Mother of the Bride colors

mstar284

My bridesmaids will be wearing deep red dresses. What would be a good color for the mother of the bride/groom to wear to avoid clashing with the bridesmaids? I can't think of any colors that would go with red well. Black would go well, but black for a mother at a wedding...I'm not too sure.

psichick

a good color for them to wear would be whatever they like. you do not get to dictate their clothing. they will not clash, your pictures will not be ruined, even if they show up in hot pink. it's not up to you. they're adults and can dress themselves. 

mstar284

Well, since this is my first wedding, clearly I do not understand how things work. Since my mom was the one who asked I thought I would get the advice of the kind and gracious brides here.

aerinpegadrak

Tell your mom to wear whatever she wants.  If she really wants some direction, perhaps you can go shopping together.

opalsky007

Psichick can be a little blunt, but she's right that whatever your mother picks out will be fine. She won't be in a ton of photos with your wedding party, and even if she was, there aren't that many colors that clash horribly with dark red.

I'm of the opinion that it's nearly impossible for colors to clash when they're being worn by different people anyway.

futurepivko

my sister did a red/black/white wedding black in april 2008, and my mom wore a deep purple dress. it looked great and she looked good the color and felt good about herself!

i think its more important for your mom to pick a color that flatters HER...not based on the bridesmaids. She wanted a dress that flattered you right?

jagore08

Blue, yellow, black, brown, pink, red, champagne, green....

futurepivko

uhhhhhhhhhhhh.............no I wouldnt do red if the BMs are...thats where you draw the line!

jagore08

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[QUOTE]uhhhhhhhhhhhh.............no I wouldnt do red if the BMs are...thats where you draw the line!
Posted by futurepivko[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>It's not that big of a deal.  My mother wore green and my BM were also in green.  It's what she wanted and she knew my BM colors.  It's not anyone's place to tell someone (other than your BM) what color to wear... unless it's white.  That's where you should draw the line.</div>

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mother of the Bride colors : It's not that big of a deal.  My mother wore green and my BM were also in green.  It's what she wanted and she knew my BM colors.  It's not anyone's place to tell someone (other than your BM) what color to wear... unless it's white.  That's where you should draw the line.
Posted by jagore08[/QUOTE]

Agreed. My MIL wore brugundy even though the bridesmaids were too. She looked great, and it wasn't a problem at all.

psichick

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[QUOTE]Well, since this is my first wedding, clearly I do not understand how things work. Since my mom was the one who asked I thought I would get the advice of the kind and gracious brides here.
Posted by mstar284[/QUOTE]

<div>it's most of our first weddings, that has nothing to do with it. you really should take some advice and lurk for a while. this question gets asked at least once a day. </div>

Muffin'sMom

Most Mom's really want to look appropriate...I promise.  I have 1300 wedding pictures from my daughters wedding...and there is not a single one with me and the entire bridal party! 

My daughter said I could wear whatever made me feel beautiful.  I didn't want to clash...so when she picked green dresses for the ladies, I decided to stay away from that because green can be tricky.  She also picked out flowers in fall colors...but yellows/golds/burnt oranges don't look good on me AT ALL  My grandmother would have rolled in her grave if I had worn balck, and that kind of training dies hard 

 So, I decided to go with chocolate brown and found a dress with a scattering of crystals that sparkled orange/gold red.  It looked great on me and didn't stick out with the theme. 

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mother of the Bride colors : it's most of our first weddings, that has nothing to do with it. you really should take some advice and lurk for a while. this question gets asked at least once a day. 
Posted by psichick[/QUOTE]

Chill, psi. Nearly every question on this board gets asked multiple times per day.

mstar284

To everyone:

Thanks for the advice. I am new to the forum, but belong to many others. Yes, I know it can be VERY annoying when the same questions get asked repetitively. So, I should have "lurked" a bit first; however, I am kind of impatient. I also know many others that can be blunt in their responses. They love a chance to jump a newbie. But, in the end, regardless of how they are perceived, they are usually right. I agree that my mom should be able to wear whatever she wants, I just wanted to know what everyone else thought. So thanks! I am looking forward to going shopping with her because she always needs my opinion about everything.

fairy_diva

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[QUOTE]To everyone: Thanks for the advice. I am new to the forum, but belong to many others. Yes, I know it can be VERY annoying when the same questions get asked repetitively. So, I should have "lurked" a bit first; however, I am kind of impatient. I also know many others that can be blunt in their responses. They love a chance to jump a newbie. But, in the end, regardless of how they are perceived, they are usually right. I agree that my mom should be able to wear whatever she wants, I just wanted to know what everyone else thought. So thanks! I am looking forward to going shopping with her because she always needs my opinion about everything.
Posted by mstar284[/QUOTE]

Don't worry about your question. While I agree you should let your mom choose what she wants to wear, I also can attest to the fact that a lot of people still think the MOB has to dress in the wedding colors. :)   My mom wanted to know if I wanted her to wear Navy, again another tradition, I said if you want, but just get what you like & looks good. No, grief ladies, just a simple statement.  As a matter of fact, most people couldn't believe I let my girls choose their own dresses, other than color and designer.  My SIL, was all freaked out about it.  Things have changed over the years pertaining to weddings but a lot of people still follow some old traditions.

Lets see a list of stuff in my wedding that has made people go WHAT?

1.  My dress has navy blue on it, not solid white
2.  My shoes are navy blue, I love them, but again different from the "normal" here
3.  My colors are Navy & White and my groom will be wearing a camo tux & tie
4.  I'm doing a guest book & Well Wishes Jar, huh? what's that?
5.  My BMs don't "match", well 3 choose the same dress, 1 is different
6.  Same BM's drove me nuts about shoes until I gave them a color! Silver, I said and get what you find comfortable.
7.  I bought my wedding party flowers online! Holy Crap what if they are ugly?, LOL, do know how many ugly bouquets I've seen made local?

I'm sure I could go on if I just thought about it. LOL. I might read the first 2 pages of a board but since the Knot search feature sucks I would ask it and not keep combing through the posts. Esp when the Attire board alone has 13 For Sale posts on the first page.  Welcome, happy planning and ask anything you want.

 

beamer84

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mother of the Bride colors : It's not that big of a deal.  My mother wore green and my BM were also in green.  It's what she wanted and she knew my BM colors.  It's not anyone's place to tell someone (other than your BM) what color to wear... unless it's white.  That's where you should draw the line.
Posted by jagore08[/QUOTE]

What's wrong with the MOB (or MOG) wearing white? Trust me - no one will mistake them for the bride.

laura_fett

I know how you feel, I don't my mom that she could wear any color she wanted. She really loves blue, so I said "why not wear blue" but she felt that she had to stay within our color scheme. Our colors are not red, chocolate brown, gold, and cream. The BM's dresses are brown, so she decided to wear a dark red color. Think about what other colors your doing if she feels the need to coordinate. At FI's cousin's wedding, both Mother's wore black, and they looked very elegant. Make it clear that she can wear whatever (I know you said you already did), but just help her with what she wants, since she feels it's necessary to match, help her out.

tiff&matt2011

My mom asked me the same question. I told her whatever she likes and we plan to go dress shopping for her dress together as well as mine so I'll be there to help her pick something out anyway.... we often go shopping together and she asks for my input so this is nothing different really. I'd suggest doing this and shop for it together, that way she can find something she likes, as well as get your approval if that's what she's looking for.