So I'm wearing a hat...

Sara G to be

So I had found this amazing hat that I just loved before I was even engaged (I knew it was coming just didn’t know when). I just couldn’t help myself and am a little bit of a spoiled brat so my mom bought me the hat. I am still in love with the hat and am diffidently going to wear it for my wedding. It looks amazing with my dress and I am having the person who made the hat make a matching sash to bring the dress and hat together more. So the point is I have NO clue what to do with my hair! I should mention I have short hair. I am currently letting it grow but my hair has been short for so long it is just who I am. I could never imagine getting married with longer hair. I just don’t know what to do with the hat. I know it probably won’t really matter since I will have a hat on, but what if I want to take it off. I will have major hat head!!! I guess that is the risk you take when you decide to wear a hat. Any suggestions?

itzMS

TBH, your hat is super distracting.

Unless this is really, really, your personality...I would suggest you at least let your FI know about that hat and maybe even show it to him. Otherwise he might be in for an..."interesting" (trying to think of a nice word here)...surprise when you walk down the aisle. I know my DH wanted to see my face (he requested no "birdcage" veils, etc).

One of my older cousins wore a hat for her wedding in 1991...she STILL hasn't lived that one down. Wedding pictures are forever.

All that being said...in terms of the hair...any low chignon or ponytail would be fine.

Sara G to be

My FI knows about the hat and has seen it. The picture is also not a great one since my mom took it with my phone camera and had to aske me 20+ times what button to press! The hat is really really my personality. Hats in general are really really my personality but I guess it is always an option not to wear it. My hair is super short like pixie cut and I'm not sure yet if Im going to let it grow but even if I do I doubt it will be long enough for a pony. Then again thinking about it I'm not really sure why I'm asking since there really isn't anything I can do with my hair. Thank you for being nice!

vanityink

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[QUOTE]TBH, your hat is super distracting. Unless this is really, really, your personality...I would suggest you at least let your FI know about that hat and maybe even show it to him. Otherwise he might be in for an..."interesting" (trying to think of a nice word here)...surprise when you walk down the aisle. <strong>I know my DH wanted to see my face (he requested no "birdcage" veils, etc</strong>). One of my older cousins wore a hat for her wedding in 1991...she STILL hasn't lived that one down. Wedding pictures are forever. All that being said...in terms of the hair...any low chignon or ponytail would be fine.
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

Same for my FI, actually. I got a veil that matches the lacework on my dress, but it didn't have a blusher. I was up in the air about having one or not, so I asked FI what he thought about getting one for the walk down the aisle. He specifically asked me not to get one so he could see my face. I found it very sweet.

As to the hat, if you're set on it, yeah, a low chignon or something like that would be fine. You won't be able to really see anything fancy with it on/an updo would likely just make it fit strangely/fall off.

ETA: Posted while I was typing. But yeah, if your wedding is in Sept. hair grows about a half inch a month. At that rate (from a pixie cut) your hairs likely to be about 4" long. You wouldn't be able to do much with it (be about a bob, yeah? A short one?)

QueerFemme

I also think the hat is incredibly distracting.   And will likely block your face for your guests and your photographer during the ceremony.  It could also cause weird shading in your photos.  Just something to think about.  

Peledreamsofrain

Most brides don't wear hats because of the shadow it creates over your face.  This shadow pretty much obliterates your features in pictures.  More's the pity, because hats are awesome.

You may want to consider not wearing it  during the ceremony (since your photographer can't interrupt and tell you to tilt your head 'just so'), and then put it on right after.  You could wear it for all of the family photos and such, because the photographer can work with the lighting, and won't lose your face.

As for your hair question, I've always loved the roaring 20's slicked down curlie Qs.  They are a classy but quirky way of styling short hair.

Barbiiieee

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[QUOTE]Most brides don't wear hats because of the shadow it creates over your face.  This shadow pretty much obliterates your features in pictures.  More's the pity, because hats are awesome. You may want to consider not wearing it  during the ceremony (since your photographer can't interrupt and tell you to tilt your head 'just so'), and then put it on right after.  You could wear it for all of the family photos and such, because the photographer can work with the lighting, and won't lose your face.<strong> As for your hair question, I've always loved the roaring 20's slicked down curlie Qs.  They are a classy but quirky way of styling short hair.</strong>
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

I agree with the bolded part. That style always looks so product heavy too, So I'm betting there is no way a hat will mess it up!

Barbiiieee

Also, I would like the add, that I may be in the minority, but I like the hat! It isn't my style, but I totally googled bridal hats after I read this post and saw so many cute vintage-y looking pieces. I just couldn't do it because I am a long flowing hair kind of girl.

AdeleDazeem

One of the mods on etiquette (LC)  wore a hat. I don't think it was during the ceremony, but she definitely has reception pics with it.  I think it looks pretty awesome.

I second the "not during the ceremony" suggestion, but otherwise it's different and fun!

QueerFemme

I just read Retread's response, and I will add...  I generally LOVE LOVE hats too.  I just can't visualize such an ornate hat with a wedding gown.   Maybe if I saw it with the dress I would change my mind.  But, just wanted to say, I'm not a hat hater. I have at least a dozen hats.

Sara G to be

I do have a picture of me trying on my dress with the hat just not sure if I want to put it on I here... I kind of feel weird for some reason having "strangers" see me in my dress and hat before my FI does I'll have to think about posting it.

I love the idea of the 20's slicked down curile Q's!  My ceremony is going to be outside on my neighboors deck which over looks a lake and very short. I have some things to think about i guess!

Barbiiieee

I could picture this hat with a dress. In fact, the hat reminded me a lot of a sash in the David's White by Vera Wang line, so I immediately thought of that sash paired with a slimmer fitting gown.

I know you didn't ask for opinions on the hat, but I think as long as you aren't wearing the hat with some pouf sleeved monstrosity of an 80's dress, it will look elegant and ladylike.

I think it would also look very soft and pretty if you styled your hair kind of like Michelle Williams did with short hair. I don't think you would get hat hair if you sprayed it first, and maybe kept some styling product stashed somewhere for touch ups. This is the style I was talking about:

ksblumb

If it were me I would use it as a type of prop in some of the pictures, be playful with it. And then you can always wear it for the reception... idk if I would do it for the ceremony though.

msuprincess04

In Response to Re: So I'm wearing a hat...:
[QUOTEYou may want to consider not wearing it  during the ceremony (since your photographer can't interrupt and tell you to tilt your head 'just so'), and then put it on right after.  You could wear it for all of the family photos and such, because the photographer can work with the lighting, and won't lose your face.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

I was going to say the same thing. And add, I love the hat! The posed and more playful pictures would be awesome. 

Sara G to be

Here is a picture.

I really like and appreciate the ideas! I have some thinking to do! I am planning on having a diffent sash I got in touch with the women who made the hat and she is seeing if she has extra fabric to make a sash.