Sister engaged 2 weeks before wedding

Jbelle1991

So my sister just got engaged 2 weeks before my wedding and planning on being married this May. Is it normal to be feeling ignored  when everyone is excited for her?

anna.oskar

Sure it's normal.  But if you let yourself be happy for her you'll get over it.  You're about to be the bride!  I assure you that you'll get your day.  i assume everyone was happy and gushy when you got engaged.  Let her have a bit too.  Don't be selfish.  As cliche as it is, you get one day.

jennylee813

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[QUOTE]Believe me, you will be the center of attention on your wedding day. Be happy for her! I would actually probably mention her engagement at your reception. People will still be celebrating you & your new H but imagine how ecstatic your sister will feel. Win-win!
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

All of this. And yes, mentioning her engagement at your wedding will give her a thrill while taking nothing away from your day.

And yes, it's totally normal to feel ignored, but that will pass as you get closer to your own day. Eep! It's in two weeks!

lovelybride614

Totally normal but I agree with the PP's. Nothing will take away from your day. Take a moment, feel how you feel and then finish getting ready for your day! Congrats and good luck

DaveandRoxy

In my culture it is frowned upon to marry within a year of a siblings wedding. It's considered bad luck because it's sort of seen as trying to steal the spot light. It's called sukob. So with that said, I'm probably a little biased when I say it's totally normal to feel ignored and if it were me I'd probably be a little upset. But, I guess it's a cultural thing.

crumej

To be honest, no one lives in the excitement of your upcoming day like you do.  They're not in your shoes.  People get happy and exciting and in a fuss over an engagement, but that dies down pretty quickly.  Wedding planning is a chore, and to be honest, gets old when it's not your own.  It's nothing personal, it's just that no one can keep that wedding high like you can.  They care, but it's not them getting married.

You'll be the center of attention on your wedding day.  Be happy for her, congratulate her like you would want people to congratulate you and she'll do the same for you on your day.

Ajuliana

I think sometimes, one sibling getting engaged/married puts the idea into a sibling and their partner's minds.  Kind of like, if they had been talking about getting engaged, then all of a sudden their sibling is getting married, it jump starts their own process.  

So think of it as a form of flattery.  PLUS you can keep talking about your wedding for the next year while using it as an example for hers.  I'd call this a win.

Sjones18211

"To be honest, no one lives in the excitement of your upcoming day like you do.  They're not in your shoes.  People get happy and exciting and in a fuss over an engagement, but that dies down pretty quickly.  Wedding planning is a chore, and to be honest, gets old when it's not your own.  It's nothing personal, it's just that no one can keep that wedding high like you can.  They care, but it's not them getting married."

I do agree with crumej... but believe me Jbelle, I would probably feel the same way you do! 

my mom threatened to get married to her very new boyfriend before my wedding happens... so be thankful its your sister