not heating up a couple weeks ago (my dryer is on the fritz and does this once and while where it doesn't warm up during a dry cycle so clothes stay wet and yucky).  I had a full blown crying meltdown and FI thought I had lost my mind.  I know it's no big, but that day we were fighting about my OCD planning, and I was feeling like I was never going to get everything done for the wedding, and was having issues with things at work, so I lost it over my freakin dryer. 

We're all just a big ball of emotions right now.  And you have had a very emotional week, from your previous posts.  Kitty just pushed the wrong buttons!

karenmruff

No worries, I'll fess up!  I lost it with my F last night because he was sitting next to me playing video games when I KNEW he hadn't done any of the wedding chores he promised he would do three weeks ago.

I guess it could have been worse, I told him that he was driving me crazy and left before I said anything too horrible.  Still, it was surreal to feel the anger just boil up out of nowhere.  Now that I am calmer, 'nowhere' is really pms + wedding stress, but it's not like I knew that at the time.

We'll get through this!  And your cat won't tell anyone if you don't.  :-D

faerylvr27

I'm with you. I had my own freakout over my dining table. Ikea gave me the wrong one (WAYYYYY too big for our apt) and told me in order to exchange it for the right one, I had to disassemble it, bring it back to the store and they would give me the right one. I just started hysterically crying. It ended up only taking 10 minutes to take apart between FI & my dad & I, and 20 minutes to put the new one back together, but it took me 2 hours to put the first table together by myself. I had to cancel my meeting with the florist because I had to drive to my apt in Queens, take it apart, drive to ikea, then drive back to the apt. I'm also having major problems with my 6 year old son and school on top of trying to move and maybe get some DIY stuff done. Everything is too much these days. one month & 1 week to go and I feel like I  don't even know what needs to be done anymore.

bakersduzin

Yesterday I tripped up the steps (yep, up), and I balled my eyes out for 10 minutes. Mind you I wasn't hurt or anything, normally I would laugh when something like that happens to me. Luckily my mom was around and completely understood. Later on I tried telling FI what happened and he was just like, "what?" We're all getting down to crunch time, so I think it's pretty normal to have one little thing potentially set you off. I know that all day yesterday I was off, just thinking about everything I still have to do, FI still not having a job, and worrying about how we're going to manage the bills once we're married etc etc. It all just sort of snowballed and tripping up the steps set off the avalanche of emotion I guess. In short, you're definitely not alone!

rlavach

Thank goodness I'm not alone. I had the same thing happen to me, karenmruff. My FI promised me that he'd assemble all of this furniture in our apartment & his brother even visited him Saturday for a few hours, yet nothing got done. He said they were 'just talking'. Seriously? With all of the work you have to do, why waste time 'just talking'? I flipped & in 1.5 hours everything was assembled. 

It can be frustrating because they always claim they're too busy to get these things done, yet they're NOWHERE near as busy as we are, yet we manage to get 10x more done. 

An older friend told me that he & his wife had their 1st fight the night before the wedding. He put too much on his plate for the wedding day and his FI was convinced he'd end up being late to the ceremony, making them miss daylight for pics. She went so far as to say, 'if you're not there on time, we're not getting married!!!' He made sure to be there 15 min early...

naarnold

You are totally not alone. So excited to be getting married, but the planning on top of a recent move and full time job is overwhelming. I started adding yoga to my workout routine to help with the stress and have been letting friends and family take on more as we get closer to the wedding. (And ETSY has become my new best friend for all my unfinished wedding projects). 

But, I completely understand where you are coming from and have a few times lately that I have broken down over the strupidest things... (Like I can't get the dishwasher to close, or the new puppy had an accident in the house). So I feel your pain. I just have to keep repeating to myself that soon enough I will be simply enjoying our wonderful celebration with friends and family!

faerylvr27

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_im-going-into-panic-mode?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:f87e1f68-2ee5-48d9-ad54-88cf120439efPost:f23b2d01-1cf9-41cf-94b8-900b677f1b84">Re: I'm Going Into Panic Mode</a>:
[QUOTE]You are totally not alone. So excited to be getting married, but the planning on top of a recent move and full time job is overwhelming. I started adding yoga to my workout routine to help with the stress and have been letting friends and family take on more as we get closer to the wedding. <strong>(And ETSY has become my new best friend for all my unfinished wedding projects). </strong> But, I completely understand where you are coming from and have a few times lately that I have broken down over the strupidest things... (Like I can't get the dishwasher to close, or the new puppy had an accident in the house). So I feel your pain. I just have to keep repeating to myself that soon enough I will be simply enjoying our wonderful celebration with friends and family!
Posted by naarnold[/QUOTE]

 I think I might do the same. I have a few things I would like to do, but honestly, I just don't have the time. If I don't use ETSY, I will just scratch whatever it is I'm trying to do because in the grand scheme of things, it's just not that important anymore.

naarnold

faerylvr27- I had some things I really wanted at the wedding (not important things, but things I thought would add a personal touch of who my fiance and I are) and I planned to do them all by hand. You would think I would have been able to do them considering I have had a year and half to do them, but life gets in the way. So I am not giving them up, just having someone else do them so I am not up until 2 am every night the week of the wedding. 

futuremrsdavies

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[QUOTE]No worries, I'll fess up!  I <strong>lost it with my F last night because he was sitting next to me playing video games when I KNEW he hadn't done any of the wedding chores he promised he would do three weeks ago</strong>. I guess it could have been worse, I told him that he was driving me crazy and left before I said anything too horrible.  Still, it was surreal to feel the anger just boil up out of nowhere.  Now that I am calmer, 'nowhere' is really pms + wedding stress, but it's not like I knew that at the time. We'll get through this!  And your cat won't tell anyone if you don't.  :-D
Posted by karenmruff[/QUOTE]

I went bezerk on my poor fiance because when i got home from my dress fitting at 9 pm, after working all day, he was still playing video games since 3 when he had gotten home.  None of his wedding chores were done (like buying groomsman's gifts) and he hadn't made dinner.  Granted eating at 9 isn't healthy to begin with but it infuriated me so much that he hadn't even started it and now i'd have to either cook something or wait until he did and eat at like 10 pm, that I lost my mind.

Clearly realized it was PMS and wedding stress the next morning haha

rlavach

I also gave up on some DIY projects. I handed off 2 to my BM who is working on them right now. I had to give up on wearing a bolero to the ceremony because none of the ones I find ready-made on etsy work for me. They don't fit right, so I returned them. To get one custom made would take 4-6 weeks to ship. No time.

My biggest fear is gaining weight. I stress eat, so I've been trying to now allow myself to eat when I'm emotional. I actually lost 1.5lbs in the last week. Hopefully that will continue.

futuremrsdavies

I stress eat also...I have not been monitoring it...sure did gain 8 pounds since Jan...but really, I don't care.  When you're a certain size, 8 pounds really doesn't matter anymore ahaha

rlavach

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_im-going-into-panic-mode?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:f87e1f68-2ee5-48d9-ad54-88cf120439efPost:a85067d2-cdf5-4d69-a455-81a66f0d0b42">Re: I'm Going Into Panic Mode</a>:
[QUOTE]I stress eat also...I have not been monitoring it...sure did gain 8 pounds since Jan...but really, I don't care.  When you're a certain size, 8 pounds really doesn't matter anymore ahaha
Posted by futuremrsdavies[/QUOTE]
With my corset dress, I can't afford to gain any weight. They actually had to take it out when I went 2 weeks ago. My 2nd fitting is this Fri. Hopefully I won't have back fat anymore!!

naarnold

ugh! Don't even get me started on wedding dresses. I decided to purchase mine through brides against breast cancer so all the $ would go to terminal breast cancer patients medical bills and well being. Well apparently I am being punished for that becuase I gained some weight (although I can still zip it) since I bought it and it took 3 seamstresses to find someone who would even touch it. Now I am just waiting to see what happens, and trying not to gourge on comfort food!

blgrout

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm Going Into Panic Mode : I went bezerk on my poor fiance because when i got home from my dress fitting at 9 pm, after working all day, he was still playing video games since 3 when he had gotten home.  None of his wedding chores were done (like buying groomsman's gifts) and he hadn't made dinner.  Granted eating at 9 isn't healthy to begin with but it infuriated me so much that he hadn't even started it and now i'd have to either cook something or wait until he did and eat at like 10 pm, that I lost my mind. Clearly realized it was PMS and wedding stress the next morning haha
Posted by futuremrsdavies[/QUOTE]

OMG this happened to me last Tuesday!  Not the dress fitting, but the getting home late (and I was starving) and seeing FI lounged in his chair watching Ancient Aliens on H2 and eating "dinner", which was cheese and crackers.  He had the day off from work and the only thing he proceeded to do was go to the gym and tune in to the Ancient Aliens marathon he found.  At least he saved me some cheese and crackers, haha.

chickenbut143

OH, i'm not alone!!  lol  I'm PMS'n too and actually cleaned the whole house yesterday (nesting?) while FI was out moutain biking.  I was a little snippy a few times on Saturday...but only b/c of the immense amount of homework, wedding projects/paperwork due, and not to mention regular work being crazy!  FI thought it was odd when I started crying watching The Amazing Race last night (when the guy thought he was going home).  Yup, big ball of emotion. 

cdbishop

I am a very emotional person, but I know little things are definitely getting to me more.  I am trying to put on a good face and not let it get to me. 

schaumers3

yeah I have been pretty stressed and snapping at my fiance lately also. I have been doing most of the projects lately.  All I wanted him to do was pick out a few songs and  scan some pics for our photo slideshow and he has been playing in volleyball tournaments and playing videogames with buddies more thean usual.  I think he is trying to de-stress but i haven't had much time myself to workout that i usually like to go running.  I am also moving all of my stuff and packing over to his house from my apt that i have to be out of a week after the wedding lol. 

rlavach

In Response to Re:I'm Going Into Panic Mode:[QUOTE]yeah I have been pretty stressed and snapping at my fiance lately also. I have been doing most of the projects lately.nbsp; All I wanted him to do was pick out a few songs andnbsp; scan some pics for our photo slideshow and he has been playing in volleyball tournaments and playing videogames with buddies more thean usual.nbsp; I think he is trying to destress but i haven't had much time myself to workout that i usually like to go running.nbsp; I am also moving all of my stuff and packing over to his house from my apt that i have to be out of a week after the wedding lol.nbsp; Posted by schaumers3[/QUOTE]
I totally feel ya. My FI is already living in our new apt I still have to move all of my clothes shoes. I have SO MUCH! Forget about all of the DIYs...sigh.