Hi everyone,
I am trying to put the finishing touches on the guest list as I am hoping to order my save the dates within the next week! However, my parents are driving me absolutely nuts... they are INSISTING I invite 2 couples they are somewhat friends with that my FI & I have only met once or twice and it was only a "hi, nice to meet you" type of thing. Some background...
My parents have 2 couples they are very close with that I've known since I was a kid-- of course, I'm inviting them. Then, there are another 2 couples that are also friends with all of them that they see somewhat often, but whom I'm not super close with, but I am still inviting them since I've known them for awhile. Now, additionally (and what I have a problem with) there are 2 more couples who sometimes hang out with all of them.
My parents are insisting I invite the last 2 couples, who I barely know, because they dont want to be "embarassed" that they have invited all of their other friends and not these two couples who they are not nearly as close with (and furthermore, who dont even know my fiance and I).. One couple invited my parents to their son's wedding last summer, so my parents throw that up in my face (they invited us so we have to invite them). My mother is constantly using terms like "I'm not going to invite this person, I am inviting these people" and completely forgets this is our wedding and refuses to respect my wishes to keep the guest list limited to close family & friends.
Their friends are already taking up almost 2 tables... my father justifies this as "You are inviting some people I dont know" which I reply with "because this is my wedding!" My parents refuse to see my side, and while 4 extra people dont seem like much it all adds up and to me it's more of the principal of the thing. Why should I cut back on my own friends to invite 4 people I barely know. My parents chalk it up to a matter of respect, but I think they're being unreasonable.
Now the clincher is, they are paying for a big portion of my reception... but shouldn't that be a gift from the heart, without ultimatums? Have tried to talk to them about this reasonably, but it always ends in an argument.
Thoughts? Thank you in advance girls!!