Ballet Flats?

JaneAustensGhost

I'm thinking about my shoes now that I've bought my wedding dress.  I see myself in pink ballet flats.  It just seems like they'd be really cute peeping in little flashes of color under the hem of my gown.   Also, pink is our primary wedding color. And also: so comfy.

My friends are appalled.  One of them is insisting that on this special day, I wear heels.  Another thinks my shoes should definitely be my something blue.

I don't like heels, but my fiance is 6'4" and I am 5'2".  It might actually look better in photos to be in heels, even if they are uncomfy and I'm worried about falling over in them.   If I do wear heels, is pink acceptable?

What do you think?  What shoes would you wear with this gown?

cwaggoner07

I don't think height of the two of you should have anything to do with it. When you take casual pictures at a friend's party or out on the town do you climb up on a chair? The difference is a part of the two of you.
I dislike casual shoes with wedding dresses, but flats can be very classy and appropriate, especially if that's what you're comfortable with.
I don't personally like colored shoes, but that's just a personal preference, I don't think it's inappropriate.

Just my $.02.

Maggie0829

First, I love your dress.

Second, you need to wear what is most comfortable for you.  You will be on your feet all day and if you don't like heels then don't wear them.  I think pink ballet flats would be lovely with your dress.  And the height difference is a non-issue in my eye.

I would suggest that if you do decide to wear heels but plan on changing into flats for the reception you need to be cognizant of the difference in length of your dress.  At the reception you will most likely be tripping over the extra material or constantly having to hike up your dress to walk and dance.

I think you should not listen to your friends and go with ballet flats.

DaveandRoxy

It's your wedding! Do whatever you want! I think pink ballet flats would be really cute. There's no rule that says you have to wear heels. I'm planning on wearing very low wedges because I just want to be comfortable on my big day and I know I'll be on my feet a lot.

AddieCake

Wear what you will be most comfortable in. And it sounds like the comfort and cuteness of the pink ballet flats really appeals to you. 

I looked forever for the "perfect" shoes. I finally found some in ivory with a bit of champagne and a bit of bling that I thought were perfect b/c my dress had a champagne sash. Even though I am very comfortable in heels, I didn't want anything too high b/c I didn't want the strangeness of walking around in a long gown to interfere with my ability to walk in the heels. The shoes I got were the perfect height. 

I had to walk in the grass, and I worried they would sink in, so I bought these plastic things to put on the bottoms to prevent that. Foolishly, I waited until the morning of the wedding to put them on the heels, and they were too small. The ground was wet, and I seriously did not feel comfortable walking down the aisle in those heels. 

I walked down the aisle, got married, and had pics taken barefoot!! I didn't put the shoes on until the reception. Bottom line: I spent way too much time and money looking for "wedding shoes," and in the end didn't even really wear them!

mrsmtothek

To your friends, I say PSSSH.

I was a ballet dancer in a former life so I am wearing actual ballet flats in white. To me they are the most comfortable shoes on the planet and the last thing I want on my wedding day is to be cringing in pain on the dance floor. I will be tearing it up!

Why be the norm when you can be original? Its your day, not theirs! Go for it! I think the pop of light pink would be super cute, especially if its part of your wedding colors.

Avion22

I wore blue heels. They looked amazing, but were SO uncomfortable.  I don't wear heels a lot, so it was an issue for me.   I wish I had worn balet flats.

itzMS

I wore flats. No one noticed!

In fact, the only time my shoes are noticeable in any of our pictures are some "candids" the photographer snapped in which I picked up my skirt a bit to walk through the grass.

JaneAustensGhost

Great answers!  Thank you!   I'll definitely go with the pink ballet flats then.  Now... to find them.  That's gonna be a whole other subject.  :  ) 

Thanks again!

PS. Maggie0829, thank you!  I love the dress too.  I can't wait to wear it.   I told my FI that if he leaves me at the alter, it's okay because I'll just marry my dress.

B2Z728

I agree with PP's, don't listen to your friends. Wear what is comfortable for you and in the color you want! 

I'm also 5'2" and H is 6'4". I think H and I's height difference is part of what makes us "us". I think the height difference very cute and I didn't want to change that for our wedding day. Some of the pictures I like the best are the ones where I look so much shorter than him.

mrsmtothek

@JaneAustens... If you are looking for genuine ballet flats (not fashion) let me know, I can point you in the right direction!

HobokensFury

I was in your exact situation. I'm 4"11, DH is 6'0.  I wore pink heels for the pictures and ceremony and then I switched to pink flats.  Pink is perfectly fine. So are flats.

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]Great answers!  Thank you!   I'll definitely go with the pink ballet flats then.  Now... to find them.  That's gonna be a whole other subject.  :  )  Thanks again! PS. Maggie0829, thank you!  I love the dress too.  I can't wait to wear it.   <strong>I told my FI that if he leaves me at the alter, it's okay because I'll just marry my dress.
</strong>Posted by JaneAustensGhost[/QUOTE]

I said the same thing to my H!  The dress was the most exciting part of the whole wedding process.  I would have been just as happy getting married in a court house as long as I got to wear my dress!  I so wish that big white dresses with trains were an ok thing to wear on a daily basis because I guarantee you I would be wearing my dress to work :)

QueerFemme

there are plenty of cute colored ballet flats, even ones with some bling on them! 

http://www.zappos.com/french-sole-glitz-satin-shoe-pale-pink

http://www.zappos.com/betsey-johnson-for-the-cool-people-bali-blush

http://www.zappos.com/product/7978057/color/559

KDM323

One of my very best friends wore TIEKS for her wedding.  They are AMAZING ballet flats and I highly recommend them to anyone.

bunni727

How about these: http://shopruche.com/notting-hill-bow-flats-in-pink.html

They have obnoxious bows, but to me thats kind of an asset

monkeysip

Go for it!

You want to be comfortable on your wedding day!  I know some women can be fine in heels, but I'm ridiculous in them.  Not only will my feet hate me, but I'm very unsteady in them.  There's no way I'd wear them.

I was thinking of wearing pink ballet flats.  But I want a really light pink... maybe more like a blush.

You can get really cute, affordable flats, or if you have the money, there are some really nice, comfortable flats that are more expensive.

I've heard good things about tieks, but i think those are like 150+.

I found an etsy shop that sells adorable flats (there's actually a lot of great etsy shops for this, but i just really like this one) 

http://www.etsy.com/shop/beccaandlouise?ref=usr_faveitems&atr_uid=12870476

These are like $80-100

KaitheyMartin

See, its great that you like flats.. but 6'4 and 5'2 is huge difference... If I were you, I would have wore heels for sure.

If you don't find heels comfortable, you may go for wedges... they are comfortable and will add height. And yeah, pink is nice to go with.

KatieBryant11

I was planning on wearing flats for my wedding, but my consultant where I got my wedding dress from recommended that I wear at least a small heel because it would help me have better posture. I'm still not totally sure what I'm planning on doing though because I am definitely the kind of person that choses comfort over being stylish but I just thought I should share this tip!

MoxieMickie

Flats are fine, of course. Do you mean actual ballet shoes or ballet-style flats? I have actual ballet shoes (like Dansko) that I wear sometimes as slippers, and as a non-ballerina, I wouldn't be comfortable standing and dancing in them all day. There's minimal padding.

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I had thought about wearing ballet flats with my dress, partially in part because my husband is less than 1" taller than me. Well, I ended up buying 3" peeptoe heels with a bow detail. I made sure to walk around the house with them on months in advance to get used to them since I really never wear heels. I don't regret my decision to go with heels; they helped with my posture and I looked more graceful while walking down the aisle because I had to slow down. I am a dancing fool and I didn't take my heels off until the last 30 minutes of my reception! Even if you go with just a 1" heel, it'll be comfortable and change the way you carry yourself.

crysspears

get... both? heels in pictures and ceremony (as long as you can last in them) then switch..

crysspears

get... both? heels in pictures and ceremony (as long as you can last in them) then switch..

yellowdaisies84

I love your idea and I am also wearing flats. I can understand why some people think of flats as casual and heels as formal- and this is DEFINITELY a formal occasion in your life! I haven't bought my shoes yet but I want something really cute and pretty like you described. My dress will cover them so nobody will see them anyway. I'll feel comfortable plus I'm going to buy shoes that I love and save them for the wedding day to make them special.

My advice on these types of things is always be true to yourself. You are unique and you should follow your heart and wear shoes you love on your wedding day. 

lizmyer

I can't wear heels because they drive me crazy and I am the most uncoordinated person on the planet. Pink flats would look so cute with your soft flowy dress! Go for it! I'll be wearing blue ballet flats, so you won't be alone!