So, I will try to make this LOOOOG story short. My fiance and I have been together since 1999. We got together under less than desirable circumstances...by this I mean he was married and I was engaged. Both of having children with our partners at the time. Before you hate me, please know, if I could go back I would not have done that but I was all but 21 years old. Having been in an abusive relationship with the same man since I was 11 and having a child at 16, I suppose I made some really bad choices then. This choice however brought me to my fiance now. He was married and told me he was getting a divorce. After a few years of him lying to me and his wife, I left him. He decided at that time to be with me and that is how it's been ever since 2003. We moved in together and in the meantime he didn't file for divorce. We fought about this because I never felt I could move on. I didn't actually feel the desire to marry him until about 2009. Finally my fiance got off his ass and filed for divorce on 3/19/2010. This divorce was to be final 9/19/2010. In December 2010, he proposed to me, I said YES! Now, fast forward to today....I have been telling this man that he needs to go to the court house to make sure the divorce was final and get the papers so we can get our marriage license. We are 22 days away from our wedding today and he went a week ago today only to find out, HE IS NOT DIVORCED AND IT WILL NOT BE FINAL UNTIL 3/2013!!!
Needless to say I was PISSED! I threatened to not go through with it and leave him. On top of that, I planned this whole wedding for almost 2 years, by myself! Now I have to somehow go through with it when I know it's not real and a few select friends and family know. I am just devastated over this and am not sure I can go through with it. I am so angry and hurt and disappointed. Our plan is to have the ceremony and reception as planned on 10/13/12 and to actually be married legally in March 2013 when his divorce is finally FINAL.
I really need some advice....WHAT WOULD YOU DO??? WALK DOWN THE AISLE OR WALK AWAY??