need to vent long

Mrs.B6302007

OP - I totally understand the part where you said you wished you hadn't rushed, listened to people, etc.  I've been there at about the same age, too.   Sadly, I went through with the engagement and walked down the aisle anyway.  I could have avoided a divorce if I had been mature enough to listen to my loved ones.

You have that chance that I didn't give myself.  You know this guy isn't for you so please do what you know you gotta do.  YOU come first, not this d-bag.  He isn't worth it.

BecW2be

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[QUOTE]thanks. its hard for me to swallow my pride right now. im feeling pissed and stupid for rushing. I wish I had listened to people when they reminded me that just because i might be ready to settle down he might not be. how to know your man isn't ready to settle down. Strippers hes friends with friend request you on facebook. yeah. I've gotten three friend requests from strippers he's 'friends with' AHAHAHAHHA friends, that's funny I don't give my friends one dollar bills to take their clothes i give them dollar bills to chip in for post work food and drinks.
Posted by LAMuehlen[/QUOTE]

<div>If you think it's hard to swallow your pride and admit you're wrong now, wait until you're married to him and have his kids. THAT'S hard. Get out. Now. </div><div>
</div><div>Blue said what I wanted to. Why do people complain about how a guy in his young 20s is acting, when it's exactly how guys in their young 20s act? Not that it's an excuse to act like a diick, but he's clearly acting like a diick and you don't have to stay in that situation. </div>

RailWayWife

Wow that was a long one to read.

I think you need to go home and have a serious talk with him tonight.
Does he know all these things are bugging you? Does he know how much its bugging you?

mbody

Run and don't look back. I'm sorry, but this has trouble written alllll over it! Don't get yourself stuck in an unhappy relationship.

RailWayWife

 

BTW I would love to know what "Normal" 23 behavior is. I am 21 and my FI is 24 and we in no way act like this. He is in his career & is very responsible, as are most of his friends.

 

 

 

msuprincess04

Run. Just run. You'll find happiness elsewhere.

LVK033

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[QUOTE]I feel like im at the red flag convention...
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Bahahaha. THIS made my day.

LAMuehlen

well we talked last night. thought we made up. thought things were gonna get better. NOPE! tonight he took off for his parents house two hours away leaving me at home. thank god my mom and dad took me in for the night so i didn't have to be pissed alone.

OH!! And last night when I tried to instigate some loving he denied me saying he was too tired(he seriously slept till 8:30 at night!) and i said fine what ever I'm taking a shower. By the time I get out of the shower he's getting ready to go out with friends.

Now i find out he's been talking smack about me to his friends and anyone who will listen. and he's mad that theres a slightly older guy at work who likes me and is NICE to me. I have a shoulder injury that I'm recovering from and this guy actually helps me with my work. really someone who has a crush on me is nicer to me than my man child fiance. I'm stressed.. but i'm hurt. we were skyping as a family with my sister, brother-in-law and new nephew(he's two days old and beautiful by the way) and he didn't even show up for it. really? I'm there for every court date in his family and he cant show up for a FLIPPIN SKYPE CALL FROM MY SISTER AND HER HUSBAND! This relationships hanging on by a thread. looks like marriage counsling will be good for us tomorrow. cause if i cant get a straight answer I'm cutting my losses kicking him out and moving my bestie in with me then taking my butt to school. I want things to improve but if he can't grow up maybe I should go find a grown up man. not a child

ronik77

Good! do what's best for you. honey I've been there. I got married the first time @19. When they're talking crap, hiding things like their cell phone, refusing to participate in your family activities. They're not in it for the long haul.

the School idea sounds great. you're at the age where that's where you need to be. I kick myself everyday that I have to come to my low paying job because I fell for a loser who was a sweet talker and didn't go to school.

Like somebody said earlier, if it's meant to be, Karma will fix it.

 I ended up where I was supposed to be. sounds kind of funny, but I'm marrying my high school sweetheart. Now if I had married him when I was 19 instead of the ExH.... we probably would have been in the same place. HE wasn't ready to be a married, responsible adult. Now we're 35 and he didn't start to grow up until we were 30.

When it's the right one, you'll know it. All couples have arguments about dirty socks and taking out the trash, but what you're going through.... it's not worth it honey.

I hope you find peace and resolve within yourself to make the best decision for you.