The Groom... and the Dress

padburcd

I'm trying to decide whether I want my fiance to see my dress and I'm torn. I do like the idea of surprising him, but maybe our wedding day isn't the day for surprises! Also, I think seeing me in a dress on an average day vs on our wedding day, will be very different. I would like his opinion on dresses, because he is the most important person for me to look beautiful for that day.

Just a note, we've looked at dresses together online (I've decided to get my dress from David's Bridal) and he will be accompanying my mother and I to the store (at my request). He's offered to leave before I actually decide if I'd like. I'm also considering some of the online styles. Either way, he'll have SEEN the dress either online, on me or both.

If I do order an online style, should I show him the dress when it arrives?

His position: He'd like to see the dress to see if he likes it. He doesn't think seeing the dress for the first time as I walk down the aisle will make the moment any more special than it already is.

I'm not worried about bad luck - I don't believe in it.

Opinions? Thanks

chelley599

If you are comfortable with it, then go for it.  If my FI wanted to go, I would let him.  I just wouldn't want to fall in love with a dress and have him veto it. 

padburcd

Thanks! He DEFINATELY does not have a veto!

veganbunny

My fiancé went with me to pick out my dress twice.  He liked the dress I ordered first better, but when I went back to try it on it didn't fit right, so I ordered a different one.  Either way, he saw me in my dress.  BUT my hair wasn't done or anything so I will still look way better on wedding day so it will still be nice when we see each other.  We are seeing each other before ceremony to get our best friends and immediate family pics out of the way before ceremony. I think we are walking down the isle together too

Cass987

My FI got a LOT of input into my dress. Heck, he's my best friend - I don't have girl friends (most of my friends are guys) and his opinon is the only one who matters to me anyhow.

I did the whole camera pics and emailed them to him with options. like PP said - mine  doesnt like revealing or mermaid or stuff that clings to your hips or butt- but they do like ones that hug your waist and show off your figure!

After I found "the dress" I swear my FI was more excited about everything! - the wedding and especially the dress. he has started to bounce against the walls the past week or two with the "I can't wait to see you all finished and dressed up in the castle - my little princess!!!!!!!!!!" I respond with the huge saucer eyes look at him wondering are you kidding me? OMG he's an alien with three heads!

mb2712

I think that if you are comfortable with it, go for it.  Only you are going to be able to decide whether it's "right" or "wrong" in your case.

curlybridehappy

I wouldn't want this. Whilst it's not a day for serious surprises, this isn't a big surprise. At the end of the day it's a whit(ish) dress. There aren't going to be other days on which you can get totally made up without your husband seeing it in progress. If you want him to see it's up to you, but I think it's romantic that he won't have an image in his mind already!

My FI knows the dress is slim fitting and lace, but he hasn't seen it - he waited in a cafe whilst i had fittings and didn't want to see - not that I'd have let him!

rlynn007

We are waiting until the wedding for him to see the dress.  I wouldn't want him to see the dress unless it was perfect (hair, makeup, tied up right) so he dosen't get to until the doors open and I start walking down the aisle.