5 Bridesmaids: 4 wearing one style, 1 wearing another

rwzhang

My friend is getting married and she has 5 bridesmaids.  She chose a color and material at J Crew and is letting us choose our style.  Coincidentally, the four other girls chose the same style, while I chose a different one.  Is it OK for me to be the only bridesmaid wearing a different style if I'm not the MOH? The bride said she doesn't care, but i'm still not sure...

Maggie0829

If the bride doesn't care then neither should you.

firsttimersluck

You might want to run this by the bride. We can't answer that.. 

But honestly, if I was the bride and found out that all but ONE (and the non-MOH) chose the same dress, I would ask that one to reconsider and go with what everyone else chose... 

achiduck

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[QUOTE]You might want to run this by the bride. We can't answer that..  <strong>But honestly, if I was the bride and found out that all but ONE (and the non-MOH) chose the same dress, I would ask that one to reconsider and go with what everyone else chose... 
</strong>Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

This. Did you make her aware that you'd be the only one in a different style?

I let my four girls choose their own dresses too but I told them if two of them pick the same style it's fine, but if three choose the same style then the all had to wear it.

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]My friend is getting married and she has 5 bridesmaids.  She chose a color and material at J Crew and is letting us choose our style.  Coincidentally, the four other girls chose the same style, while I chose a different one.  Is it OK for me to be the only bridesmaid wearing a different style if I'm not the MOH?<strong> The bride said she doesn't care</strong>, but i'm still not sure...
Posted by rwzhang[/QUOTE]

OP said that the bride does not care that she will be the only one in a different dress.

Like I said, the bride is the only opinion that matters and if she doesn't care you should either.

firsttimersluck

aw, true. I guess that's fair. I guess I just assumed that the bride not caring comment was abuo tthe dresses picked, not the 3-1 split. But if she honestly doesn't care, she doesn't care. 

Maggie0829

Yeah, I get what everyone is saying and I too would feel a bit hesitant about being the only one in a different dress but if the bride told me she could care less then I would be keeping the dress that I felt the most comfortable/pretty in.

cwaggoner07

I agree with all PP. If I were the bride, I wouldn't like it, but if she doesn't care, then definitely keep the dress you picked.

itzMS

Just had this in my wedding. All the JCrew dresses were the same color, length, and fabric, one BM just chose a different neckline. They looked awesome!