BM jewelry: to match or not to match?

NillaWafer10

I have 5 bridesmaids in addition to my maid of honor.  I was thinking about buying their jewelry for the dresses, but I'm not sure if they should match or coordinate, or if I should just let them pick out whatever.  I need your wonderful advice

NillaWafer10

Here's what the dresses look like



http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3076462/0~2376776~2374327~6005464~6005511~6005548?P=1

aerinpegadrak

Let them all pick their own.  Jewelry is such a tiny detail that no guest will ever notice, and it will barely even read in pictures.  Do you remember what jewelry the bridesmaids had in any of the weddings you've attended?

If you want it to coordinate, you can give some very basic guidelines (silver, gold, pearl) and let them go for it.  But personally, I think that even verges on micromanagement.  I haven't given any thought to what jewerly my bridesmaids are wearing.

COnoviaSarah

NillaWafer--our BM dresses are VERY similar.  They ordered JCrew dresses in a similar style and color.    I've been wondering about jewelry, too.  I voted for "unique" but go back and forth between this and "coordinating."  What are you other colors  (mine are peach and clover green).

KappaUCF20

"I think that even verges on micromanagement."

This!  Let them choose their own jewelry.  It's not important and no one else will notice what they're wearing.  Save yourself the headache .

NillaWafer10

Sarah! How funny about the dresses! My other colors are a similar shade of blue and yellow.  I'm getting married on a lake front, so it's kind of nautical themed.  I loved how versatile this dress is, and how it doesn't look like a BM dress!  I love the look of the big silver ball earings and this ring from forever 21.  I think I might just buy it for myself for the RD, since the general consensus is to let them pick out their jewelry   I think silver or pearls would definitely make this dress pop!  I think the girls want to wear matching silver shoes.  What have you been thinking?

COnoviaSarah

NillaWafer--I LOVE both of those!  Are you trying to change my mind so that I buy matching jewelry for my BMs?!?!    The earrings especially are classic enough that they would make a great gift for the girls, and if they "want" to wear it for the wedding they could.  We're also going with the silver shoes/jewelry route.  

cukimerrydoll

I went with "All coordinate, but don't match."

For my BMs, I got them all the same necklace, and it is the only thing they will wear that is exactly the same - they are having their own style dresses and black shoes of their choice.

I'm getting all of them another piece of jewelry - earrings for the BMs that are all individual to them and coordinate with the neckalces, and I'm getting a bracelet for my sister/MOH since she doesn't wear earrings.

HEATHERM10

I have  bought my BM theirs but its jewelry they can wear again.   Not to fancy.   I was in a wedding that Bride bought us all expensive jewlery and I never have worn it again and I was in one wear we all did our own thing there were all types of jewelry and no one even noticed.  It let us all be individuals.  You could always ask them what they want .

MrsS8998

Another vote for unique! Letting them pick them out will make it more likely that they choose something they will be able to wear again.

NillaWafer10

Sarah, you will definitely have to let me know if you find any good shoes or jewelry that I can recommend to my girls! Thanks so much for all of the great advice!

linzcw04

I'm having a jeweler make my BM earrings...they are simple, purple jeweled dangle earrings. They will be part of thier gift along with their shoes. My MOH will have a slightly different variation but I figured why not?!? That way they don't have to worry about it and the style is something they will be able to wear with anything.

lilyrose2010

Lots of brides choose to give matching jewelry as their gifts to the bridesmaids, but there's no reason you can't mix it up.  Picking out unique jewelry for each girl might even be more meaningful to them.  Allowing them to choose their own is a great idea, but think about the jewelry that they are likely to choose.  If you have a BM who tends to wear clunky, flashy necklaces, be aware that she may likely pick something similar for your wedding day.  Giving out jewelry ensures that no one will "stick out" in photos.  On the other hand, picking out their own accessories is a way for your maids to put their personal style into your day.

JessParmesan79

I'm debating this same topic for my BMs....matching, coordinating or unique.  I like the idea of having them each pick the jewelry that they will each wear.  But how do you do this if you want the jewelry to be a gift to them? 

NillaWafer10

I guess I really wouldn't have it be a gift then.  Back to the drawing board hahaha!