Please help...Would you "re set" your engagment ring?

Lazynella

Let me know your thoughts please.  A little background on my ring:
it is a 1 ct. solitare, the stone is very pretty, but when put it next to tiny, more perfect diamonds, looks a little dingy.  He bought this ring because it is what he could afford and wanted a biggerr diamond, instead of paying for a smaller center stone with a band that also had diamonds in it.

We have been looking at wedding bands and my fiance brought this idea up to me last night.  He said we could a) either have it reset, in a custom made band that had tiny diamond on the band that were of a similar quality, so as to not take away from my original diamond, or b) trade in the entire ring and get a different one.Has anyone donen this? thsi was not my idea and I feel really bad, but I cant say I hate the idea.  I think he feels like he should have chosen differently and wasnt as educated about rings as he would have liked to be.  I feel like if we were to trade it in all together it would be like me saying that ring he chose isnt good enough for me, even though it is his idea.  And we couldnt keep this one and also get a new one, we need the money from this one to help pay for most of the new one.  Id prefer to keep my diamond and have it reset intoo a band with similar quality diaomnds but dont know how feasible that is because most bands have near percfect diamonds because they are so tiny.

I hope this makes sense, please give me your advice.

Lazynella

The whole reason of resetting, or getting a different ring was to spruce it up, or add some more diamonds to it. I dont know if we built a band if we could ask for diamonds of a similar quality, if its even possible. 

tiny speck

The whole idea behind re-setting a ring is to keep the stone and do something different with how it's attached to the band (the "setting"). So, if you want a different stone and that means getting a whole new ring, go for it if your FI is on board. You might be able to add smaller stones on the band of similar quality to the centre stone, but I'd guess you'd have to talk to a jeweller about it. There's nothing wrong with upgrading if it's what the two of you want to do.

B2Z728

You could have your wedding band be different stones rather than diamonds. Then you wouldn't have an issue of different diamonds competing with each other. 

For example, something like this:

http://www.bluenile.com/sapphire-eternity-ring-18k-white-gold_17216

Or you could get band that is detailed, but with smaller diamonds:

https://www.josephjewelry.com/womens-wedding-rings/79.php

http://www.kay.com/en/kaystore/engagement---wedding/diamond-ring-1-8-ct-tw-round-cut-14k-white-gold/100006/100006.100007.100011

A pave style band would also look pretty:

http://www.kay.com/en/kaystore/engagement---wedding/diamond-wedding-band-1-8-ct-tw-round-cut--14k-white-gold/100006/100006.100007.100011

Lazynella

I guess part of me is wondering how bad it looks if we were to get a different ring.  Even though it is his idea I feel like his family and others will get this feeling of "oh that ring wasnt good enough for her." I know its no ones business but cant help but consider it.  IS IT COMMONE FOR WOMEN TO TRADE IN THEIR RING FOR A NEW ONE?

B2Z728

Just wondering, has your FI talked to the original jeweler about trading in the ring? Or are you selling the ring to another jeweler and then picking something else with a different store that he bought the ring? I'm curious because generally if you were to sell an engagement ring, you wouldn't get nearly the same amount of money back that was paid for it. 

Personally, I'd work with what he gave you. If it were me, I'd feel bad trading it for something else. You can always upgrade down the line. My mom's original engagement ring was teeny tiny. When my parent's got engaged they were right out of college with very little money. Their financial state right now is significantly different and about 10 years ago they bought new rings for each other which are a vast upgrade from what they had before. 

Lazynella

I love my ring for the fact that he gave it to me.  I would have like a band with small diamonds or something a little more blingy, it is a plain solitare.  I looked at enhancers and most of them made my diamond look not as nice for the resons stated before.  So i am wondering if they can make a band with different quality diamonds and put my stone in that or just get a new one.  I am really not materialistic but i understand what my Fiance is saying.  I just feel odd.

rks421

You are going to have to live with it forever, so keep that in mind. What if will always pop in your mind one way or another

Angelface225

My FI offered to let me reset it (he bought it last minute before our trip and my band was the only one they had in my size), but by the time we got back and I had worn it for a couple of weeks I was pretty attached to it and didn't want to let it go. :-) That being said its a knife edge band, so it's going to be a pain in the butt to find a wedding band that goes with it!

rodigsorange

Yes, if I could. My e-ring has beautiful stones, white diamonds at the ends leading up to the blue diamond center. But the "floating" setting for the blue diamond makes me nervous about it falling out, and it protrudes out so it hits against things in casual everyday life. It's a unique ring, but I really don't like the setting. I rather it have been either one or two arms holding the blue stone. I'm very into symmetry, and I'm going to be hell-bent on getting the wedding bands picked ou together.