Background info: my parents divorced in 2008. Everyone says both people are to blame but in this situation my dad is to blame. He lied to our church back home which caused every member of that church to blame my mom and basically told her she can no longer be a member of the church, including my fiance's parents who are the pastor of that church. After awhile his parent's finally saw the real side of my dad. My fiance and I agreed to having a ceremony of family and close friends. Our mom's ran into each other last week and my mom filled his mother in on some decisions we have been making which led to the food we would be serving. His mother mentioned that women of the church were already planning on coming to the wedding and will probably make salads. I was quite mad at hearing this. We haven't sent out save-the-dates or invitaitons yet and people that we aren't inviting are saying they are comign to our wedding. WHO DOES THAT?! There are only 2 families at that church that will be invited. I don't want strangers, unless they are his family that I haven't met yet, at our wedding, especially people who were cruel to my mom! In my opinion you invite people who are important to the bride and groom not anyone else. Fiance will be talking to him mom to let her know we aren't inviting their church, that if they want to do something they can throw me a shower or host a reception like they did for their other two sons.
Sorry it was a bit long, it just irritates me.