Father of the groom tux

Marla181

Should the father of the groom wear a tux that matches the color of the mother of the groom? Same thing for the grandfather of the groom, should he match the dress of the grandmother? The mother's choices are brown or dark plum, the wedding is in Oct.
Need some help! thx

jennylove810

Nah, just let the man wear whatever he wants.  My dad will be in the standard black and white tux, but my mom is wearing blue.

Leave the matchy-matchy for the groomsmen/bridesmaids.

jennylove810

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[QUOTE]Should the father of the groom wear a tux that matches the color of the mother of the groom? Same thing for the grandfather of the groom, should he match the dress of the grandmother? <strong>The mother's choices are brown or dark plum, the wedding is in Oct. </strong>Need some help! thx
Posted by Marla181[/QUOTE]

And I hope that means those are the 2 colors that the moms are deciding between?  Because the bride doesn't decide what colors anyone wears except herself and her BMs.

Marla181

It's my fiances mother who said his father was going to match her dress. I mean this isn't a prom, it's a wedding. I was hoping they would wear the classic black tux. Those colors are her choices for her dress.

mbcdefg

Let FMIL and FFIL work that out amongst themselves.

I've usually seen the dads match their wives, or they go neutral with black or maybe silver vests and ties.

Our dads elected to match the groomsmen (black vests and striped ties).

Really, nobody cares. Let them figure it out and don't worry about it.

Ken&Cass

I can't stand some of the women on these boards and their attitudes...
"the bride doesn't decide what colors anyone wears except herself and her BMs"
Marla, my FI's dad is going to be wearing a tux with the same aqua colored tie that I bought for everyone.

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]I can't stand some of the women on these boards and their attitudes... "the bride doesn't decide what colors anyone wears except herself and her BMs" Marla, my FI's dad is going to be wearing a tux with the same aqua colored tie that I bought for everyone.
Posted by Ken&Cass[/QUOTE]
The attitude you're referring to is called "accommodation."  Dictating attire for anyone outside the wedding party is venturing into bridezilla territory.

Ken&Cass

No, the attitude I'm referring to is women jumping down people's throats and assuming because someone mentioned the colors that their mother's may be wearing they are 'being a horrible person' or 'acting a bridezilla'.

None of the people on this site know that the original poster was telling the mom's what colors they can wear. They assumed it because she was asking about whether or not the parents should match, and they threw back attitude for it.

ITS WRONG

Karen's MOH

I'm happy to let the dads where whatever they want, but my dad is hounding me to tell him what to wear! He owns a tux, so I think I will ask him to wear the black version of the patterned vest and tie the GMs are wearing (they will wear gold).

That way he coordinates, but doesn't match exactly. Although, he would be perfectly happy to match, he is very into it.

Marla181

Thx for the responses! I'm just trying to get feedback to see if it is "normal" for the grooms father to wear a tie & vest that matches the groom's mother's dress! I'm certainly not trying to tell people how to dress.
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