white gold engagement ring/yellow gold wedding band- tacky or unique?

bananapudding91

I will be wearing a white gold engagement ring, and my mom suggested the wedding band my grandmother wore- who I am basically dedicating the theme of my wedding to. In your opinion, would this be tacky or unique? Or is it simply a good idea because she, my mom, and I would be the only ones to wear it (out of a very large family)?

Just want opinions. :]

Knittibell

Unique! When you look at the two together, do you love it? If you do, then it's the right combination for you. Like PP it's not *my* favorite look, but it's becoming more and more popular to mix metals, and I do LOVE the history of the ring. If you like the way they look together, then you have your set, and it's a really meaningful one.

nnoble4

I would try it on and see what you think of the combination.
Also, since they didn't come together, and the wedding band wasn't purchased specifically for your engagement ring, you could consider wearing them on separate hands.  My sister wears her engagement ring on one hand and the wedding band on the other because they did not match each other, but she fell in love with the band.  If you don't think they look good on one finger, then separate them.  There's no rule that you have to wear your engagement ring and wedding band together.

FWIW, I think that having your grandmother's wedding band is worth it, no matter what due to the history and tradition of it.  Find a way to make it work, and I am sure you will be happy.  It isn't tacky at all. 

Andria

Sloane99

I'm not a huge fan of white and yellow gold together in general, but I am a huge fan of honoring family and traditions and I think this is a beautiful way to do it. Alternatively you could always get the wedding band rhodium plated so it's the same as white gold.

opalsky007

It's definitely not tacky. It's unusual, but hey, you'll have a great story to tell whenever someone asks about it.

But if the look really bothers you, consider some of the options that PP mentioned, like wearing your e-ring on your other hand, or using the heirloom for the ceremony and then getting another band for yourself.

CL3542

There is a tradition somewhere in Italy (an Italian friend of mine was telling me about it) that relates to having mixed colors of wedding rings.

You have a yellow gold wedding band when you get married, then on your 25th anniversary, you get a silver or white gold band that you put on the outside of your other rings (perhaps it's linked to the 25 yr being silver anniversary).  Then, on your 50th wedding anniversary, you switch the silver and gold bands.  It's a way of not only showing that you are married, but showing your marriage milestones!  Anyone who sees your rings can see that you 've been married for 25 or 50 years.  I thought it was a really sweet sentiment.

desertmomnm

I have my grandma's yellow gold wedding band too and just tried it on with my white gold ering and I don't care for them together.  I wore her ring as my "something old" on the other hand for my wedding.  I wish I could get grandma's band dipped or changed into white gold, but I'll stay with the band my dh got me.  It's a little thinner than grandma's and I like the thickness of grandma's better, although it would need to be resized.

bananapudding91

Thank you very much for your opinions!

I've been very worried they'd clash, but I think the sentimental value of the ring matters quite a bit more. I think I'll take nnoble's suggestion and wear them on separate hands, or just for the ceremony. But since I haven't tried them on together (my mom still wears it), I may fall in love. Not to mention, my fiance's wedding band is a combination of white & yellow gold, so it'd be more of a match.

Also, I'd like your opinion on this.
My mom's engagement ring was stolen years ago, and her wedding band stolen just 2 years ago (which is one reason she wears the heirloom). I feel bad about literally taking the ring off of her finger, but it was her suggestion. If she says she's okay with it and wants me to use it, should I? Is it logical to feel bad about it?

Thanks. (:

MsFlicka

This is exactly my ring configuration

The ring FI bought for me is a white gold engagement ring, my wedding band is from my Mormor (maternal grandmother) and is yellow gold.  At first it bothered me a little that they didn't match, but I'm going to wear them together.  It's more about the sentiment attatched to each than what they look like together, and I've grown to like that they are unique.

Kate504

iworked with someone who had a ring that mixed the two and it was really pretty and it is not something that i thought that i would like.  and i'm a sentimental person so i would do it.