Wedding Band and Engagement Ring

wertzfamily313

This is my first post on here. I'm kind of having a debate with myself. I have a gorgeous engagement ring, I love it, I helped pick it, and I wouldn't trade it for any other engagement ring in the world. It is stunningly beautiful.

My engagement is a solitaire, it's a cushion cut round diamond with white gold. My wedding band I wanted to get Tungsten Carbide, not white gold. I am a nursing student and with my son I play hard. While after I get married I don't plan on wearing my engagement ring all the time (while in scrubs for example, or gardening, etc) I want to wear my wedding band all the time. It will be resistant if it's Tungsten to all those wear and tear nicks and nacks, plus it's not going to make me risk getting my finger cut off if I'm in the E.R. doing something with a patient.

My fiance's wedding band is also Tungsten. He's an EMT, and there was a paramedic he worked with who lost part of his finger from a gold wedding band. 

The problem is, my engagement ring metal and my wedding band metal don't match. I love both, individually. I don't know if together they look right though? Is it weird to have two different metals on your finger? The wedding band is very noticeably darker than my engagement ring.

Any suggestions or help is appreciated, 

Thanks  

meganb1977

It just depends how much the difference in the color of the metals bothers you, and how important it is to you to wear them together.  If you like the way they look together and/or definitely want your wedding band to be Tungsten for the very valid reasons you described above, go for it.  If you don't like the way it looks together, how do you feel about wearing your engagement ring without the wedding band when you're not gardening, in scrubs, or etc. ...do you want to wear your wedding band all the time, or just SOMETHING all the time?  It's absolutely fine to do whatever makes you happiest :-)

xobride

Have you looked into a titanium band?  It might match better.

pgcp

When you want to wear your engagement ring just put it on your right hand.

Avion22

Another vote for moving your e-ring to your right hand.

My fiance's wedding band is Tungsten, and mine is white gold.  Honestly, they look pretty darn close to me.  It's a special kind of "white" tungsten...I think we got it at Zales.   Maybe something like this (click here).

Poppy101212

You actually have a much higher chance of having your finger cut off if you are wearing tungsten instead of gold. Gold is a MUCH softer metal and easy to cut off, tungsten on the other hand can take upwards of an hour to cut off. There is a break point in most tungsten bands, but then again if you hit that breaking point it's basically shrapnal.

hollyweenOR

Just sayin'- we have a ring cutter in our ER, I'm sure most hospitals do- we had to borrow it in the ICU for a pt w/ really swollen fingers who hadn't had the ring removed before she got to us. I think her ring was 14k and it was suuuper easy to cut off. Gold's soft, as the previous poster mentioned. 

Avion22

Okay, I caught the durability part the first time I read your post, but missed the part about having your ring cut off.  If you are in a job where you even CONSIDER which ring will make you less likely to lose a finger, then you should probably remove your jewelry at work.  I work with aircraft, and we are actually required to remove rings from fingers when we are around the jets.  If saftey allows, then maybe you could put the ring on a chain around your neck while at work.  I can't do this either, so I normally leave my ring at home.  

My fiance dind't get it at first and was upset that I didn't wear my engagement ring to work until I explained that it was better than losing a finger.  Now he gets it.

NMI

I hear that Tungsten is very hard or impossible to cut.   I would much rather lose the ring instead of the finger.

My FI was leaning towards Tungsten until I said that to him.  I would hate for him to get his ring caught on something and have to relearn how to play the guitar.  

With that said....are you at risk at your job, of getting your ring caught on something?