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How did you ask your bridesmaids?


I was thinking about getting a "Guide to being a Bridesmaid" book and writing a cute poem inside, but I'm not totally sold on that idea. Did anyone else do anything unique that they wouldn't mind sharing?

TIA!

Re: How did you ask your bridesmaids?

  • edited December 2011
    I like making somewhat of a memory out of it instead of just asking them.

    I wrote a poem on a card and gave a fallish candle since the wedding was in the fall.  I believe I have a picture of it in my bio.

    I'm not sure how a guide would be received. It's  a great gift but it may come across as "you don't know how to be a good bridesmaid - here is your instruction manual" Unless it's funny "dealing with bridzilla" type book.


  • GabsJonesGabsJones member
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    edited December 2011
    I have heard of lots of things done. Unfortunately I don't have anything super original to present you with BUT would give you a little caution on the Bridesmaid book. I for one think it is the sweetest idea. My sister however was none to thrilled when I had printed out all the info from The Knot about being a Maid of Honor and put it in a binder for her. My sister is younger than me and I thought I was being nice buy giving her some info. I certainly was not presuming she would do everything from those articles nor did I want or need her to. I just though that since it was the first wedding that either of us were in she might want to know  her "job description". She viewed it as being very "overwhelming".

    That being said, you are the only one who knows your ladies and what they would appreciate.

    I sent one of my girls flowers because she was out of state and I could not be there in person to ask her.
    I brought a bouquet and a card to my BM who I work with. she thought the bouquet was a thank you for how helpful she had been. She was so surprised and excited.
    I know girls who have hosted a ladies night and then "popped the question."

    No matter what you do your ladies are going to be SO excited to be part of your big day! :)

    GL!
  • edited December 2011
    I also made cards for each girl.  I asked my MOH over our usual Thursday night out (and I picked up the tab).  One BM came to visit me at the beach and I asked her there.  I was able to get to DC where another BM was from and ask her.  The last one I had to mail the card because we weren't able to get together.  I wrote that she needed to call me before opening.  That way I knew she got it and I could hear her reaction.

    I would also caution on the book.  I found something like that, but I didn't want to seem pushy.  Turns out my MOH wanted something like that, but I'm glad I decided to wait and just help her find the info she needed after I asked her.
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  • edited December 2011
    I made mini scrapbooks for my MOH and bridesmaids with ten or so reasons why I wanted them in my bridal party.  Once they said yes, I pulled out MOH/BM tanks for them - they were thrilled!  I have pics in my bio if you want to take a look...I think it's under DIY.  

    If you are nervous about how the bridesmaid book might be received, maybe you could find a book on how to deal with a bridezilla as a funny kinda gift.  I do like the idea of a personal touch, so I think the poem would be really sweet.   
  • edited December 2011
    I just called them to announce that he had finally asked, then said "will you be my MOH/bridesmaid?" 
    That's how I've always been asked too...
    I guess I'm totally boring.
  • MrsScotty1011MrsScotty1011 member
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    edited December 2011

    That is exactly my feeling on the book. I liked that it said bridesmaid, but didn't really like the message that could be misinterpretted with it. A tote of bridesmaid t-shirt would accomplish the same thing really. Thanks for the thoughts!
  • edited December 2011
    Don't worry Chayer! I went to go meet a good friend of mine (who is actually doing a reading for us) with my sister and asked my sister if she would be my MOH while we were in the car heading to our destination.
    I called my other sister and a good friend and asked them to be BMs. I took Jen out for chai tea and asked her. 

    Boring? Yes. Did it accomplish what I needed it to? Yes. Was it memorable? Somewhat, but I think the memories of being in the wedding are going to be what they really remember.
  • EDK2010EDK2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    I was like Chayer and just asked over the phone! All but one of my BMs live away so I didn't have much of a choice. I love the card idea though, I have seen some really cute ones that other knotties have done!
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  • edited December 2011
    I wanted to do something other than just asking so...

    I got matching picture frames that say girlfriends on the bottom of them and printed out a cute saying that ends with "will you be my bridesmaid?" that I found on the internet. Then I set up a girls night out and I will be asking them all at the same time.

    I will be asking them in two weeks!  I am so excited...I hope they love it!

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  • edited December 2011
    I made photo collage cards on snapfish with my favorite pics of all the girls I asked in the collage on the front. The inside had a cute, funny poem asking them. I was planning to mail them all, but it worked out that I was able to hand them out in person.

    We also did the same thing for all our flower girls and ring bearers (we have 9 total...my fiancee and I's nieces and nephews).

    Good luck!
  • edited December 2011
    I chickened out kinda and asked for the phone too, but all of my BM's and MOH live out of state, they all had an idea though because as soon as I told them I got engaged they started with "well I'm willing to be a BM".

    I love the idea of a girls night and then popping the question.  I did know a girl who took her MOH to the katherine hygel movie (I can't remember the name of it now!) and then asked her when it was over.

    I would agree something memorable is better though, maybe even if you got like a picture frame wedding related now (a cheap one) and let them know that after the wedding they can put the girls pic in it or something? 

    Good luck!
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