omigod!! help...!!

zemi5417

so i have been engaged for 3 years now, and we decided to put off our wedding so my fiance could finish his degree.  and we finally set a date, and i have actaully had my dress for about 2.5 yrs.  but the problem is that i was just looking at pictures from a wedding which i actually know the bride and groom, but did not attend the wedding....  and omigod! she had my dress!! and i knew so many people that went to her wedding(friends and co-workers) , and now i dunno what to do? am i gonna seem like a copycat?  i feel that i have to find a different dress...  any advice?

krisdi78

I'm guessing no one will notice - especially since your wedding isn't for another 2 years.  I have been to many weddings and I may be able to tell you vaguely what the bride was wearing but not exactly.  Besides the dress is more than likely going to look different on you than it did on her, especially with different hairstyles, accessories, etc...

vanessahartman

I wouldn't worry about it. The last thing guests at your wedding will think about is if someone else they know has worn your dress or a similar dress. They will be there to celebrate you and your FI's big day! They will be there because they care about you - and wish the best for you! Don't worry about it - you may be the only one who will ever know!!

meredithl618

yeah, I agree with pp. Although this sounds like the worst thing to ever happen, it's not that bad! If you're really worried about it, could you add a sash or something personal to make it your own without having to make many changes??

BelhurstBride

In two years no one is going to remember what her dress looked like. Don't worry about it!

kristinanddan

I'm not sure anyone would notice now, let alone in 2 years. Don't worry!

mbcdefg

If you had never looked at the photos, you would've never known that you have the same dress as this girl. And the world still would've kept on spinning. So why should it be any different now that you DO know? Why does it matter? People aren't going to run screaming our of your ceremony because you have the same dress that another girl had a few years ago. Relax.

junelley

I wouldn't worry about it, either.  People are not going to remember and every bride wears each gown differently.  As long as you still love your dress, you are golden.

Lindze75

You're not crazy for freaking - I would freak out too!  BUT I would get talked down and realize that no one but you (and her if she attends your wedding) will notice.  Truly the dress will look different on the two of you and the location/veil/accessories will all also create a vibe that is different.  Try not to think about it and the freak out feeling will subside.  I felt this way about a family member getting married right after me having an almost identical ring but whatever.  I love my ring, I know I got it first so that's all that matters to me.

csnyc727

Don't worry about it girlie. I actually know some people that have borrowed their friend's gowns for their own wedding even though they have the same guests. It's no big deal. If anything, it must be a beautiful gown if you both picked it. But, don't let the fact that your friend had it too ruin your "this is it" moment with the gown.

Calypso1977

this is seriously not a big deal.  then again, i never understood why girls flipped out if they went to prom and someone was wearing hte same dress.  its a dress.  a costume, really.  it has nothing to do with your vows or your marriage.

jrus_1999

Honestly, the same thing happened to me.  I bought my dress very early on in the planning and when it finally came in and I tried it on I had doubts.  I put it away hoping I would fall back in love with it when the time came but while trolling on FB I noticed two girls wearing the same dress that I had.  I know it sounds silly but it really bothered me because some of my family members were at these weddings and my dress, I feel, is very recognizable.  I felt like whether they admitted it or not they would compare me to the other brides.  I happened to find another dress that I loved while shopping with my BM's for their dresses and it is actually cheaper then the first.  It's an older style and I am adding a brooch to make it completely mine.  I'm not a diva and I am not made of money but when it came down to it I really wanted to feel special on my wedding day.  I spent the weekend imagining walking down the asile, dancing and photographs and that's when I knew the the second dress was the one.  Even the woman at the dress shop where I bought dress #2 told me that no one remembers the brides dress but I will.  My advice is to go with your heart and what makes you feel good. 

mizu22

if you love your dress, keep it. it doesn't matter if she wore it, or what people might think. all  that matters is how you feel in it and if this is the dress you want to get married in.

hillaryeggert

Wow.  Seriously, no one will notice.  It's extremely unlikely people will remember any specific details from your wedding - flowers, music, your dress, whatever.  I knew that going in to my wedding and, seriously, it helped me put things into perspective.  It's two years away - I don't think you'll even remember someone else wore your dress.Is the bigger issue that you've had the dress for 2 1/2 years and are afraid you won't still like it in another 2?  Because really, I must admit I'm curious how an engagement can go on for 5 years (barring a huge chain of heartbreaking events, which of course I hope is not your case).  I would have gone with my now-hubby to the courthouse long before waiting 5 years to marry him...

tarabelle16

When is the wedding??? I know alot of people keep saying you have 2 years to go but no where in your post does it say you have 2 more years to go, it says you have had the dress for 2 and a half. I am not sure what you should do other than do what you think is best. That is a detail that would bother me big time, if you got a new dress and sold the one you have, i would totally understand the reasoning. If you keep the dress I dont think anyone will peg you a copycat either. toughie

Ferdy2584

This might not be the nicest thing to say (and I'm sorry if it hurts your feelings) but there are a GREAT many other SERIOUS things in this world then whether somone else has/had the supposed "your dress" as "their dress". Really--it's an EFFIN dress----let it go.

nona49

If you didn't spend a ton of money on the dress, honestly, I would buy a new dress.

ryanres1

I wasn't going to contribute to this post, but I feel strongly that you should forget about your friend's dress and WORK IT in your dress!  There will always be someone else with your dress, true you know many of "your people" saw her in the same dress, which is why you need to just bring it so much better than she did.  ; ) IF anyone notices then they'll be talking about how much better it looked on you!

AmyLaurel89

the question i would ask myself is "will this ruin my day?" if you don't feel 100% confident and beautiful in your dress, don't wear it.it WOULD ruin my day to feel like a  copy cat HOWEVER I would justify it a million ways. like I styled it different so its not the same and I'm not the same as my friend. so I'm not a copy cat.  WEAR IT GIRL!

ATruesdell

That kind of does suck....but honestly, the dress will look like a different one because it's on you. The dress looks different on different people....I am sure you and the girl that got the same dress have different body types...or even if they are similar, your skin have different complexions. It will look great...you will look great! The gap in time too will help...I am sure one one will notice!

cnicky2000

You may have grown attached to the dress since you have had it for so long. Honestly if any of the people will be attending your wedding there are going to notice. What I would suggest is try to get something added to your dress ( that will make it look different) i.e added beadings, a band something. 

dsouldiva

I have been to A LOT of weddings in the last 2 years and I actually only remember one dress, it was the only one that wasn't a white/off white/cream corseted dress that looked like every other wedding dress I've ever seen. So unless the dress is completely out there in the style stakes, no one is going to notice.