Cold Feet

Lauren&Roald

So, I purchaced my gown back in May and ever since I've had second thoughts!!!
More or less, I'm just worried and unsure if I made the right choice.
Is this normal?
What should I do?

wma75

Just a suggestion, but what is giving you the second thoughts? Is it the dress and if so, what about it is giving you the jitters? Or, is it you - (sorry...deep , I know). Do you think there is a better dress that will "make" you look better?

My advice - realize that it is YOU who makes the dress beautiful - not the other way around. Look at it up close and pick out things that you like about the dress.

If you bought it, obviously there is something about it you, at least , like! If not, accept it - he is going to LOVE  YOU NO MATTER WHAT YOU ARE WEARING. All he wants is you - and you could walk down the aisle in a paper bag and he'd still be overjoyed - He gets YOU for the rest of his life!

Have fun and enjoy the moments...

Vancouver bride

nhelene

Have you had your first fitting yet?  A lot of brides feel better about their dress after they try it on again and start doing the fitting process.
 
I'm going through it too, so I think it's pretty normal.

I keep reminding myself my wedding guests won't have seen me in the other dresses that I tried on and now think I should have bought.  And they won't have seen me in the dresses I see in magazines and think I like better.

They're also not going to see any of the things I think are 'wrong' about it. 

No one is going to wonder why you picked that particular dress, because you're going to look fabulous.  There's no "wrong" choice.

Cleo7

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[QUOTE]So, I purchaced my gown back in May and <strong>ever since I've had second thoughts!!!</strong> More or less, I'm just worried and unsure if I made the right choice. Is this normal? What should I do?
Posted by Lauren&Roald[/QUOTE]

I agree with pp's that you should figure out what it is about the dress that's giving you second thoughts.  Are you freaking out because you spent a large amount of money on a dress?  Did you feel pressured to buy it?  Do you flat-out not like the dress anymore? Or is it that you haven't seen it or tried it on since May and that's making you nervous?  

It is normal to have second thoughts, but the worst thing you can do is rush out and get another dress only to have the same thing happen.  See if you can try on your dress again to see how you feel in it.  

Post some pics if you like, the knotties on this board are very helpful.  Good luck! 

tldh

Do you have the dress yet?  I had these same thoughts while I was waiting for mine to come in but as soon as I tried it on for the first fitting, I fell in love with it all over again.

Lauren&Roald

I haven't had the opportunity to try the dress or looked it in person since the day I ordered it.

When I look at pictures of it online there isn't anything I don't like about it.
I just get worry that it isn't me...or more so, I keep looking at wedding blogs and see dresses on other brides that I think might/could have been better.

I'm sure you're all right and I need to just wait for the first fitting and try it on again.
ugh too bad patients isn't a virtue I possess.

nhelene you make a good argument and it defiantly helped me gain a bit of perspective.

Thank you all for the words of advice and wisdom,
Much Appreciated!

PS there’s a pic of the gown on my knot page if you’re interested

Cleo7

I just looked @ your knot page - the gown is GORGEOUS!  Something about it just seems perfect for a winter wedding, too.

If you're worried about it not being "you", what about using accessories to personalize it?  There are so many options - colorful/funky shoes, gloves, jewelry, hairstyle, wraps/shrugs or boleros...Also, think about what made you pick the dress to being with and how you felt when you decided to go with it.

kd.joseph

That dress is beautiful.

Focus on another aspect of your wedding, take your mind off the dress for now. Stop looking at other dresses too. Yes this is a normal reaction for most brides, but thats why most of of them will tell you to stop looking.

Heck I'm married and still find dresses I love and second guess. But I had mt dress and she was perfect. And DH thought it was perfect for me. You'll be beautiful I promise.

jcbender0

Your dress is gorgeous

kallenlc

They are all right! I have been feeling the same way about mine but I keep telling myself that I just need to get back into the dress. In my heart I know it's the right one for me but it doesn't make it any easier when you see beautiful new dresses on all the websites! My advice...STOP looking at other dresses if you can help it! It won't do you any good in the long run & will only make you doubt yourself more. 

And for what it's worth...your dress is absolutely gorgeous!

Lauren&Roald

Thank you all for the wonderful feedback and helpful advice!
I really appreciate it.

mikkabonel

First off: Dress is fantastic!!  
But I am going through the EXACT same thing and I actually already have the dress:). it is hard because our tastes change through the months and I get nervous that ohers won't like it either (Which you have to get over and remember that no matter what, it's about what makee you feel comforatable and happy)...here's what I did...got the dress out of my house! Gave it to a friend to hold for me so that I didn;t obsess every ten seconds and focused on other things. Then, I went back to the dress a few weeks later and I actually fell in love all over again. I also was still nervous that the dress wouldn't be personal enough and so I met with my alterations lady and she has helped talk to me about how to incorporate color and add my own personal touches. I love this cause it becomes YOUR dress. 
YES, it is totally normal to feel this way! All of my friends who got married went through the same thing but ended up with the same dress they had doubts about. 
You will look lovely! 

coker90

I'm doing the same thing! the very first time i ever went to try on dresses it was just my mom and I, and i tried on like ten dresses and i love love love 3 of them. 2 were white and 1 was ivory. I went with the ivory one but now im having second thoughts.
Dress #1 was white and off the shoulder #2 was white with a lace up back and strapless # 3 was ivory  and strapless
A. My dress is non-returnable, so in all reality i cant change my mind ever.
B. My Grandma (dad's mom) had all boys and my whole life all she wanted was to go with me wedding dress shopping and she didnt get to go because her and grandpa were on vacation.
C. i showed my maid of honor the dresses i tried on the other day (mom had taken pictures) and she really loved one of the white ones.
D. My personal favorite was # 2 but mom kind of talked me into # 3

What do I do? Every time I talk to grandma she asks when we are going to look at dresses and i dont have the heart to tell her that mom already bought my dress.

oldmixoncm

Wow! I feel the same way too! I don't feel so alone having heard all of your responses! I never had that instant this is the one feeling, but it was the dress that i kept going back to! That is why i went with it! I cant wait to try it on again now!