Bridesmaid's shoes

mendoza2011

Does anyone know where I can find bridesmaids shoes that are in different heel height but are the same shoe? My maid of honor is taller than my Groom's Best Man and she can't wear high heels and the other 3 BM's can because they're all shorter than they're GM. And I want all my BM's to wear the same shoe... PLZ HELP!

lalap69

Your MOH is allowed to be taller than your BM.  You shouldn't be dictating her heels to prevent it.   Please let your bridesmaids pick their own shoes.  You can specify a style and colour, but don't go beyond that.  Especially don't specify a particular shoe.  Nothing affects your comfort more than the shoes that you wear, and not everyone is comfortable in the same shoes.  Asking your friends to buy shoes that they dislike and find uncomfortable is just cruel.  Doing it because you're worried about different people's heights is just silly.  Let them pick their own shoes.  No one will notice.

mbcdefg

PLEASE let them pick their own shoes. I've never once heard a girl on these boards say that she enjoyed wearing the shoes that the bride picked out for her.

Micromanaging their shoes, and their height, is completely ridiculous and unnecessary. You're making a huge deal out of absolutely nothing. Who the fark cares if the MOH is taller than the Best Man? Why aren't women allowed to be tall, for Pete's sake?

reese511

ditto PP.  your BM shoes do not have to match.  let it go, sister!  worry about more important things...like the comfort of your friends/family vs. how they look.

kimp67

Could you pick the color & let them pick the shoe?

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[QUOTE]Could you pick the color & let them pick the shoe?
Posted by kimp67[/QUOTE]

This is what I did and it worked out perfectly. If I would have told my BM's all open toed shoes, one of my BM's would have been upset. She didn't like open toed shoes, and that was fine with me. I just told them silver shoes and their either wore a pair they already had or got a pair they liked and were comfortable on them.

futurepivko

I agree. I told my girls to pick out either a shoe that matched the bridesmaid dress color-dyed or pink-or silver. And let it go from there. I think one of my girls is going to wear silver converses. Find with me. Please PLEASE dont dictate heel height. If you picked out "this shoe" for everyone to match, were you going to cover the expense?

Ashes_3

I agree with Pp. Let your girls pick their own shoes. I told my girls that their shoes just had to be silver and those wearing the yellow couldn't wear a metallic silver! They shouldn't  have to wear heels if they don't want to. I know a cpl of girls want to wear flats and I am ok with that! Just give them criteria!

opalsky007

I agree. Let your girls pick out shoes of their own. Picking matching shoes can backfire on you anyway. On my wedding day I was rehabbing a torn MCL, my MOH had a torn ACL, and one of my BMs had a bad ankle sprain. No matching shoes for us, we just had to go with what was comfortable.

As for the height thing, it's just not important. I'm in a wedding this weekend and am 10" taller than the GM escorting me down the aisle. No high heel would fix that. And it doesn't matter.

Kate504

i'm tall and tend to be taller w/o heels, so shoes don't ever make a difference for me.

As someone who has had problems with brides trying to dictate shoes and them not even being able to fit in the shoes b/c they dont carry her size, let them pick their own, it's much easier. Just tell them what you want. Its not like they are ging to come with clear light up heels or anything.

rknox88

I think you are overanalyzing this.

Your MOH is allowed to be taller.

Your bridemaids are allowed to be shorter.

The Best man is allowed to be shorter than the MOH.

Your wedding party should be allowed to wear shoes that they feel comfortable and confident in.

If MOH wants to wear 4 inch stilletos then so be it.  Don't micromanage your wedding party.

aerinpegadrak

There is nothing that is more important to your physical comfort in your outfit than shoes, and unlike a dress, shoes cannot be altered to fit.  I think requiring matching shoes is toeing the bridezilla line, and trying to arrange their height contrary to reality is way beyond the line.

lalap69

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[QUOTE]There is nothing that is more important to your physical comfort in your outfit than shoes, and unlike a dress, shoes cannot be altered to fit.  I think requiring matching shoes is toeing the bridezilla line, and trying to arrange their height contrary to reality is way beyond the line.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]
I know I already commented on this thread, but I love how succinctly you put this, Aerin.

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid's shoes : I know I already commented on this thread, but I love how succinctly you put this, Aerin.
Posted by lalap69[/QUOTE]
Aww, thanks!

MsAmanda923

Please let them pick their own shoes... That's what I am doing for my WP... And they are very happy to pick out something they are comfortable in... I just told them to get red shoes... Most of them are just getting the dyable kinds

mendoza2011

Thanks ladies, very true I was just given that idea by the consultants at davids bridal and I thought it was a good idea. I had initially told the girls they could wear whatever shoe they wanted, but you girls are right. Oh and totally not a bridezilla... just wanted to see if there was somewhere I could find that, but its ok. I agree with the shoe comfort thing, very true! Thanks ladies....