Am I a bad bride?

beachwed10

I've begun the painful search for bridesmaids dresses.  I have come to the conclusion that I really don't care and I don't want to waste my time looking for a dress that my bridesmaids will despise. 

SO....
Is it terrible of me to just want to tell them to pick a plain white sundress that would look ok with a belt or sash?
Has anyone been to or seen a wedding that has a wedding party in white?

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]I've begun the painful search for bridesmaids dresses.  I have come to the conclusion that I really don't care and I don't want to waste my time looking for a dress that my bridesmaids will despise.  SO.... Is it terrible of me to just want to tell them to pick a plain white sundress that would look ok with a belt or sash? Has anyone been to or seen a wedding that has a wedding party in white?
Posted by beachwed10[/QUOTE]

You aren't a bad bride for not wanting to pick out their dresses. I think that makes you a good bride, personally.  I would not have them where white sundresses though.  I know this may be overly traditional, but I just don't think the wedding party should be in white.  I would pick any other color. Black, grey, silver, pink, navy blue and just say "pick your own sundress in any shade of X"  and let it be.

SJM7538

I think you're a wonderful bride! As long as you're having a casualish wedding and you're okay with them being in white I think this is a great idea. It will be a big cost savings as well. If the wedding is more formal they may look and feel out of place at the wedding in a sundress. I did the same thing... I told my girls they could wear whatever they wanted as long as the dress was black. Four bought dresses from David's bridal and the other two are going to buy elsewhere but know to shop for the formality of the wedding.

zizibet

No, you aren't. And white for the bridal party is a matter of taste. If you want it, go for it.

beachwed10

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[QUOTE]I think you're a wonderful bride! As long as you're having a casualish wedding and you're okay with them being in white I think this is a great idea. It will be a big cost savings as well. If the wedding is more formal they may look and feel out of place at the wedding in a sundress. I did the same thing... I told my girls they could wear whatever they wanted as long as the dress was black. Four bought dresses from David's bridal and the other two are going to buy elsewhere but know to shop for the formality of the wedding.
Posted by SJM7538[/QUOTE]

It's going to be outdoor on the beach. That's sundress appropriate, right? haha

kematzen

Personally I think white looks fantastic on the bridal party. And I was going to do the same thing with having my ladies pick their dresses, until we decided to simplify the whole thing and elope to Wyoming. Its should be about enjoying the experience, so forget about what's traditional and "expected" and do your thing!

Daizy106

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[QUOTE]I've begun the painful search for bridesmaids dresses.  I have come to the conclusion that I really don't care and I don't want to waste my time looking for a dress that my bridesmaids will despise.  SO.... Is it terrible of me to just want to tell them to pick a plain white sundress that would look ok with a belt or sash? Has anyone been to or seen a wedding that has a wedding party in white?
Posted by beachwed10[/QUOTE]

you are not a bad bride if anything there should be more brides like you! There are some brides that turn into such control freaks. however, are you SURE you want your BM's to wear white? I think you should tell them to pick out a color that is anything other than white. Only the bride should be in white/ivory. I just want you to stand out! BUt its your wedding and if that's what makes you happy, than thats all that matters. Goodluck and congrats!

beautifulmama28

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[QUOTE]I've begun the painful search for bridesmaids dresses.  I have come to the conclusion that I really don't care and I don't want to waste my time looking for a dress that my bridesmaids will despise.  SO.... Is it terrible of me to just want to tell them to pick a plain white sundress that would look ok with a belt or sash? Has anyone been to or seen a wedding that has a wedding party in white?
Posted by beachwed10[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I didn't go with sundresses, but my bridesmaids are all wearing black and I allowed them to choose whatever dress they like/looks good on them as long as it fit the parameters (short, and not fitted so flowy type skirt)</div><div>
</div><div>I love the look of different dresses...some of the most beautiful pictures I've seen of weddings were where the bridesmaids were not all matching, but were *coordinated* if that makes sense.</div><div>
</div><div>I agree with the 2nd poster, choose one of your wedding colors, or assign each girl one of your colors and have them choose.  I personally wouldn't go with white, unless you are wearing a colored gown.</div>

beautifulmama28

and sundresses would be perfect for a beach wedding 

Sara G to be

I don't really care what my BM's wear. I'm only having 2 and both have different styles my MOH is very laided back and easy going. My FSIL is the other BM and she can be laid back but also dressy. I just want them to be comfortable. Ofcourse I don't want one laid back and the other to look really dressy. I figure we will go shopping all together and pick things out. I really just want to have fun and dance and I want my guests to do the same so whatever they feel comfortable in is good for me!

csweaney

Oh no, you are DEFINITELY not a bad bride. Don't feel bad. Its perfectly normal to not want to deal with the drama that comes with picking out a bridesmaids dress.

One of my friends picked out a designer, a fabric the designer offered, and a color and allowed us to pick whatever style from that designer in the fabric and color she had picked. We had dozens of options. It was really fun and we all ended up with something different. That might be a good way for you to go.