Dress Anxiety

DRB366

I'm having some anxiety about the dress I purchased.  The dress is a GORGEOUS Vera Wang.  However, my experience was so rushed that I constantly think...should I have looked more...is this really MY dress,..what if, what if....?  I think the dress is beautiful but don't look back and feel excited about it, I just feel, well, anxious.  Given strict return policies, what's a girl to do if I don't feel a "connection" with my dress????

staceytaylor0704

I went through the same thing with mine, but when it came in and I put it on, I fell in love with it even more.
I didn't feel like I really loved it until i got MINE.

So, don't fret.

SEWF

Do you already have the dress in your possession? If so, try it one again. In all likelihood, you just need to reconnect with it. Or could you go back to the store and try on the sample again? Sometimes the picture in your head is different than when you wear it in real life.

SpookieCat

I only saw my dress for all of 20 minutes between when I found it and bought it at the store since the owner had another appointment.  I wasn't allowed to take pictures or do anything.  A month later I couldn't even remember what it looked like really other than that it fit me very differently than it did the models and that it looks way different in colour depending on the picture.  I went back to the store and the owner had sold the sample.  No more dress.

I did know after trying on 60 dresses that it was the right one for me.  There is a reason that you picked it out and I am certain that it will look absolutely lovely on you.  When mine finally came in 8 months later I was kind if like "so that's what it looks like?"  You'll like it.  I'm sure.

Jgilo

I'm going through the same thing right  now. I;m glad I'm not the only one. I tried on lots of dresses...and chose a Pronovias gown. I remember being happy with it at the time...but now I'm thinking...so was it really the one? what if there are more others out there that i didn't get to try on? and so on...

_Dagney_

I bet it's just anxiety.  Seriously.  wait till you have your gown, you will feel beautiful all over again.  Trust the choice you made.

kate4steve

im so glad im not the only one. i ordered mine yesterday for my june wedding and was thinking today if i had made the right choice. it was the one that got the most omg's and wows from my mom mil moh and bm. in fact i didn't cry but my moh did. everybody has reassured me today that it was it. i think my anxiety came from a culmonation of things, my fiance wanted to see the dresses i tried and i didn't get the response i expected and i have also never spent so much on myself before,so that was weird. i went in not going to buy anything yesterday and then spent alot on myself. i can't wait till january when it comes in so i can try it and fall in love with it again. i loved it when i saw it in the magazine, and i loved it when it was on me. so i'm sure it will be great when its actually in my size.

Pugle77

I'm SOOOOOO happy you posted this, I went through the exact same thing. I actually lost sleep over it. I felt like I only looked at one style (walked through the store and pointed at dresses I liked) and maybe I should have expanded my search. My mom had to talk me down because I was having panic attacks at work.
For me, I think its because its the first tangible thing I have for the wedding and its freaking me out.

kate4steve

I went back to the store last week and tried the dress on again, still love it. Still can't believe I'm going to own one. I am putting my own special touch on to mine though. It has a corset top so I'm changing the lace out to be cornflower blue instead of keeping it white. A little bit of something unexpected. Once I saw that in the mirror I was like wow, that is really cool. My dress comes in December 27th, one heck of a christmas present to myself. I can't wait for my first fitting. Or until it is hanging in my closet, that will be awesome too!. So then when I have doubts and I'm home by myself I can see it.

flydidee

I'm relieved to see I'm not alone in this. I've been so calm and level headed about everything else in the planning process, that when I second-guessed my dress, I started freaking out.

I'm sure I picked the right dress. I think I sold myself short on the shopping experience though, and I'm sad about that. Even if I had held off on purchasing "the dress" and tried a few more stores and came back to buy it, I think I'd feel a lot better than I do now. And it's mostly because I could tell my Mom was a little disappointed in how quick the process was. I think she really wanted to do a little more searching with me, as a bonding experience. Neither of us spend much on clothing, it's just not our top priority. So, this was going to be something very special, and I feel like I may have rushed and sold her short.

I feel like we will shop more, just for fun. But it still weighs heavy on me, because it's a lot of money to potentially jeopardize. Any advice?