Father of the Groom

jyoung888

I am getting married in July of this year. My future FIL has MS, and he says that he cannot wear a Black Tux in July, because he cannot handle the heat. I understand this. So he asked my FI if he could pick out any tux, and my FI gave him permission.

I just found out yesterday, and the situation was weeks ago.

So my future FIL is now wearing a White Tux with pinstripes and a Black Vest/Tie.

My Groom, Groomsmen, & Ringbearer are all wearing Black tuxes. The groom has a white vest/tie, and the Groomsmen & Ringbearer have Pink vests/ties, My question is will this look dumb? As the Father of the Groom, will it look okay in pictures for him to be in white? Or should he do like Tan? I always thought if anyone wore a white tux it would be the groom.

I just want to be confident that it will look okay!

kgorman307

I think it's okay for him to wear whatever is comfortable for him. At least he'll be wearing white/black and not beige, brown, etc. He'll match, and that should be fine. He won't be in all the pictures anyway

jyoung888

thank you. i just needed to vent on the Knot. I the only real options he has is tan, white, or ivory... the funny thing is that he sorta looks like Colonel Sanders from KFC... and this will intensify that! HAHA

jyoung888

well I understand that he doesn't have to wear a tux. I just know that the mothers are dressing in formal attire, which is why he planned to.

jyoung888

My other thought is Grey. I saw a Calvin Klein tux at Savvi, and it is not only Grey, but itis "light-weight". I thought that would look rather sharp, but it wouldn't be white.

I understand his need to be comfortable. It is his eldest son's wedding, and I believe that he should obviously be a part of it.

I always had a vision of only myself in white, and I still feel this way

I don't really know how to be like: I don't really want you in white, it messes with my vision, yet still express my understanding to his illness and need for comfort. I can do the white, I would just prefer it be a last resort.

Here is a link to what he has himself in right now:

http://www.savviformalwear.com/Tuxedos/Casino-by-Ecko-unltd-252.aspx

Here is what I think is more appropriate:

http://www.savviformalwear.com/Tuxedos/Grey-Legend-by-Calvin-Klein-456.aspx

jyoung888

Okay thank you! Sometimes when it comes to all this stuff, I just second guess myself... and it is good to have you guys to turn to, so that the conversations I have with my FI are not always about the wedding.

Kate61487

Yeah I would just let him wear what he wants - I think he'll look really sharp! 

You could always mention to him that you saw this 'light weight' tux, and that it could further alleviate his problem with the heat - but just mention it in passing, don't tell him you don't like what he chose.