Would you ladies care if your FI had a woman at his bachelor party as a guest? Does a bachelor party have to be 'boys only'? Or is it more about hanging out with his friends and if this includes women, so be it?
FWIW, this has nothing to do with me. FI has a best woman, so clearly there will be at least one woman at his bachelor party. It is just something that came up on my month board and I feel like I am the only one who doesn't care about women being at a bachelor party...
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H had never had close female friends, so I would have found it off. On the flip side, I have many male friends. H knows them all, and he doesn't always come when we hang out.
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is she hot like beatlesgirl? if so, she definitely wouldn't be allowed.
as long as she isn't an ex or someone who flirts with him i'd be cool with it.
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Eh, I think I would be a little concerned if I knew there were going to be a bunch of drunk men and 1 female elected to go. The little voice in my head would wonder what agenda she would have to be going to a party with all guys.
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also, i find it difficult to fairly answer this because there are no women in steve's life who are closer to him than they are to me. the odds of them going to his bachelor party instead of hanging out with me are...well, none.
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oh. my. god.
And I totally agree what you said about how even while trusting your FI/H, another woman trying is disrespectful.
OP, I'm with others that it really depends on the woman. But my gut reaction is that in principle, as long as she's not trying to worm her way in with FI, I don't think I'd see a problem with a groomswoman going to the bachelor party.
Seriously, at least 90% of his friends are girls. It is not a big deal at all.
[QUOTE]Eh, I think I would be a little concerned if I knew there were going to be a bunch of drunk men and 1 female elected to go. The little voice in my head would wonder what agenda she would have to be going to a party with all guys.
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I agree with this. What kind of girl would want to be the only female present at a bachelor party? Sounds odd to me.
One of H's female friends used to work for him. I always found it odd because she's kind of girly and he works outside in the dirt (later decided it was because he takes his shirt off most of the time when it's hot out), and he said they never talked about dating or even going out to eat together. Then I came into the picture and suddenly she was asking him every other day to go out to eat or to see a movie, which he never did. Now, she rarely botheres to talk to him.
So yeah, I don't trust 1 woman at a party of all dudes.
an ex or someone that doesn't know their limits (the fi had a co-worker that would call him ALL the time and would only hang out when I wasn't available and always declined coming over or doing stuff when invited...which was fishy) so that could be weird
but if my fi had a girl that was that close to him then fine no biggie, but knowing my fi he would probably suggest she come out with the girls...
if a girl was persistent in wanting to go that might be odd too
guess there are lots of variables to factor in
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I have several close girl friends that I hang out with regularly, sometimes FI comes, sometimes she doesn't, but I think the type of bachelor party would really dictate whether I'd want any of them invited. I mean some guys want to have a bachelor party where their closest friends come and they go do something they wouldn't normally do like jump out of a plane or go to a fancy restaurant, etc. and having girls and guys go would not seem that weird to me. Other guys just want to go out and get drunk with their friends and then it would seem kind of weird to me to have a girl there becuase most likely there will be a bunch of 'guy talk' that would not be appropriate in front of a girl. But the fiancee doesn't typically know what kind of party is being planned so I guess the answer is that there is no good answer unless you know the entire situation and then you shoudn't need the help of some web forum to determine if it's cool or not lol.
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