Bridesmaids Help!

amarieh88

Some info
Colors----Black, Lapis, and Silver
Date------ October 25th, 2014
Dresses---Long, strapless 2 black, 3 Lapis

Help!!!
Ok, so I wanted to get masks for the reception but it's alittle pricey so I was thinking of getting a few people who can do facepaint and then they can just facepaint the masks on the guests if they choose to do so. Here's the crazy idea though lol, I was thinking of having the bridesmaids' faces painted for the whole event. I'm not 100% sold on this idea yet and wanted your opinions. Please keep them civil and clean Thank you!

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids Help! : I'm glad potentially causing wounds on people's faces/ allergic reactions is so amusing to you.  Add me to the list of people whose skin has serious problems with having rendered animal fat byproducts caked onto it for hours. tee. hee.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

I'm not laughing at the skin allergies and by the way I too am one who breaks out from everything and that is why hypoallergetic makeup would be used. I was simply laughing at the way people over dramatise things like you are here. :) Have a great night! Thank you for posting :)

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids Help! : Your wedding is in October 2014 and you already have a wedding party and made them purchase bridesmaid dresses?!?! But you're not a bride who pushes their wedding party...ok...sure.
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

I don't have all my wedding party yet, I only have my bridesmaids because we've been talking about it for awhile AND I haven't made them purchase anything yet. Nowhere in here I have said that, "Yup, I've already "made" them purchase their dresses and commit to everything...." Please take a step down off of your soap box and look around. It's a tough time for some people right now. My bridesmaids wanted to know what dresses and how much they needed to save up before hand. I'm not pushing anything on anybody. Thank you for your concern though :) So happy I have people like you looking out for me! :D Hope people are as supportive and happy for you as you are for strangers! :)

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids Help! : Um, so it's funny that people gave the opinions you asked for? That doesn't make much sense. I'm another that thinks masks would be a better idea. The BMs could carry them on a stick instead of bouquets. Much more elegant than facepaint, more likely to be used, and much less likely to make anyone break out. I also don't like the idea of dictating bridesmaids' make-up, since that is such a personal thing.
Posted by bunni727[/QUOTE]

I'm not laughing at their opinions, just the way a lot of the posters have been jumping to the conclusions that they are. It really does make me giggle. If any of you knew me, you probably would understand that basically calling me a soulless bridezilla is a complete misunderstanding because honestly, I have no say in what my party is doing. I just bring them ideas and let them decide but it has to be an uniformed decision which I haven't had an issue yet about it. Like I stated before, I just brought this idea here to get opinions and advice and then if it was a hit, take the idea to the bridesmaids. Not going to think too much about it anymore because people do have valid points, who wants to have paint on their face all day? I honestly didn't think about it that way.
As far as "dictating" their makeup, everything will be a group decision for them. Nobody is making them do anything. I'd like to do the masks on a stick but I really want to do boquets at the ceremony. I think maybe I'll just have a "photobooth" area with masks instead so I don't end up buying 200 of them and have only 5 people use them, ya know?

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]Fee fi fo fum :: Sprays troll repellent::
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Just have to say you made my night! :) Honestly, you did lol

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]The board gets a ton of women who act entitled to making their BMs do everything they (the bride) wants at the BMs' expense. It's not a reflection on you, it's making sure you know what's polite. Good thing you already know. You're ahead of the curve. Also, I get that you're going for the "kill them with kindness" approach, but the "I'm laughing sooooo hard" is annoyingly passive agressive. If the responses bother you, just say so. No need to act like you're above so above all the other peons on the forum...
Posted by jessicadall[/QUOTE]

Thank you, I really do appreciate your post. I honestly wasn't trying to passive aggressive, maybe it just comes out like that and I do apologize. I seriously did laugh for minutes over some posts though because they were making me out to be this huge bridezilla who cares nothing about what my BMs want or can afford. It's sad people judge so quickly with so little information. I do believe lots of these posters are just trolling also though. Every forum has them, can't do much about it I guess :/ Thank you again though, I really do appreciate it :) If you'd like, private message me any advice!!

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bridesmaids Help!: Seriously? I hope you're planning on springing for a bounce house as well, adults love bounce houses. Are you also going to have your face painted for the entire event? I think it would only be fair.
Posted by pokey730[/QUOTE]

Is that honestly nessacery? This is for constructive critisim, not a way for you to lash out on a complete stranger because you think you're better than them.

The face paint I was speaking of would have just been masks around the eyes that would look like a masquerade mask. Nothing little kiddish as you're implying.

pokey730

In Response to Re:Bridesmaids Help!:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bridesmaids Help!:In Response to Re:Bridesmaids Help!: Seriously? I hope you're planning on springing for a bounce households as well, adults love bounce houses. Are you also going to have your face painted for the entire event? I think it would only be fair.Posted by pokey730Is that honestly nessacery? This is for constructive critisim, not a way for you to lash out on a complete stranger because you think you're better than them. The face paint I was speaking of would have just been masks around the eyes that would look like a masquerade mask. Nothing little kiddish as you're implying. Posted by amarieh88[/QUOTE] My sarcasm was directly related to the passive aggressive way you were pretending that other poster's replay were "so hilarious". Most adults don't like having their faces painted, especially not while wearing formal wear. Much less when being made to do it by a theme obsessed bride. My question stands. Is your theme so important that you will also being wearing masquerade style face paint?

bunni727

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids Help! : I'm not laughing at their opinions, just the way a lot of the posters have been jumping to the conclusions that they are. It really does make me giggle. If any of you knew me, you probably would understand that basically calling me a soulless bridezilla is a complete misunderstanding because honestly, I have no say in what my party is doing. I just bring them ideas and let them decide but it has to be an uniformed decision which I haven't had an issue yet about it. Like I stated before, I just brought this idea here to get opinions and advice and then if it was a hit, take the idea to the bridesmaids. Not going to think too much about it anymore because people do have valid points, who wants to have paint on their face all day? I honestly didn't think about it that way. As far as "dictating" their <strong>makeup, everything will be a group decision</strong> for them. Nobody is making them do anything. I'd like to do the masks on a stick but I really want to do boquets at the ceremony.<strong> I think maybe I'll just have a "photobooth" area with masks instead so I don't end up buying 200 of them and have only 5 people use them, ya know?</strong>
Posted by amarieh88[/QUOTE]

I get what you are saying. I just don't like the idea of matching makeup, ever, no matter who chooses it, kwim? Like, my BMs have very different styles/face shapes/complexions/hair color. Even if they had chosen what it would look like as a group, they would have looked absurd wearing matching dramatic make-up. I think it'd look better for them to choose their own individual make-up.

This sounds liike a good solution. You can probably even order a couple different styles with that plan.

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bridesmaids Help!: My sarcasm was directly related to the passive aggressive way you were pretending that other poster's replay were "so hilarious". Most adults don't like having their faces painted, especially not while wearing formal wear. Much less when being made to do it by a theme obsessed bride. My question stands. Is your theme so important that you will also being wearing masquerade style face paint?
Posted by pokey730[/QUOTE]

I wasn't "pretending" their posts were funny, they are because of the over dramatisign of everything. I would love to have my eye makeup a little more dramatic than the bridesmaid actually if we even choose to go this route. Why would I go with something I'm not willing to do myself? Seriously, I have more common sense than you ladies choose to believe.

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]I think you need to register for a Dictionary. Saying "I would hate this as a BM" or "I would break out from this" isn't dramatizing anything. <strong>Just like when I say I would drop out of a WP if the bride did this</strong>, I'm not being dramatic. I really would.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

One example, "A cousin had his wedding earleir in January and the theme was masquarade <em>but it was done TASTEFULLY and it wasn't pushed on guests (and especially not the WP</em>!)." That's being dramatic and jumping to the conclusion for me anyway. I'm not pushing anytime onto my WP at all nor the guests. Never once I said, "Everyone in our WP will HAVE to do this and all the guests HAVE to do this as well." No, it's simply a nice option to have for the guests if we choice to do so.  -_-
As for the bolded, so you would drop out of a WP if the bride paid for hair, makeup, 50% of your dress and shoes, and STILL let you pick as a group what hair style<strong>s</strong> to wear and how the makeup will be exacuted? I'm bending over backwards for my WP to make sure they aren't uncomfortable with any of the choices. Shame on me :(

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids Help! : I get what you are saying. I just don't like the idea of matching makeup, ever, no matter who chooses it, kwim? Like, my BMs have very different styles/face shapes/complexions/hair color. Even if they had chosen what it would look like as a group, they would have looked absurd wearing matching dramatic make-up. I think it'd look better for them to choose their own individual make-up. This sounds liike a good solution. You can probably even order a couple different styles with that plan.
Posted by bunni727[/QUOTE]

That's a good point. Thank you

ROBINRENE5

I would not want face paint. Just personal preference. It reminds me of festivals and kids birthdays! If you have 200 guests, you won't need to buy 200 masks because a lot of people won't take one. Maybe 100? And I think you will still have quite a few left over. If you really want to do this theme, post on your website that it is a masquerade and notify guests that they can bring their own mask if they would like. Also, buying dresses this far out is frowned upon because people change in that amount of them. Do you know that none of them will get pregnant, gain or lose weight, or anything along those lines? I am a planner as well, and I've been working on little tasks for a while now so I wasn't stressed last minute, but there are some things that really should be done closer to the wedding. Good luck!

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]I would not want face paint. Just personal preference. It reminds me of festivals and kids birthdays! If you have 200 guests, you won't need to buy 200 masks because a lot of people won't take one. Maybe 100? And I think you will still have quite a few left over. If you really want to do this theme, post on your website that it is a masquerade and notify guests that they can bring their own mask if they would like. Also, buying dresses this far out is frowned upon because people change in that amount of them. Do you know that none of them will get pregnant, gain or lose weight, or anything along those lines? I am a planner as well, and I've been working on little tasks for a while now so I wasn't stressed last minute, but there are some things that really should be done closer to the wedding. Good luck!
Posted by ROBINRENE5[/QUOTE]


Thank you for the advice :) We haven't purchased any of the dresses yet but we will be probably around this time next year because like you said, people do change their minds and I am a habitual mind changer! :)

MobKaz

Because your wedding date is far enough out, you also have several opportunities to take advantage of clearance sales.  Immediately following Halloween would be a great time to look for "nicer" masks at an affordable price.  Other seasonal sales to check would be right after New Years, and right after Fat Tuesday (which is actually February 12th this year).  Party/craft stores will have lots of Mardi Gras themed items, including masks, at clearance.

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]Because your wedding date is far enough out, you also have several opportunities to take advantage of clearance sales.  Immediately following Halloween would be a great time to look for "nicer" masks at an affordable price.  Other seasonal sales to check would be right after New Years, and right after Fat Tuesday (which is actually February 12th this year).  Party/craft stores will have lots of Mardi Gras themed items, including masks, at clearance.
Posted by mobkaz[/QUOTE]

Great advice! Thanks so much!! :) Going to keep my eyes open most def!

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bridesmaids Help!: 1. Dramatic means exaggerated and over the top behavior. Assuming something that is untrue is in no way related to dramatizing something. Again, dictionary. It's your friend. 2. If it involved all of us wearing the same hairstyle shoes and makeup? Probably so. If it involved face paint? Absolutely so. I am an adult and my body is mine alone. I will wear whatever dress the bride wants within reason, and even color of shoes. But making myself physically uncomfortable or looking particularly unflattering because my skin type or feet aren't the same as the other BMs tells me the bride cares more about having clones than she cares about me as a person. And before you start going off about how this is okay because you are paying for it, I paid for 100 percent of my ladies' attire cost AND travel expenses and I still let them pick whatever they were most comfortable in as long as it was the correct color and let them pick their own makeup, hairstyles, shoes, and accessories.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm thinking the definition of 'dramatic' here is 'whatever I don't agree with'.  My point about allergic reactions and facial wounds caused by breakouts was a straight up Greek tragedy apparently.</div><div>
</div><div>Gosh stage, why are you so dramatic?  Talking like a sane person with valid points.  Teeheehee you amuse me SO much. 

</div>

Peledreamsofrain

So... Thanks for talking about me using entirely quotes that aren't mine. Also, thank you for calling me vulgar names when I haven't used any for you. You sure showed me how overly dramatic I am by screaming obscenities at me.

Maggie0829

Ok Amarieh88, that is enough.  Even by misspelling the word on purpose you are still saying it with the same intent.  Being vulgar and malicious to other posters is a bannable offense.  I have a three strikes and your out rule on this board.  Think of this as your first strike.  I ask you to please refrain from using that language and directing those words to other posters.

What you need to understand about these boards is that they are public, meaning anyone can post anything they would like as long as they are following the TK's TOS guidelines.  You are free to ignore any posts or comments made as are others.  Debates are always welcomed but as you know with real life there will be times that what you believe and what others believe do not match up, ever.  At that point you need to agree to disagree and move on.

As for all other posters on this thread I think we need to end it here.  I am all up for people arguing and debating until the cows come home but when vulgar language and malicious attacks start, whether that be from OP or others, that is where I have to draw the line.

Thanks for your consideration.

nmsterni914

I absolutely love the idea!! Im getting married the day after you and I wanted to do the same thing but it didnt mesh with the theme of our venue. Ive done makeup for a party Im a makeup artist whose theme was a masquerade and the makeup lasted really well through out the night and it received tons of compliments. Plus its definitely more comfortable than having a mask on all night!! I'd say talk to your girls about it and see how they feel. Have them take a trial run of it and see what they think!! I'm so jealous!! Youll have to post pictures! I also think some of you girls are being a little harsh. She never said she was forcing anyone to do this and of course if any of the girls had any sort of sensitivity to a type of makeup or ingredient Id sure hope theyd speak up instead of wearing the stuff and then complaining about the after effects. You choose your bp based on people who are closest so obviously her friends and family already know things are going to be different. Lighten up a little girls. Weddings are supposed to be fun and everyone's doing things differently now! Do what makes you happy!!!

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]I absolutely love the idea!! Im getting married the day after you and I wanted to do the same thing but it didnt mesh with the theme of our venue. Ive done makeup for a party Im a makeup artist whose theme was a masquerade and the makeup lasted really well through out the night and it received tons of compliments. Plus its definitely more comfortable than having a mask on all night!! I'd say talk to your girls about it and see how they feel. Have them take a trial run of it and see what they think!! I'm so jealous!! Youll have to post pictures! I also think some of you girls are being a little harsh. She never said she was forcing anyone to do this and of course if any of the girls had any sort of sensitivity to a type of makeup or ingredient Id sure hope theyd speak up instead of wearing the stuff and then complaining about the after effects. You choose your bp based on people who are closest so obviously her friends and family already know things are going to be different. Lighten up a little girls. Weddings are supposed to be fun and everyone's doing things differently now! Do what makes you happy!!!
Posted by nmsterni914[/QUOTE]


Thank you so much! I'm glad you like the idea. I just spoke my MOH today and she loves the idea so much :)

pokey730

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[QUOTE]I absolutely love the idea!! Im getting married the day after you and I wanted to do the same thing but it didnt mesh with the theme of our venue. Ive done makeup for a party Im a makeup artist whose theme was a masquerade and the makeup lasted really well through out the night and it received tons of compliments. Plus its definitely more comfortable than having a mask on all night!! I'd say talk to your girls about it and see how they feel. Have them take a trial run of it and see what they think!! I'm so jealous!! Youll have to post pictures! I also think some of you girls are being a little harsh. She never said she was forcing anyone to do this and of course if any of the girls had any sort of sensitivity to a type of makeup or ingredient Id sure hope theyd speak up instead of wearing the stuff and then complaining about the after effects. You choose your bp based on people who are closest so obviously her friends and family already know things are going to be different. Lighten up a little girls. Weddings are supposed to be fun and everyone's doing things differently now! Do what makes you happy!!!
Posted by nmsterni914[/QUOTE]

Congrats on recruiting someone from your month board to validate your idea, amarie.

Your bridal party should be your nearest and dearest. However, this also means they may not want to hurt your feelings, and won't tell you to your face that they hate your idea. I would personally laugh at my best friend for suggesting this, but not everyone has that type of relationship with their friends. So while they may seem receptive, it doesn't necessarily mean they actually like the idea, they just don't want to hurt your feelings.

In response to the whining about people here being supportive of what they believe to be a terrible idea, this is an internet forum. These people are not emotionally invested in the OP, so they give blunt and honest advice. You can't tell people how to post, or complain about unsolicited advice.

Also, "do what makes you happy", is terrible advice. It would make me happy to not have to pay for alcohol or catering, but that doesn't mean I'll have a potluck and BYOB reception.

amarieh88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bridesmaids Help! : Congrats on recruiting someone from your month board to validate your idea, amarie. Your bridal party should be your nearest and dearest. However, this also means they may not want to hurt your feelings, and won't tell you to your face that they hate your idea. I would personally laugh at my best friend for suggesting this, but not everyone has that type of relationship with their friends. So while they may seem receptive, it doesn't necessarily mean they actually like the idea, they just don't want to hurt your feelings. In response to the whining about people here being supportive of what they believe to be a terrible idea, this is an internet forum. These people are not emotionally invested in the OP, so they give blunt and honest advice. You can't tell people how to post, or complain about unsolicited advice. Also, "do what makes you happy", is terrible advice. It would make me happy to not have to pay for alcohol or catering, but that doesn't mean I'll have a potluck and BYOB reception.
Posted by pokey730[/QUOTE]

Just a fyi, my MOH is the most blunt person I know so I'm 199% positive that she would tell me if she hated an idea. In fact, she hates my cupcake stand centerpiece but jumped up and down about the makeup. So, thanks for advice.