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blue jean wedding? thoughts

So I was thinking of having a blue jean wedding. Not jeans and t shirts but jeans and a nice button up for the guys and sundresses for the girls (excluding me.) I will be having the ceremony but the reception will be outdoors. Neither he or I are fancy and neither are our familes. Its going to be more like a wedding with a family bbq after. I just don't want to come off tacky or disrespectful and I also don't to be uncomfortable.
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    You can have any level of casual to formal wedding that you want. You can't tell your guests what to wear, though. 
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    I for one don't think jeans have any place at a wedding. Even if it's casual.
     
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    If you're going to be in a formal/traditional wedding dress, I think your fiance and his groomsmen can handle wearing dress pants and dress shirts. Certainly, they wouldn't need to wear ties and jackets. IMHO, jeans just aren't special enough for the biggest day of your lives and pictures you'll be looking at forever.
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    Jeans don't belong in weddings.   Seriously, if a wedding is not an important day, a day worth making special, what is?
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    What are you wearing?  If you have a formal, traditional wedding gown and veil I don't think sundresses and jeans go with that.  If you are also wearing a more informal dress I say go for it.  I don't understand why people get up in arms about jeans at weddings.  I'm concerned about the guest being there, and as long as they took a shower and don't smell bad I don't care what they wear as long as they show up and have a great time.
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    Ohhh, I think I misunderstood your original post. You're saying you want the bridal party in sundresses and jeans/button-ups? I thought you were suggesting that's what your guests should wear. I agree that jeans don't have a place in the bridal party for sure. Definitely at least have the guys wear khakis. 
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    I voted yes, but really think it all depends on what you wear. Like others have said, a giant sparkly ballgown would look out of place, but a casual, shorter lace dress would be fine.
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    I voted yes, if that's what you and FI really want to do. I'd encourage nice dressier jeans rather than an old beat up pair, paired with nicer shoes, not sneakers. 

    I agree with PP's that your dress formality shouldn't be too formal in comparison to the rest of your bridal party and the groom though because it will seem out of place. 
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    Good god no. Jeans have no place at a wedding.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_blue-jean-wedding-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:15Discussion:e7f40665-b9ed-4c77-8f2e-e379be00b2dePost:5aa20e64-f2cf-4f76-a33c-635b168cd59f">Re: blue jean wedding? thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]Good god no. Jeans have no place at a wedding.
    Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

    my thoughts exactly!

    One person as a guest showed up to my wedding in jeans and I was asked a few times by different staff members if he was invited or a wedding crasher looking for an open bar. to me its tacky no matter how informal.

    for context, H and I are also laid back casual people and our wedding was not a stuffy event.
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    kwitherington - love your pic and I'm with you on this.
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    I don't necessarily mind blue jeans with a nice button up shirt and vest or jacket.  It's not my style, but I wouldn't have a heart attack over it.  I do think if you are getting married in a church and/or you are wearing a super blingy princess dress, it will look out of place.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_blue-jean-wedding-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:e7f40665-b9ed-4c77-8f2e-e379be00b2dePost:abd48ba1-3c7e-4a0f-b94a-129b4fe303a4">blue jean wedding? thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]So I was thinking of having a blue jean wedding. Not jeans and t shirts but jeans and a nice button up for the guys and sundresses for the girls (excluding me.) I will be having the ceremony but the reception will be outdoors. Neither he or I are fancy and neither are our familes. Its going to be more like a wedding with a family bbq after. I just don't want to come off tacky or disrespectful and I also don't to be uncomfortable.
    Posted by lidjamay[/QUOTE]

    If it's your style and you're having a backyard bbq, i don't see a problem with it. I've seen it done in cowboy weddings before.

    I found these pictures just in case you wonder what it'd look like.

    <img id="il_fi" style="padding-right:8px;padding-top:8px;padding-bottom:8px;" src="http://killerbdesign.files.wordpress.com/2010/10/254668_04221.jpg" alt="" width="350" height="270" />
    <img src="http://t1.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQZgKc7JdzeeGYS3hA9gT0gb7K-QcMLuxuDbhATLavjEksfvMx-" alt="Groom/GM in jeans? Anyone have pics? : wedding casual jeans pics Images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQZgKc7JdzeeGYS3hA9gT0gb7K QcMLuxuDbhATLavjEksfvMx " />

    and finally the Blake Shelton / Miranda Lambert BP

    <img id="il_fi" style="padding-right:8px;padding-top:8px;padding-bottom:8px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Ik3xgyWGa2E/Tk0_vxAkjvI/AAAAAAAAAEE/Xfl_GoxglBs/s1600/Miranda-Lambert-Blake-Shelton-Bridal-Party.jpg" alt="" width="384" height="277" />
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    I respect all your your answers and thank you for them. I was thinking about wearing a simple maybe sheath dress? no ball gown or princess dresses. And they will be new jeans in a darker color not acid washed, torn jeans here, and there will be no sneakers either. I just don't want to do that stuffy suits and tuxedos. I really like the pictures you posted mcda04
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    [QUOTE]I respect all your your answers and thank you for them. I was thinking about wearing a simple maybe sheath dress? no ball gown or princess dresses. And they will be new jeans in a darker color not acid washed, torn jeans here, and there will be no sneakers either. I just don't want to do that stuffy suits and tuxedos. I really like the pictures you posted mcda04
    Posted by lidjamay[/QUOTE]

    Based on your OP, it didn't sound to me like you were planning on wearing a ball gown. I'm glad you've confirmed.

    You're welcome. I actually really like the look, if i would've had the backyard wedding i wanted, the boyd would've definitely been in jeans.

    btw, i had a lot of guests show up in jeans and I didn't even notice until i received my video last week. It's not a big deal. Jeans can be paired with a button down and nice shoes for a casual laid back wedding. I'm far from formal and proper myself.
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    Totally!  I think it'd be great and to all of you who posted pictures of your WP in jeans, it looks AWESOME!

    Where I'm from, it's pretty popular for the guys in the WP to wear brand new black carhartts although my FI and I decided not to.
     
    You said you're going with a simple dress and new dark jeans without all the crazy acid washing and tears.  I think that will be great and make for wonderful pictures!

    Best of luck!
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    I say go for it and post pics after the wedding!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_blue-jean-wedding-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:e7f40665-b9ed-4c77-8f2e-e379be00b2dePost:93c97258-1724-4706-a57b-29edf5640ad4">Re: blue jean wedding? thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: blue jean wedding? thoughts : Based on your OP, it didn't sound to me like you were planning on wearing a ball gown. I'm glad you've confirmed. You're welcome. I actually really like the look, if i would've had the backyard wedding i wanted, the boyd would've definitely been in jeans. btw, i had a lot of guests show up in jeans and I didn't even notice until i received my video last week. It's not a big deal. Jeans can be paired with a button down and nice shoes for a casual laid back wedding. I'm far from formal and proper myself.
    Posted by mcda04[/QUOTE]

    yea I didn't think it would look bad, I honestly think it wiould be just odd to see us all in fancy clothes. I just wanted some opinions from people to see if people had advice on how to pull it off. We are going to have the ceremony in our neighborhood church but they are so laid back I don't think it will be odd to be in jeans
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    I don't think jeans having any place at a wedding. There's definitely a wide range of clothing between "jeans" and "stuffy suits/tuxes". There's always the option of just khakis or slacks with a button down ... I'm pretty laid back (I'm one of those people who will run out to the store in my PJ bottoms and a t-shirt, or go out for the day in my sweats), and I just can't wrap my head around wearing jeans to one's own wedding. It's not an every day event, you shouldn't be wearing "every day" attire. Even a smidge above your everyday wear, it's better than "just jeans" on your wedding day.

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    This is such a topic of personal preference. It would never occur to my H to wear jeans to a wedding, he would always wear a suit, but that's what we're used to. I do have to say, though, it'd be OK with me if I was marrying Blake Shelton (although I had no idea who he was until The Voice). Kwitherington... I LOVE your BP pics! I had no idea your hubby was in jeans.
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    *raises hand*  There are many, many people who don't think of suits or tuxedos as "stuffy."  It almost comes across as a pejorative in a couple of these posts.  Just sayin' ...
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    edited December 2012

    Make some room for me on the bench of those who say jeans have no place at a wedding.  The only way I could even consider switching benches would be if the jeans were brand new and in the darkest blue color that is possible, and did not have any stitching that shows.

    My dad had wanted to wear jeans and a leather jacket to my brother's wedding since it was going to be a small wedding at a private house.  Brother gave a come to Jesus lecture to him about weddings and that these are dress up occasions and if he had to hog-tie my dad and drag him to buy a suit and then personally dress him and escort him into the courtyard for the ceremony, then that is what was going to happen.

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    Oooh thats different....i like that for u
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_blue-jean-wedding-thoughts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:e7f40665-b9ed-4c77-8f2e-e379be00b2dePost:df61b05d-38d9-4b26-99a9-af0b4adc793c">Re: blue jean wedding? thoughts</a>:
    [QUOTE]This is such a topic of personal preference.<strong> It would never occur to my H to wear jeans to a wedding, he would always wear a suit, but that's what we're used to</strong>. I do have to say, though, it'd be OK with me if I was marrying Blake Shelton (although I had no idea who he was until The Voice). Kwitherington... I LOVE your BP pics! I had no idea your hubby was in jeans.
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    <div>That.</div><div>
    </div><div>We're going to a wedding on Saturday and we went out and bought new clothes to gussy up in only to be told a few days later that the wadding is super casual. We ended up bringing everything back and have opted to wear things we already own that aren't "fancy". </div>
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    H and his BM were in jeans. They both had brand new black jeans. It looked really good with a vest. You could always do black instead of blue :)

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