Am i too Old?

14rose

I am 40, a little overweight, not so photogenic - am i too old to wear a Big Dress?I haven't been  married before - what do you think? people say i don't look 40...

thank you

rosi

mbcdefg

Have you tried anything on yet? Go to some salons and try on all different dresses. Ask the saleswoman to bring you what you want, but also keep an open mind ... she might be able to suggest something that'll look great on you, even if you don't think that it looks so hot when it's hanging up or based on the picture.

I wound up buying a dress that I'd looked over a million times on the designer's website, because I was drooling over things that wound up looking icky on me in real life. I'm overweight and don't consider myself photogenic, but once I had this dress on I felt like a million dollars.

I'm sure you will look lovely no matter what. Don't worry about your age or how you think you look ... every bride is beautiful

14rose

Aw, thank you! It's very very early days yet, so im just reading as much as i can. you're dress is beautiful and i love your colour scheme! 

*tinkertoy*

Heck no! Wear what you LOVE!

jpirrung

I'm 40 too and married for the first time in October!  I hear you....go out and find that dress that makes you look great!  Trust me you will find more than one for sure!  I ended up purchasing an ok dress and then months later found The One!  So I am a two dress bride, trust me go out there and shop, forever if it takes you to get the perfect one, but enjoy every minute of it!

noonescookie

You can definitely find A big dress that looks great on you, but you may have to let go of THE big dress image you have in your mind now. Be open to trying on lots of different big dresses, and you'll find one that makes you look and feel fabulous and confident. 

wendysandiego

I was 38 when I got married in April, and when I went dress shopping I was determined to NOT get a strapless dress, because I thought it would only look good on young 20-somethings with teeny arms and size 2 bodies.

I ended up with a beautiful lace strapless dress, and I looked and felt amazing in it.  

Sometimes, I think you don't pick the dress--the dress picks YOU!

deepcovejackie

Wear what makes you feel great!  Congrats and happy planning.

aug2010

I will be 46 when I get married for the first time.  I wrestled with this same thing.  At first I thought that since we lived together for more the 13 years that the whole big wedding thing was inappropriate.  Then I came to the conclusion that I should have the wedding of my dreams.  I tried on dresses and finally found one that was perfect.  The best advice I got was when you see it you will know,  how true!!  Don't deney yourself anything you want in your wedding.

sheshe703

I will be 46 when I get married in May.  I thought about doing the small Justice of the Peace ceremony with a dinner after.  We decided that it was my first wedding (we have lived together for 8 years) that we should have the wedding that we want.  We are doing a destination wedding at the outer banks and it will be perfect.  We will be surrounded by family and friends.  I was sure that I wanted a tea length dress and it was going to be very plain.  I got a very sexy wedding dress by Nicole Miller, nothing like what I thought I was going to get.  Get what you want.  It really is your day and it is all about you.  Enjoy

Sue-n-Kevin

I can top you all! I'll be 56 when we get married in 2011. I've never been married before, and hell, I'm worth the dress, the big wedding, and sharing it all with family and friends.

Anyone who knows and values you will appreciate that once you have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with (even if it might be less time than a 20-something), you want to CELEBRATE that.

Go for it, and don't question ANY decision you make from this point forward!

Enjoy, and good luck.

dsouldiva

The best thing you can do is go and try on some different style dresses, until you have tried anything on you won't know what is going to look good on you and what won't, I wouldn't rule anything out on age, especially not at 40, it's not really that old in the general scheme of things.  A reputable bridal shop will point you in the right direction for your shape and size.

If you are unhappy with how you look you still have time to tone up a bit before the big day and if exercise is not your thing a new haircut and eyebrow shape work miracles!

crakd

never too old!  i'm 36 and getting married for the second time.  i've got 4 kids, and i hardly look like a bridal magazine model.    but my fi wants a big wedding, top to bottom, and i'm totally on board!

do what you love, and wear what you love.  it's your big day- don't let anyone tell you that something isn't possible!  good luck, and have fun!!

cfawcet

I married Joe in May 2009.  It was my 1st marriage and I was 52.  Wear whatever makes you feel wonderful and enjoy your special day!

NBVitamine

You've got lots of great advice here!
It's never too late to have your BIG day with the dress of your dreams.
You'll look beautiful no matter what, but pick something that makes you feel good, let go of the "should I, should I not", just pretend you are 20 again :-)
That's what I'm doing!

melsmith56

Hey, I got married in June 2009 at the age of 53.  You're only as old as you think you are!  I wanted a pretty dress, and i got a pretty dress -- and I wouldn't change it if I could.  You go girl!!!!

melsmith56

Hey, I got married in June 2009 at the age of 53.  You're only as old as you think you are!  I wanted a pretty dress, and i got a pretty dress -- and I wouldn't change it if I could.  You go girl!!!!

cellarius

i agree with pretty much everyone saying go try on dresses before you rule anything out & go for it if that's what you like!

Cynthiarcher

No, you are not too old!  I'm getting married for the first time in June 2010 at the age of 48. I thought the same thing when I first started trying on dresses, but realized I'd never feel like a real bride if I didn't wear the dress of my dreams. I did try on lots of different styles, even ones that I didn't think were my style. In the end I picked a classic off- the-shoulder satin dress with lace appliques. You will know when you put on the one that is right for you. I didn't want to take it off! Is it the one I always dreamed of as a younger woman? No.  Dreams met reality. I used to think I wanted the long cathedral length dress with the long veil. However, I hated the feel of the big heavy dresses with lots of crinolines underneath. The one I picked was beautiful as well as comfortable. Do what makes you feel beautiful and happy!

shikj

I believe you should wear what you think you look good in! It is your day you can have what you want

splint00

It's your first wedding. You deserve to wear what you love, I say go for it  

vitamint

no- wear what you want.... age is a state of mind.  I am 36 will be 37 on my wedding day.  Embrace your wisdom and enjoy your day

DianneMoB

Hurray for the over 35 (or 50) brides who wear what they want and look gorgeous on the day. What a nice thread.

gigia

No, you are not too old for love and marriage!  I personally think it's always about how I feel inside at that moment.  If you feel good, love the dress, you will look fabulous!   Never compromise on getting what you want!