E-ring Issues- need advice please

puppygal16

Hello All,

Need your advice on a ring issue please- I think I am going crazy. Sorry this is kind of long bear with me.

My fiance proposed on vacation a few months ago and the ring is platinum with diamonds.  When I returned home, I showed my sister the ring.  At this point it had been 2 weeks since I got the ring.  She was looking at it and she said- oh my god it's bent.  And I thought what!? Sure enough the bottom was bent in - not hugely noticeable but visible with the naked eye.  I read these boards and googled-- and people said since Platinum is malleable it will bend/knick more easily but I thought...two weeks??? strange.  I had been holding heavy luggage while wearing it but still.

Jeweler fixed the bend and it seemed like new until...2 weeks after I got the "fixed ring" I travelled again and I should've just put the ring in my purse but I forgot. When I got to my destination I noticed one of the diamonds in the band had shifted down in the setting- not significantly and no one would ever notice but me-- but since I know my ring and since it slighly effects how glittery it is (since it hits the diamond at a different angle now that it has shifted)...it is upsetting to me.

Now some of you might think-- who is this jeweler maybe he gave my FH a bad ring-- but this guy is very reputable it was custom made ring and my FMIL has been going to him for years to do her jewelery- he made her upgraded e-ring which was atleast 80k+.  Her e-ring is white gold band with platinum head.

What are people's thoughts- have you heard of a ring doing this soon soon after getting it?  It is still a gorgeous ring but I can see the shifted diamond and I am really sad about this.

Maggie0829

Well if you are still considered about the platinum being so malleable then i would talk with the jeweler and ask if he would be able to switch the band to a white gold so it is a bit more sturdy.  Honestly, I can't tell the difference between the two so it really wouldn't change the overall look of your ring.

As for my ring, about a month after I got it my main diamond fell out...thankfully I was home and was able to find it.  Apparently, the setting that the jeweler used (that my FI picked) wasn't really appropriate for my cushion cut diamond...he said that over time the diamond will shift and since the setting didn't catch on each side of the diamond then it was bound to happen again if I stuck with the same setting.  So for your small diamond in the band, the setting may not have been placed properly of the diamond may have shifted.  (I got a differnt setting and have not had an issue since)

I have heard about a lot of girls who have had issues with their e-ring when they first get it.  You have to realize that you are wearing it and doing everyday things (cleaning, dishes, moving things, etc) and you may be bumping it on things or getting it caught on clothes or blankets...all of this may cause the diamonds to shift or the band to bend and get scuffed up.

Talk with your jeweler and tell him your concerns and he may be able to suggest a different setting or a different metal for your band.

AdeleDazeem

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[QUOTE]Honestly, I would take the ring to another independent jeweler and see what they think.   I would be worried the metal is not the platinum they say it is. The jeweler your FI went to may be reputable, but is he the same person who actually makes the rings?  If not, the jeweler could be working with someone shady. I have a platinum/diamond band that was a graduation gift from my parents almost 10 years ago.  I wear it daily and there are some knicks in the band, but it's never bent.  I am a frequent traveler as well.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

This.

Rings are made to be WORN.  You should never have to take it off for risk of damaging it while doing mundane things like carrying luggage.  That's a recipe for losing it real quick ("Oh, I need to touch that bag?  Let me take my ring off first and put it... oh.... in my pocket??").

Take it to an independent jeweler and get a second opinion.

puppygal16

Thank you for your responses ladies,

Maggie- my ring is cushion as well - you are right that it might be the setting.  I should've mentioned this earlier- after the "bend" issue I discussed switching out the diamonds for white gold and it was more expensive than I thought-- it would be 1600- but still less expensive than what another outside jeweler had told me (10,000) and I liked the heavy feel of the platinum so I just stuck with it but now I am having doubts.

MilkDuds, I found out he does send out the work so you are right the other person might be to blame.  Good suggestion to have someone else look at it.

ArcheryGirl1

FYI - White gold is malleable too.  My e-ring is flat at the bottom.  Yep, with my own handstrength I've bent my white gold ring.  I've even had it re-rounded once before!  Now I'm wearing my 2mm tungsten handfasting band with it and it doesn't seem to be bending as much.  (Tungsten is so hard that it cannot be sized.  If anyone cuts a tungsten band it ruins it.)

Sarah0335

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[QUOTE]Thank you for your responses ladies, Maggie- my ring is cushion as well - you are right that it might be the setting.  I should've mentioned this earlier- after the "bend" issue I discussed switching out the diamonds for white gold and it was more expensive than I thought-- <strong>it would be 1600- but still less expensive than what another outside jeweler had told me (10,000)</strong> and I liked the heavy feel of the platinum so I just stuck with it but now I am having doubts. MilkDuds, I found out he does send out the work so you are right the other person might be to blame.  Good suggestion to have someone else look at it.
Posted by puppygal16[/QUOTE]

This pricing seems crazy to me.  Platinum is more expensive than white gold and I could not see spending even $1,600 to switch out a platinum band with a white gold.

gymbugmj2k

take it to another jeweler to have it looked at, but DONT HAVE THEM FIX IT.  once you learn what the real story is with your ring, take it back to your original jeweler.  FI should have some sort of warantee or insurance or something (i'd hope) for them to either fix it for free, or work with you to replace the ring (or get your money back to go elsewhere).  also, the more the jeweler re-adjusts the metal, the weaker the metal becomes.

I agree with all other PP. the ring is meant to be worn.  mine is white gold, and aside from a couple scratches and scuffs on my band, my ring is solid. the only mundane task you should remove it for is using strong household cleaners.

MrsKathyC

The degree of gold in a ring will also determine how strong it is. Gold itself is a soft metal.  A 24k gold ring will be "softer" than say a 10k gold ring as the 10k ring has metal added to it. The higher the karat, the softer the gold.

misstomrstodr

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[QUOTE]Platinum is harder than gold, or so I hear, which is part of why it is more expensive (higher melting point, harder to work with). My rings are platinum. I work outside with my hands most days. The rings are scratched, but not bent. I don't think I could bend the shaft of my ring if I tried. Take your to another jeweler and see what they think.
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE] I hear it is harder than gold as well, plus when it scratches, it is displaced (not lost like when gold scratches). That's why I wanted platinum... I agree that something seems a bit off here so hopefully you will get to the bottom of it.

kristinanddan

Carrying luggage should NOT bend platinum. And a white gold band doesn't cost 10k.

nfl722

I would take it to an independent jeweler and then bring it back to where your FI got the ring.  My band is platinum and I wear it all the time.  It scratches but does not bend.  The other day I knocked it into a door and it moved metal on one of the prongs.  Platinum is very strong- the metal can get displaced but it should not bend!

Sydney91

I have a 10 carat white gold band with a large sapphire (not sure how big). It cost $198.00 with the lifetime insurance included. It has nice filigree that makes the ring very intricate and delicate. So far I have some scratches from farm work and a small bend in a thin piece of metal, but that's to be expected. I take it off when I'm washing dishes (no dishwasher and Santa Claus ignored my request for one this Christmas - maybe next year). My fiance has a Warhammer addiction and I use one of his models to hold my ring. It works great since it never moves off the desk and is pewter so it's difficult to knock over. No safe required.