Do I really need two rings?

smalltown87

I'm not that big into jewelry, especially rings, but my fiance and I went shopping for an engagement ring together and I love it.

Do I really need a second "wedding" ring?  I would be perfectly content for the engagement ring to be my only ring, and could take it off ahead of time for the traditional exchange of rings during the ceremony.

Is there any reason why I should ask my fiance to buy a second ring when I don't want one?

lanyemichelle

No, when my mom got married to her second husband she only had an engagement ring with no wedding band. If you don't want it, don't buy it. However, everyone will most likely assume that you are engaged and not married if you have no wedding band.

What about wedding bands do you not like? If it's just the cost that's understandable, but there are so many different styles of wedding bands available that you should be able to find anything you want.

smalltown87

I'm just don't wear jewelry.  I've only owned a few pieces in my entire life, and barely wear them.  I'm perfectly happy to wear the one ring, but two just seems a bit much and I really only want the one.  It isn't part of a set, so I think it would be hard to pair it with another ring, too.

Is there that much difference between a wedding and engagement ring that anyone would know the difference?

fairy_diva

Get a simple wrap, that way you still only have "1" ring since the band will wrap around and hold the e-ring inside it.

HEATHERM10

yes I think there is enough difference between a wedding ring and an E ring. what does your ering look like?  Can just a simple slim band be next to it?  have them sautered (sp) and then it will feel like one.

mysticl

Usually an e-ring has either just a single diamond or one in the center that is larger than all rest while a wedding band has a lower profile and either has no stones or a several that are the same size and shape. 

My mom is remarried and didn't get an e-ring this time around, she just wears a wedding band.

aerinpegadrak

Usually engagement rings will have a larger center stone, while a wedding band tends to be more uniform all the way around.  So if your e-ring looks like a regular e-ring, yes, people will assume you're only engaged.

If you're not okay with strangers asking "When's the wedding?" for years afterward (and yes, it happens), you can always get a very slim band and get it soldered under the e-ring.  That way you're still only putting on and taking off a single piece, but it proclaims to the world that you're married.

ogrady88

I could ask one of my BMs, she only has one ring, I don't think she gets asked that often so I don't think it is that big of a deal, they've been married for 5 years.  Her setting is a wide gold band with a center stone.  She just didn't find anything that looked good with her e-ring.  She took it off for the wedding, no one noticed that she wasn't wearing her ring when she walked down the aisle.

smalltown87

My e-ring is pretty low-profile.  It has several small stones set into the top of a thin white-gold band.  Similar to this one.  I tend to steer away from rings that just have one giant stone on them.

Knittibell

I think it's perfectly fine! Try a few on, though- just to see if you still feel that way!

gottahavashorti

It's the norm but not necessary.  I think SIL only has one ring.  I considered not getting a wedding band, but my finger size changes a ton between summer and winter to the point that I can nearly shake off my e-ring.  I didn't resize my e-ring so that it will fit in the summer and got a wedding band 0.75 sizes smaller so that it will fit in the winter. The plan was to wear the e-ring alone in summer, wedding band alone in winter, and both during the spring and fall but so far both bands have fit all summer.

dizzinea

i'm just using my e ring as my only ring because my finger is tiny

dittmerbullard2010

I am only having my e-ring. It is special to us and it's enough of a wedding ring for me.

nnoble4

I think it is important to have the wedding band, it represents something completely different.  The symbolism of the wedding band, to me, is very important. 

My sis' e-ring was a stunner, like, you don't want to put anything else near it because it couldn't compete.  She is a big antique fan and would randomly go to pawn shops and antique shops.  She found a simple, old wedding band.  She was in love, and that was her wedding band.  She does not wear them together, she wears them on different hands.  But, for her wedding day, she exchanged the wedding band. That's another thought. 

If you are dead set against having a wedding band...think about whether you think you will be in 30 years.  The wedding band is yours, forever.  You don't want to look back and wish you had done it. 

GL.

queendirectory

I'm just having one ring.  It basically looks like an engagement ring because of its center stone, but I'm calling it my wedding ring, and not wearing it until the wedding.  The way the band is shaped, there's really no way to pair it with another ring, and I didn't want two rings.  I don't care if people ask, "When's the wedding," after we're married, but I don't see that happening much.  My sister just has one ring and no one has ever asked her that, as far as I know.  I think it's quite common now for people to have one ring or no ring for that matter.

Meagan78

You should do what makes you happy! 

Sapphire1002

As PP said, do what makes you happy and you are not required to wear a band.  If you do change your mind, have you thought of sautering a thin band together with your e-ring? That way it will be one ring

kfrisbee

I am getting two rings.  My ring has one larger stone with stones along side it in a two strand twisting style.  Because i don't want to worry about my ring getting cause on something or diamonds coming loose we are just getting a plain simple band that i can wear with it or i can just wear it without the e-ring when i am doing more physical, i like to be active swimming, biking, hiking etc.

Angy&Paul

No, there's no reason to purchase another ring if you only want the one you have now.  The best advice I can give is that it's your ring, so do what you want.  Besides, tons of people keep their engagement ring as their wedding ring (and yes, they just take it off before the ceremony then it goes right back on).

As for me, my jeweler has a trade-in program so a couple weeks before the wedding we're trading in my diamond band engagement ring for my 3-stone wedding ring, so ultimately I'll only have one ring on my finger as well.  Whether or not the style or the lack of another ring will stump people in terms of my marital status is of no significance to me.

marlina10

I am not getting a wedding band. My e-ring is a beautiful, vintage style three-stone ring with pave diamonds bordering each stone so it doesn't look like a plain e-ring. I think a wedding band would take away from the e-ring and it's so sparkly that I don't feel the need for another band. Plus, I have short fingers and I think adding another band would make my finger look stubby.

Kreskin79

I think you should do whatever makes you comfortable, certainly.  That said, here's an anecdote:

My closest girlfriend decided against wearing a seperate wedding ring.  She went unconventional all the way - hers is white gold ring with channel-set blue sapphires. It's a lovely ring, and she doesn't get any inquiries (either way) as to her marital status.