Help! 50+ year old veil advice....

AC0717

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FutureMrsAugusta

I actually just saw a really Awesome thing on this website... If your Fiance's mother still has her wedding dress, and your mother still has hers, You guys could purchase, or rent some Dress Maniquins and Put your mothers Wedding Dresses and Veils on Display in the Entrance, near your Guest Book Table, with a Wedding Photo of the respective parents. Kind of a way to incorporate the "Heritage" of your familial weddings. If you'd like that sort of thing. That way, you can incorporate the MOG and MOB into your wedding in more ways than just being escorted down the aisle and/or lighting a unity Candle.

budgetmama

Sweet gesture - if you have a really good seamstress, you could have them cut the lace and make hankies for you and your MIL/grandma and have them monogrammed with everyone's wedding date. You could use some of the lace on a garter, or even use some of the lace to trim a bridal clutch. For your FI, what about having a suit hankie made for him and use a tiny bit of the lace on it so it's not so feminine and his name monogrammed on it. Again, sweet gesture and really nice that she said it's ok to do with it what you want.

AC0717

Thank you so much for your advice. Oddly enough my mom just tossed her wedding dress the other week, it was gross and yellow and hadn't been preserved well at all. I had thought about taking the lace and having it made into a garter (I'd make a hanky but I already have one that is made from my grandma's dress). I just feel bad cutting it, though I guess I just have to keep in mind that she said I could. I think if I get it professionally done, and just don't start hacking away as a DIY project it will work out just fine. Thanks again. This was my first time posting....so it was nice to actually get some feedback!

mbcdefg

Another idea, if you really don't want to cut it - wear it for a couple formal pics at some point in the day, then frame a nice print and give it to your FMIL with a nice note about her generosity and how happy you are to become part of her family. The photographer could try to take your dress more out of focus, or use post-production effects, so that it's not obvious that it doesn't match your dress.

gailpete

I like PP's idea.  Then you would still have the veil in one piece and could later have it incorporated into a christening gown for her first grandchild.

AC0717

Oh I love that idea! I think that could totally work taking a cool photo with it with my dress more out of focus. That would be a really nice. You all are wonderful! Thank you.