Hi! Kinda new here- would like some help!?

smore154

Hello Everyone! I'm kind of new to posting on this board- while I've been lurking for a few weeks, I would love to get some of your advice. It's kinda long, so I apologize in advance.

I am having such a hard time picking out a dress and just need to know other girls have a hard time too. I really cannot believe people put on one dress and know that it is the one. I've been to three places already- and back to one of them for a second time, and the problem I am having is that (I'm sorry if this sounds selfish- I'm not sure another way to put it) they all look good on me. I mean- they are wedding dresses right- how can they not look good on anyone! But because I'm picking simple silouettes while one will stand out because the beading is beautiful, I just don't know.

I would like to know from your experiences how you picked out your dress. To give you some background- I'm not one of those people who sees a wedding dress online and knows I want it. I also think part of my problem is that I really like the dresses with beading/embroidery- however in daily life, I kinda like wearing just simple black tshirts and  infusing some edgy or surprise accessories or pieces into my wardrobe (Example: Giant jewelry or necklace or bracelet instead of a fancy printed top, insane heels with prints or sparkles or buckles, etc).

I'm finding when I try on the plain dresses with one bold accessory- while they look awesome, I just feel it's not enough. I am gravatating towards A line, strapless dresses- but from there it goes in all directions. I have a few names written down- the one we keep going to compare them all to is Casablanca 1936- but the sample everywhere we go is in ivory and I want to see it in white, which no one has. Our wedding is in March and since we need about 6 months to order most dresses I am coming down to time almost running out.  I am really, really CONFUSED right now and just would love for some advice! Thanks in advance!

dizzinea

hi,
I had a tough time with my dress too, mostly because I wanted something not white or ivory which made it really difficult. i finnaly have my dream dress and I'm thrilled by it, so be patient the dress will come, also as far as white and ivory, in most designers it is very hard to tell the difference,and most people like better in ivory anyway, so keep that in mind and good luck!

lizstill13

If you keep coming back to one dress I would say that you have found your dress. I would recommend looking at an ivory dress by the same designer just for a color comparison and if it looks okay to you, I would go with it. I found my dress in white, too, and it looked horrendous on me because the color was all wrong. I ordered it in ivory and it was perfect. All I did was look at the color on another dress by the same designer.

Good luck!

baystateapple

First of all, that "this is it" moment?  It doesn't happen to everyone.  It didn't happen to me.  I tried on many pretty dresses, all beautiful, and I never got the "OMG THIS IS MY DRESS" moment.  A lot of that is put out by the bridal industry (sort of like how the bridal shops will put a veil on your head and a faux bouquet in your hands so that you see waht you look like as a bride), and it's all very romantic, but it doesn't happen to everyone.

I chose my dress after trying on about 12.  It was definitely the one I felt most like a bride in.  It was comfortable, beautiful, and very light and airy (I was very opposed to heavy beading and fabric that would be difficult to move in).  Just do yourself a huge favor and, once you find your dress and order it, stop looking at other gowns.  Almost every gown is beautiful in some way, and doubting yourself will only lead to much larger problems.

opalsky007

I had a tough time too. Part of it was because I was shopping alone, and didn't have anyone to give me honest feedback. When I bought my dress, I didn't cry, or know that it was really the one, I just looked at it, and said, "well, it has everything I want...and it looks okay on me". I gradually grew to love it, though, and couldn't picture myself wearing anything else.

The dress was nothing like what I thought I would buy, and that's common. If beaded, embroidered dresses are working better for you, then run with them. And like other PP said, if you keep going back to the Casablanca, maybe that's it. Do you really need to see a white sample in person? Surely you can find a photo online of it in white.

Beachy730

I luckily was the bride that bought the 2nd dress I tried on.  i had seen it at a bridal show and went to the bridal shop it was from.  It was my 2nd one and I loved it.  I did not have the "OMG this is the totally perfect dress for me" but I put it on and really liked it, and my mom, nana, and MOH with me all loved it.  The most important thing to me was that it was lightweight and comfortable.  I tired 3 more on just to be sure then ordered that one.  But I went into that shop knowing that I was leaving ordering a dress; I'm not the type to try every single dress on.  I agree with PPs who said there is a major hype about the feeling you're supposed to get when you put on "the dress."  It sounds to me like you have your perfect one picked out.  I know you might think I'm crazy but I truly believe that while it is one of the most important days of your life, its still just 1 day.  Like someone else said though, once you order your dress, do not try any others on and do not look at anymore or you will constantly second guess yourself. 

teastarr

I was one of the few people that had "the moment".  Of course I went to five or six different stores before I had that moment and tried on all sorts of dresses.  I had just giving up on finding the dress of my dreams when we (my bridesmaids and I) went to the last store and I was feeling sick but as soon as put my dress on (the casablance 1910) I knew that was the one.  It was everyting I wasn't looking, but I didn't want to take it off.

I looked up the dress you are looking at I think that its stunning.  And like some of the other girls have said if you've gone back it may be the one.  But if you still feel unsure, cause I did find other dresses that I kept thinking about but was still unsure, maybe you should see if there are some other bridal stores in your area to visit.  Doesn't hurt to look at few more.

girl2bewed

It differs with everyone. Dont feel hopeless, just get out there with your closest friends/family and keep trying them on. If you've been pulling all the ones you tried on so far, tell the consultant to pull some they think would look good on you to get a different opinion and go a different way then you have so far.

I went to my local davids bridal, I tried on 6 dresses, the second dress was the one I ended up buying, and like a lot of brides I didn't have the OMG this is it moment. I knew I loved it but tried on a few others to make sure.

Dont worry you WILL find a dress. Like Randy on say yes to the dress always says "Everyone finds a dress"

Cherie516

So I hope this makes you feel better but I have been shopping for wedding gowns for about 4 months and went to countless places.  I felt the same way.  I liked a bunch of things but never had that feeling that this is defiinitely my gown.  I think they all looked great on me and it was so hard.  It began to stress me out so bad and it was no longer fun and I couldn't commit to anything.  So I finally found a gown that made me feel something so I ordered it.  I went home and cried and thought I knew it wasn't the one, it was the one everyone loved but I liked.  I called the bridal shop like a serious nutcase and begged them to let me change it.  I went back feeling hopeless and then it happened.  I tried on a gown I loved and I knew it was me.  I felt confident when I left and feel great now, no doubting or second guessing.  You will find your gown, do not settle.  The gown I originally bought was Maggie Sottero's Mona Lisa Royale.  That was the one I cancelled.  I settled on Maggie Sottero's Fiorella.  Very different gowns, I was all over the place.  Anyway you will find the one, don't worry and don't settle!