Gifts....issue

tealeyedangel

We have a TON of OOT family coming in for the wedding....my grandmother wants us to open the gifts at the reception...I think that is somewhat tacky....any suggestions on how I can do this without seeming greedy or tacky?

honeybear072012

Could you open them the day after?  Get together, have some food (maybe leftovers if you have any from the wedding) and open your gifts for anyone who wants to see.  That's a big tradition here (that I'm not doing because I hate people staring at me opening the gifts)

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butterflyjumper1

I have never, ever heard of opening gifts at a reception. Don't do that. I have also never heard of the tradition of opening gifts the day after.  Especially when you will be receiving lots of checks and probably some gift cards, it would be very awkward to open $$$ gifts in front of people.

mekiakoo

Around here it's very popular to have a party day after and open gifts. We aren't doing that though. We are taking off for our honeymoon the next day. WIll not get to open our gifts until we come back. 

I say just have a day after brunch and open gifts if your grandmother insists. Otherwise politely explain that it's not something you are comfortable doing. 

pillsburyaj

Just tell her the day-of timeline doesn't allow for gift opening at the reception.

lvissers

Yea, def don't open gifts at your reception. It's common for the parents of the bride to host the day after to open gifts just with close family. I don't think we will have time to open gifts until after our reception though. Just tell your grandma "No"

honeybear072012

Butterfly, we (my family and others in this area) only open physical gifts.  Checks and money are opened in private.

tealeyedangel

I'm going to attempt to get her off the subject of opening gifts at the reception....partly because I think it is Tacky, two because my venue doesn't have the space for a gift table...I have it set up that my durango will haul them back and we are decorating the truck anyway so why not just leave my back hatch open and have everyone load gifts there....makes more sense to me anyway

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We are having a little day after thing at my parents house with close family with some food. We will open what physical gifts there, but the cards I think we are going to wait until we are alone.  

cwaggoner07

We aren't opening our gifts until we get back from the honeymoon. And personally, I wouldn't want to watch anyone open a large number of gifts at the reception, or the day after, really.