color of guests' dress?

awayagain

Just looking for an idea here - would you be upset if a guest wore a dress that was very close in color to your bridesmaid dresses but completely different in style?  I want to wear a street length royal blue dress to a wedding but I know the bridesmaids are going to be in royal blue gowns - I'm not sure how close in color the dresses will be.

MelissaAnne88

Any bride that freaks out over a guest wearing a similar color to her BMs is just...psycho.

caseyandlizzie

As long as you're not wearing white then there shouldn't be an issue.

awayagain

I agree with that - I have a friend that recently wore a similar color dress as the bridesmaids to a wedding and the bride was upset - I'm older, though, so I wasn't sure if this was a new thing or just a crazy bride.

breaness

I wouldn't worry about it. It's not a big deal. I went to my cousin's wedding wearing a dress that was a similar style to the bridesmaids dress (different color and length, but same material and neckline and instead of a rhinestone brooch mine had a flower) but it was just coincidental. It was no big deal at all.

kellybee83

I don't think it's necessarily wrong to wear the same color.  However, if I was attending a wedding and knew the color of the bridesmaids dresses I wouldn't purposely wear the same color (other than if the dresses are black). 

jemmini6

I don't think I've been to a wedding and knew what color the BM dresses were beforehand anyways, so how could the bride get mad about that?  As long as you don't try to go stand up with them during the ceremony or sneak into their pictures, I'm sure no one would mistake you for a BM.

OuachitaTrixie

will you also carry a bouquet?  haha, I mean she'd be a little out of line to be upset by that.  I personally would be excited that you came and chose to dress up for the occasion. 

badkittyct

That is a really dumb reason to be upset.

The guest can wear whatever color she wants - she isn't part of the WP and unless you buy her clothes you cannot dictate what another adult is wearing.

Feelslikeadream2

Honestly if I was going to a wedding the thought to check what color the BMs dresses were so I didn't wear the same thing would NEVER occur to me.  If the bride got mad at me I would think she was being ridiculous.

LauraT25

I don't think the bride would/should get upset, and if it were purely accidental I would completely laugh it off if it happened to me as a guest.  However, if I knew what color the WP was wearing, I wouldn't wear that color.  I actually bought a dress for a wedding next weekend, and later found out the BM dresses are the same color, so I won't be wearing it - not because the bride would be angry, but because I'd rather not be wearing the same color as the bridesmaids.  I would feel silly, especially if the cut/style might be similar.

cpm1223

I agree with kellybee! Irecently attended a wedding and before i decided on which dress to wear, I had my fiance call the groom and ask what color the bridesmaids dresses were going to be. It would be one thing to have no idea what the colors were and end up wearing the same color dress as the bms but if you know ahead of time, you should really try to not wear the same color.

I only asked what color the bms dresses were for the wedding that I was attending because I would have been really embarrassed if i showed up in the same color dress as the bms not because I thought the bride would be mad at me.

shugamegan

I would be more worried about girls showing up looking like streetwalkers than worried about their dress color matching my BMs.

If they are worried about what other people are wearing on their WEDDING DAY other than getting married and enjoying their guests' company,  they have bigger problems to deal with.

firsttimersluck

The BIG NOs= white, cream, ivory, light light silver, ... I feel like these are a given.
Any other color is a free-for-all .
My BMs are wearing royal blue, and I'm very aware that blue is probably the most common clothing color! If everyone ends up in blue then I have a super matching wedding :P haha

artbyallie

As PPs said, no big deal. I went to a wedding this weekend where a girl was wearing the exact same dress as one of the bridesmaids and plenty looked similar since they were in LBDs.

Frogger5

I agree that if you know, you shouldn't wear the same color unless there are some weird circumstances. Also, probably the closer (friendship-wise) you are to the bride but not in the wedding party, all the more important to not wear the same color. I think it might look a little bit like you're trying to be in the WP even though you weren't asked! If it was a coincidence, then any bride would be crazy to be upset. But you know - if you feel like you should ask, it's probably safer just to not do it