Post Dress Buying Nerves

marybrockington

I bought my dress very early, I am a big planner and alot of times I purchase thing early just because I don't want to miss out on the deal or come back and what I want is gone. I am very happy with my dress but I have seen other dresses since that I would have liked as well. You can only where one dress for one day, so I guess I have to be happy with my decision whether I like it or not. Good luck Brides to be!

jsears82

Hi GinaNL82:

I purchased my dress on a whim after the saleslady volunteered to stay open late since I was traveling a great distance to try on the only sample of the dress that I was (then) interested in. I was so moved by her efforts (not thinking that she was probably only thinking about the commission she'd earn), that I ordered the dress the same day, paying 50% of the total. As soon as I left the parking lot, I called her back and asked her to hold the order and she informed me that once I sign the contract, I could not cancel the order (even though she could not have placed the order that fast). Sooo... I was stuck with a $1200 dress. Of course, I then fell in LOVE with a beautiful couture gown which was reduced to 50% off at a bridal warehouse. I then wanted to sell my dress on order, so I could get this particular one. I SUCCESSFULLY ended up selling my dress on order on www.recycledbride.com. It's totally free, no fees for selling or anything like some consignment shops request 1/2 of your earnings and some online selling options require you to pay. I highly recommend Recycled Bride!

Boatnerds

I JUST tried five dresses on yesterday and thought I found "THE ONE." My mom and future mother-in-law came with me and we all cried once I put it on.  I have made the mistake of trying dresses on at four different places, for a total of about 25 dresses.  My mind keeps going back and forth from the new one I love to the very first one I loved....whew...I hope I can stay happy with this dress!

Sweetcheeks521

Did anyone go with you? If so who?

I went with my mom tried on 10 dresses, didn't get the feeling that I got when I tried THE DRESS which was the #1 dress I tried on. I got the chills and  I swear I heard angels singing in the background. I went for a fitting a few weeks ago and still have that feeling. I am a very emotion driven person too so that's my experience so far

My advice is if you have that many questions and that many doubts step back, breathe and re-visit. You're not looking at the beauty of the dress or how you felt when you tried it on because you are obsessing.  Sleep on it and if you feel the same way after then explore your options.  It's still plenty of time to take it back to where you bought it and perhaps try on a dress that you didn't try on before.

I suspect though that when you take a minute and breathe you will realize you made the right choice

GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND ALL THE BRIDES ON THIS POST

pinkghm

I'm having exactly the same felling.  I just brought my dress today and now I'm freaking out, I'm not sure i make the right choice.   Is it too simple?  Is it not sparking enough?  I don't know.  FH doesn't help either.  He said all of them have good points and not so good points - which means, the one i brought might not be perfect.   It's the second time i try it on.  It fits well and it seem quite right both time when i had it on.  I even try few other dresses afterward to make sure i still like it before i make the purchase. 

I think the right size plays an important part. When something fits your body well, your body will like it.  My timeline only allow me to buy off the rack dresses.  I have tried on 40 dresses in the last two months.  And every time when the size is right, the style seem to look better.  So for those brides who love the style of their dress but not able to try the right fit yet, don't worry, when your dress come back from the alternation, it will look better than you remember it.  

My other option also looks good tho it require some alternation.  The first time i had it on I felt beautiful but not myself and was relief to took it off.  The second time i had it on i was overwhelming happy and thought i found 'the one'.  The store even let me took some picture of it even thought there is a no picture sign on the wall.  Anyways, as someone mentioned already, pictures do help.  Few days later, when i look at the picture again, the overwhelm feeling was gone and the uncomfortable feeling was back.  I thought if i doubt it again and again, maybe it's not a good sign and gave up on it.  But of course now I look at the picture, it's beautiful again.

In the end, we can only choose one. There are so many things to do, maybe i should just move on.  Right?!

Good luck to everyone with your dresses..

GinaNL82

To jsears82 :

Thank you! I am in the process of getting second opinions on the dress i bought and another I like,  but it's nice to know there is an option to sell if I go with the other dress. I'm glad everything worked out for you!!

oceancityb

Alas, I did have dress doubts, and have bought 3 dresses! Yikes,  I know. But I say the first one doesn't count since I purchased it for $20 from a Goodwill several years ago. (It did not fit by the time my fiance proposed to me.) The second dress was an eBay purchase, and although I followed the measurement guidelines to a T, the dress was ill-fitting when I received it, and there were some imperfections in the gown over all. Finally, with dress number 3 I did the more common way: went with my sister to a few bridal shops, and she ended up picking out the dress I fell in love with! Oh well. Third time's a charm, right?

erossboo

I am in the same situation right now.  I bought a dress - except I put in on lay-away so I didn't pay the full price.  I can chose not to buy it and only lose a small percentage and this is what makes me keep looking.  That and the fact that the one picture I have of me in it doesn't look great.  I remember loving it when i put it on.  And loving it the next day when I went back and put it on again.  But I have pictures of other dresses that I didn't think were IT, and I look better in them.  My fiance watches Say Yes to the Dress with me, and when ever he says - oh, I like that dress - its not at all like the dress i bought, which makes me very nervous.  I'm working on losing weight and the wedding is more than a year away and I keep thinking that I can find another dress that may not look great now, but will 10 pounds less.  I plan to try it on again before I decide whether to give it up and lose my deposit or pay the full price.  If I had paid the full price, I don't think I would keep looking because I couldn't afford t buy another one.  May I askw hat decision you reached?

KLady320

Yeah, no worries, you got the right dress! When I went looking, I tried on 6 dresses, settled on mine and got it that day, about 3 weeks after my engagement. The saleslady (bless her!) grabbed me by both arms and said "DON'T look at any other dresses, you got the most beautiful one for you!" and she promptly spun me around and hustled me out the door lol. I doubted it for a while and it arrived in April. I tried it on in the store and loved it, but still wasn't sure.  Then I went for a bra fitting with my dress about 3 months later and everyone in the store was loving the dress. After that, I just stopped worrying about it. She was right, it's The Dress. you're going to be gorgeous!