Having dress doubts...anyone else??

amtroyer

I went dress shopping, found my dress, had "The One" feelings for the dress.  I decided I would shop around for it at a couple of other bridal stores to see if I could get a better price.  When I tried it on a second time, I still loved it, but I didnt get the butterflies-in-my-stomach excited feelings.  I started fresh and went dress shopping again, and never had any excited feelings for any other dress.  So I ordered the original dress, and now I am doubting myself over and over again!  Did anyone/does anyone else have these doubts??  Also, this dress is the opposite of what I've always pictured myself in, so I don't know if that's why I'm having doubts???

liacin

I went through the exact same scenario.  I had these images of myself in my wedding dress, the big poofy princess-type dress.. But when I went into try on dresses this style was not at ALL flattering on me.

I ended up with an empire-waist gown which wasn't what I had pictured.  However, when I tried it on the first time I got that same feeling that you had where I thought that this is "the one."

I bought it and had the same doubts.. what if it's the wrong one?! Kind of thing.

I think that because weddings are so much about appearances, and because picking a wedding dress is such an important thing for a woman, you are going to have doubts no matter WHAT dress you bought.

I think that you should stick with your instincts and realize that when you first tried it on, that is how you really feel about the dress.  Any other doubts are just nerves!

Relax - I'm sure it's beautiful!

JulieNFlo

I know what you are going through...I went in purchased the PERFECT dress.  At least  thought it was...when I first tried it on it made my mother cry and everything so I thought it was the one.

When it finally came in and I had to try it on again before I made my final payment I was really iffy about it.  But I thought oh well its my hair and I dont have make up on...It will be fine.  I blammed everything but the fact that I did not like it at all!

2 weeks later I could not sleep I could not eat...this dress was driving me NUTS!  So I went into another store and found another dress that I LOVED...well that dress has not gotten here yet and it wont be here til right before the wedding which might be a good thing.

So now I have a $1800 dress just sitting in my Mom's closet wondering where it's new home will be?

GL! 

amtroyer

Thanks....Hopefully when it finally gets here, I will love it again, and not have all my doubts confirmed.  The dress is paid for and buying another is not financially an option, so hopefully it is just my nerves.  JulieNFlo, I hope you love your second dress and everythign is perfect when it gets here!!!

mandybear7

Stop looking at dresses. There are tons of beautiful dresses out there and you just can't keep second guessing yourself. You chose that dress for a reason and I think there is too much pressure and focus in the wedding industry on "the dress." Also, tons of brides end up with dresses that are completely different from what they originally envisioned- totally normal, actually.

nosaj

I'm going through the same thing right now and I wonder if I'll ever feel totally confident since my feelings change from one day to the next. So I don't really have any advice but totally relate to what you're going through. I've since not let myself continue to look at dresses as I'm certain it will just confuse me even more.

Diana_LN

I'm going through the same thing! I went on Saturday with my mom and tried on what felt like a million dresses and found one that I really loved. I just didn't have this over the top emotional response so I wasn't sure if it was "the one." I even went back and tried it on again. And this past weekend it was part of a trunk show and I would have gotten a special discount (which they extended until today) but I decided to pass and now I'm not sure if I made the right decision. I feel like the wedding is so far away (in June of 2011) that I should keep looking but I know that I love the dress and I just don't know what to do.

nicole153

Me too! My wedding is this June and I just had my alterations done and took home my dress. I never had the "this is the one" feeling, but my mom cried when she saw me in it and it had everything I thought I wanted in a dress so I went for it. But I don't step into it and feel like the most beautiful bride and I am not sure if it's just me being the perfectionist that I am or if I really chose the wrong dress. Either way, my mom said if I wasn't happy she would help me purchase another one but I don't think I could possibly even ask her for that. I am sure its just me being silly and almost all wedding gowns are gorgeous. I am looking through a lot of bridal magazines wondering what if...anyway...glad we are not alone and we need to focus on our love and the whole day. We will look beautiful because we will be glowing marrying the man of our dreams. Hope this helps.