So I am in need of some serious advice and getting down to crunch time and need to make some decisions. I have 4 Bridesmaids….. 2 who I grew up with ( R and D). To make things easier to follow I will name each with a letter. So my bridesmaid R has had a rough couple of years and D and I learned around Christmas time that she had a problem taking prescription pills and was seeking help. D and I thought things had finally turned around after she returned from Rehab but learned about 4 weeks ago that that was not the case and she was entered into a much more serious program half way across the country. Other then the contact D has had with R’s mom (they live down the street from each other where I am now 4 states away)…. There has been no communication.
So here is my dilemma, I have several non refundable payments and information deadlines due this weekend. R’s mother told D that she was going to get in touch with me over two weeks ago as she felt it was probably not in R’s best interest to be as involved with the wedding. Which I totally understand and support. R’s mother is the only who has been allowed contact with her and said she was going to speak to her about the situation, as she knew with my wedding just a few weeks away that I would have to have some answers before she would likely be released. However, I have not heard from her mother and D is on vacation out of the country for a few weeks, so I cant even have her poke for me.
I have tried to get a hold of R’s fiancé and get her mother’s phone number but have come up empty. I would never ever ask someone to not be a part of my wedding after I had asked them. I obviously asked them for a reason and the thought makes me sick. But in saying that, I really dont know if my friend is going to be able to be a part of my wedding (for more reasons than not being able to physically attend), but given the time line I don’t really know how to proceed?
Do I assume she is going to be there and proceed as I am not aware of the situation or do I have to make the tough call of admitting I need to plan without her and deal with the repercussions of telling when I have the opportunity to speak with her. I adore my girlfriend and really all that maters at the end of the day is that she gets better.
I cant tell you how much I will appreciate some advice on this!