Hello December brides. I'm a long time lurker on Knot, posting occassionally. I'm in need of opinons/advice. Fiance & I want our date to be 12/21/12. I know alot of people are doing that to celebrate the supposed end of the world. We are doing it because it's the Winter Solstice, and Yule (we are both Pagan, having open pagan ceremony). SO to us it has major significance. Here is my issue:
His family mostly all resides in MN. Most my family is in CA, as are we, so we are having our wedding based on our location. I understand that half his family may not come (no invites sent out yet) being that it's so far and travel costs during Dec tend to be ridiculous. But for financial reasons (we are DIY and extremely budgeted) we can't afford to have the wedding sooner than this. During last xmas, I met his family in MN. Great time. But, his sort of adopted mom (his best friend/best man's mom) made the lovely comment: " oh no you can't have your wedding on 12/21! I'm hosting an xmas party. Do you know how many days will be taken up preparing for that?!"
Now, I totally understand that having the wedding 4 days before xmas is cutting it close. Esp since, like I said, most his family has to travel from MN to CA. However, the Winter Solstice is very special to our beliefs, and it is afterall OUR wedding. I want his family (who can come) to be able to plan for it, but now I'm worried that members, like his "adoptive mom" wont come because of their own events. She especially is very important to my fiance, and I know he would be crushed if she weren't there. But at the same time, noone else made any comments about the date, if only to say "well you better get planning!".
So ultimately, I just need to know how to handle this. Do we try to find a different date to accomodate this one family member (as noone else seems to have a problem) or do we continue with our plans and just regret if she doesnt come?