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BM makeup: their choice or mine?

Earlier today I wrote a post on another board and was surprised by some of the comments! (nothing mean or anything, just things that hadnt crossed my mind)

I let my BMs choose between two dresses (same fabric, very different styles). I also let them pick their own shoes, jewelry and hairstyle.

With the makeup, I'm hiring a makeup artist (paying for it myself). I asked that all the BMs have similar tones in their makeup (mostly browns), but other than that, they could have her style them however they liked (eyeshadow style, lashes, lipstick color, blush color, etc) Some of them still seem a bit uncomfortable with the browns (some of them are used to a lot of black).

Should I let them do whatever they want, or try to keep it more congruent? (i guess I'm thinking with different shoes, dresses, hair, jewelry, etc, I want them to look like themselves, but still keep the overall look the same)

They've all already had their makeup trials done. Most of them loved it, but 2 seemed a bit uncomfortable even though they looked AMAZING!

What to do?I want them to be comfortable, but at the same time I don't want to see a lot of black eyeliner with a black dress because I prefer a more natural style.
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Re: BM makeup: their choice or mine?

  • opalsky007opalsky007 member
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    edited July 2010
    Let them pick their own. Makeup is something very personal and the same tones can look very different on different people. Besides, who's going to notice or care that they're wearing black eyeliner instead? Especially if that's what they usually wear? People will be more likely to notice the fact that they're uncomfortable, and unhappy.
  • Very few people will notice they have the same makeup, what people will notice is the dress, basically the dress color and lenght, so makeup is not what will keep the congruence.
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  • While I think it's great that if you're requiring them to get professional make-up done that you're paying for it, I also think that as for tones and colours you should let them chose that.

    Make-up is so personal and regardless of whether you thought they looked great, they don't feel great and as the PP pointed out, that's what you're going to notice on your day and in all the pictures thereafter.

    Also, no one but you is going to notice that they're in the same "tones" or that it's done to keep the overall look the same especially since I'm guessing they don't all look the same anyways.
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  • I agree with PP, let them choose their own.  No one will notice their makeup, but some people aren't going to feel good in the colors you've chosen.  I mean, I can understand requesting that no one wear Goth makeup or something, but I think as long as they look tasteful, whatever they wear will be fine.
  • Honestly, I offered to pay for a makeup artist for my girls (the hairstylist I brought in does both), and all declined and preferred to do their own.  I remember the one time I went to a Mary Kay consultation with a friend, I felt ridiculous in the makeup and actually left the room in tears.

    There is absolutely no possible way that makeup is going to be a unifying factor with your bridesmaid look, unless you've got them all in kabuki or something.
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  • Ditto pp's. Let them choose how to do their own make-up as long as it looks tasteful. If you can afford to, you can offer to get theirs done professionally as well, but it is not required. If you do, obviously, you would pay for it. None of my girls were big make-up wearers and the ones that did wear make-up I trusted and did a fine by doing it themselves.
  • Let them wear what they want. Assuming most of your friends understand what appropriate wedding makeup is and that the makeup artist you hired does too, you should let themhave more control over what goes on their faces.

    I was in a wedding with the opposite mentality of the bride color wise. She wanted everyone to have matching makeup but with black eyeliner and yellow and gray shadow. I am blonde and not naturally tan. I looked like a sallow goth (to me) even if the bride said I looked amazing, I felt like crap.  Just let them pick.
  • Let them choose their makeup.

    I would not look good in brown mascara, eyeliner or lipstick.  I have a natural tan and dark eyelashes, hair and eyes.  Browns just don't work.  I would be totally one color with less contrast than I have naturally, even if I got to choose the shades of brown.
  • Let them choose what they want- ESPEICALLY with make-up!! I hired hair and make up people for the day of my wedding and let them choose whatever they each wanted to have, or not have. Some did their own make up, some did their own hair- they all looked gorgeous.
  • Thanks for all the advice, everyone! Looks like I'm the crazy one haha

    I'll definitely let them all choose what they want. At any rate, I know my makeup artist and she won't let them do anything that looks bad :)
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