How to convince bride-to-be to not acompany during suit fitting?

LanceTheGroom

I'll give the short rundown of it.  We have all the colors picked out for the wedding, her dress, and my suit.  However she wants to come with me to see the suit as I pick it out and try it on to see how it looks.  We're doing a first look thing right before the ceremony and I want her to be as surprised as I will be when we see each other fully dressed for the first time in our wedding outfits.  I know what styles fit my body-type best and also my personal tastes because they are my personal tastes.

Has anyone else gone with the groom, or had their bride come along, during the suit fitting?

QueerFemme

I agree with Duds. Just tell her that you want her to be surprised, so you'd rather go shopping without her.

gabriel0915

I completely trusted my fiance to pick out his own attire. In the end, I went with him but only because all his GM live out of town and he didn't have anyone to go with him. He picked everything (with a little nudging. He's very slim so I convinced him to look at a slim suit which he now loves) and he looks great. She should have enough faith that you'll make the right choices.

Ividian

My FI wants to go alone to get his suit and I'm totally OK with it. He'll find something he looks great in and that's all I care about. I think if you explain it to her she'll understand.

Summer2011Bride

H wanted my input, so I went along to do the tux thing. If you don't want her there, just explain you'd like to surprise her on the wedding day, just as she wants to surprise you with her dress.

rooney2012

Agree with PP. A word of advice: Bring someone. I went with FI to browse and the salesman was giving him false info just to get him to buy a suit. He told FI that suits are supposed to be loose (think MCHammer) and that you should never have a suit altered. FI is slim with broad shoulders and off-the-rack just made him look rectangular, including slimfit. You could fit two of his arms in one sleeve, but the saleman said, "That's just the way suits are going to fit you." So I say bring a 2nd set of ears.

Lisa50

There was no way I'd go along with H when he went for his fitting.  I had 100% confidence in his ability to choose his wardrobe. Neither of us wanted a sneak peak at the other's attire.

I went with my son (18 yrs old), who was my best man, but that's the role of a mom.  Is there a way you can gently tell her you're grown up and can take care of business on your own??

Good luck!

mizutamababy

I went with H but then again he wanted me to come with him.  At the same time, if he had wanted to buy his stuff on his own I would have respected that.

I think you should just let her know honestly... or if she is still unsure, perhaps bring a GM of yours.  Echoing PPs that sometimes the salespeople there have no idea what they're doing and will take advantage.

LanceTheGroom

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[QUOTE]Agree with PP. A word of advice: Bring someone. I went with FI to browse and the salesman was giving him false info just to get him to buy a suit. He told FI that suits are supposed to be loose (think MCHammer) and that you should never have a suit altered. FI is slim with broad shoulders and off-the-rack just made him look rectangular, including slimfit. You could fit two of his arms in one sleeve, but the saleman said, "That's just the way suits are going to fit you." So I say bring a 2nd set of ears.
Posted by rooney2012[/QUOTE]

That was my plan to bring a second set of ears, as I was going to bring along my best man or another groomsmen that is one of my best friends who also knows a lot about suits and styles. 

So I think I will take someone along, I just want it to be someone from my side of the party.

LanceTheGroom

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[QUOTE]I went with H but then again he wanted me to come with him.  At the same time, if he had wanted to buy his stuff on his own I would have respected that. I think you should just let her know honestly... or if she is still unsure, perhaps bring a GM of yours.  Echoing PPs that sometimes the salespeople there have no idea what they're doing and will take advantage.
Posted by mizutamababy[/QUOTE]

I totally agree.  I never listen to salesman until it's time to talk price and negotiate.  Now, if that salesman was the actual taylor, that would be a different story.  The one shop I'm thinking of going to, the man has been doing it for 40 years and does most of the tayloring, and if he doesn't do it one of his sons or his nephew does it.  So those guys I would trust. 

Peledreamsofrain

I would depend on the bride, wether or not this would be something worth really pushing for, to be honest.  Some people don't like big suprises or suspense.  If she REALLY wants to be there, and it would cause stress than positive outcome than you are looking for, you might want to see if there is another way you can surprise her  Perhaps a cute undergarment that you can privately surprise her with, or an accessory to add to the tux.

On the other hand, you could meet her halfway.  Consult with her on general styles she likes.  Get input on things she absolutely would love you to consider.  Or even let her come along to pick out the tux on the manaquin at the store, but don't let her come with you to your first fitting. That way she was a part of of the process, but you still get the special moment of having never seen you in the suit.

lumilumi

My fiance said from the very beginning that if he doesn't get to see my dress, then I don't get to see his suit.  I think it's only fair.  Who doesn't like surprises afterall? 

rooney2012

I just thought of one more thing... since you seem to be a fun groom
My FI wants to have 2 diff looks. He's planning on switching his neckware. Something traditional for the ceremony and something a bit more fun for the reception. His GM are all in on it too. I'm excited for him to shine on our day too. And it will be a nice surprise for me!