Ring for Him

queserasera84

Maybe this is a silly question, but I was planning to have FI help me pick out his ring. He doesn't normally wear jewelry, and I really want to make sure he's happy with his ring. Is it "normal" or tradition for the groom to help pick out his own ring, or should I get ideas from him and purchase it as a surprise?

jaimelody

DH picked out his ring and I bought it. If I would have chosen for him, I would have picked s0mething completely different so I'm glad he picked. I do not think it is something that is traditionally a surprise.

t.kaufman

We went to the store so he could try on lots of different rings, found one he liked and we bought it. Our money is already joined.

megk8oz

He picked out his wedding band, I picked out mine. Obviously, we went shopping together for them, but I don't have to wear his ring every day "for as long as we both shall live", he does. Why wouldn't he have a say in something like that?

vegasgroom

I knew enough about what fiancee wanted in an engagement ring to get the right one there, but for wedding rings we're both picking out our own and we'll both know what the other is getting; she definitely would not have guessed what kind of wedding band I wanted so probably a good thing that he helps or tells you exactly what he wants.

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H picked out his ring and I picked out mine. Yes, we asked each for suggestions, but in the end, it was the ring he wanted. I look at it this way - it is the ring your soon to be husband will wear for the rest of his life so he might as well be happy with it. It is perfectly ok to do this together.

girl2bewed

Same here.. I picked out mine and he picked out his. You want to make sure he loves the ring he has to wear every day for the rest of his life and vice versa.

kelly&wayne

My FI and I went shopping to pick out his last weekend.  I'm so glad he decided on his ring.  It's not what I would have chosen but it's gorgeous and he's thrilled with it, which is what's most important to me.  He's going to wear it every day for the rest of our lives, I want him to love it.

aerinpegadrak

We went shopping together.  He picked out his ring, I ended up designing mine because I couldn't find anything I liked that went with his.  We paid for each others', though.  No particular reason, that's just how we did it.

embracejoy

He has to wear it every day for the rest of his life... why shouldn't he be able to pick it out?  We're going to be wearing matching wedding bands, so it took us a while to find something that we both loved.  But it was very important that the style was pleasing to BOTH of us, not just one forcing it on the other.

luckyme502

I picked out mine and he picked out his.  This was we knew we liked what we got. 

vegasgroom

I tried on my future wedding ring today.  I found this one online that I liked, made from tungsten with a carbon fiber bit that goes around the middle.  FI and I were at the mall today and she said lets go see if the jewelry store has that ring you like, I'm thinking no way since I figured it was a bit unusual, well apparently not, three different stores at the mall had it and it's like $150; I said if only your rings were $150.... LOL  Felt weird to have a ring on my finger.

queserasera84

Thanks everyone! I talked with him about it, and he said he wants to pick it out. We're heading to the mall today for a first round of looking. I'll buy his ring for him.

stephdonjon

I can't imagine buying his ring for him. While we have similiar taste, I'd want to make sure the ring he'll be wearing everday for the rest of his life is something he loves. He sends me links to rings he sees online and we've gone shopping together a few times because he wants my opinion, but at the end of the day, he's the one wearing it so it.