WWSBD?

daniellelmilczak

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Bkseller13

Quit talking about your plans to conceive with her.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Um.  Your family planning is none of her business.

daniellelmilczak

Further explanation: I only mentioned the possibility for family plans because of my understanding of her irrational fear of PG women.

I'm still listening. You ladies give very good, candid advice.

LetsHikeToday

That's weird to me. I'm pregnant and not able to go to either of the weddings I was supposed to be in. My friends never once asked me if I was planning on trying to get pregnant nor did they say they didn't want me in their pictures being pregnant. I'd say no because that's an assholish thing to say to you.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Maybe this makes me a douche but I don't think being irrationally afraid of pregnant women is any less ridiculous than being afraid of I dunno, the passage of time.  Both of these things are realities and the sooner this chick understands that the better off she'll be. 

amyb140

How does this crazy avoid pregnant women in her day-to-day life?  Is she not going to be friends with you anymore if you're knocked up?  Can you not attend the wedding at all or is it just about the pictures?  Honestly, she sounds like a selfish weirdo.

Speaking of pictures, I've always thought that all these fears about what people will look like in your pics are stupid (pregnancy, tattoos, weight, matching shoes/dresses, etc.)  I mean, people don't match in general in pics.  Also, I've looked at my wedding pictures about twice and don't even have an album yet.

celticmyss

If my friend was more worried about me ruining her wedding pictures and creeping her out because I was KU than our relationship I wouldn't be in her wedding period. 

I like Dot's idea too. 

NuggetBrain

I'd save the placenta, show up at her wedding and throw it in her face as she's walking down the aisle. Because if she's going to have severe fears of pregly ladies I'd want to make sure it was f*cking warranted.

NicoleSahara

Dot's feisty today I'd probably step down, you don't want her all paranoid about you getting KU. And I'd tell her that's why you weren't going to be a BM, hopefully she'd see how silly that is. But maybe not.

Nina0528

I wouldn't be in that wedding. Sounds like boatloads of crazy waiting to happen. If you are pregnant by her wedding, are you even allowed to attend?

AceTT

Your friend sounds really, really weird.

I like the placenta idea.

Starmusica

ok honestly OP- what kind of friend would say to your face that she would be weirded out if you were pregnant? To me- she's not a true friend- stupid fears aside. I would personally say that since she already told u you are only welcome if you are not pregnant, maybe you should consider not being in it. Was she serious? or was she joking? This is one of the weirdest things I've ever heard.

chelseamb11

If your friend is making you vow to not get PG in the time of her wedding, then I'd step down. Why is she asking you this far in advance anyway?

polichik

Ok, I might be able to get past the weir phobia thing, but the whole needing to have even sides thing really turns me off. That's just rude and shallow, and if I really felt like we were good friends, I'd call her on it.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Personally I think placenta smoothies are the way to go.  A little OJ, a little yogurt.  You can't even taste the placenta.

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]I'd save the placenta, show up at her wedding and throw it in her face as she's walking down the aisle. Because if she's going to have severe fears of pregly ladies I'd want to make sure it was f*cking warranted.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

<div>Why not make a cute bear out of it?</div><div>
</div><div>I would politely decline. The last thing a pregnant girl needs is to be stressed about stressing out a friend because she is pregnant. That doesn't even make sense. </div><div>
</div><div>ETA: JCB said it first that's what I get for skimming. </div>

jemmini6

Perhaps you should suggest your friend see a therapist?  Being creeped out by pregnant women to the extent that she'd kick a friend out of her wedding for it doesn't sound healthy.

NicoleSahara

Ok I really need to stop coming in here...::gags::

LP11509

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[QUOTE]I would probably invite her over for dinner to discuss it. Serve placenta spaghetti, but don't tell her ahead of time what it is.  Then if she sticks to her position, ask her "How can you be so anti-pregnancy? You just ate a placenta." Something tells me her wedding will be the least of your problems at that point. For your convenience, here is a recipe. <a href="http://www.mothers35plus.co.uk/plac_rec2.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.mothers35plus.co.uk/plac_rec2.htm</a>
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]

<div>I prefer mine dehydrated.  Nothing like a little placenta in my coffee l to kick start my day. </div><div>
</div><div>Seriously though - OP, I would just decline to be in the wedding.  Though I think the fact that you had to sit her down and explain that there is a possibility that a married women of child bearing age might be pregnant in a year is weird.  Personally, I wouldn't have done that. Presumably she  knows how the birds and bees work and already realizes that sometimes, things happen that we don't plan on. I don't know, in my head when I picture this conversation it just seems a little...condescending somehow, I guess?  Maybe that's not the right word, but meh.  </div>

NuggetBrain

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[QUOTE]Balls.  Andrew Zimmern ate cow placenta on Bizarre Foods last night.  While we were eating sushi.  Right off the ground where the cow birthed it.  Raw.   ::shudder:: ETA: spelling
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

That dude must have the <em>worst</em> gas.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

You could also dry out the placenta and grate some over your salad.  That could be pretty chic.

Wtf are we talking about again?

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]You could also dry out the placenta and grate some over your salad.  That could be pretty chic. Wtf are we talking about again?
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

<div>Ugh....</div>

jemmini6

I've heard placenta makes for a lovely shampoo as well.  Bridal shower gift?

angelstar975

OP, has your friend considered seeing someone about this? Therapy for phobias can be pretty successful and seeing as there's no way for her to avoid pregnant women for the rest of her life, it would really be in her best interest to seek treatment.

As far as what to do about the wedding, I'd leave it up to her. I'd be like, "I would love to be a bridesmaid in your wedding. However, I honestly cannot tell you if I will be pregnant 1.5 years from now. I'm not going to be able to plan TTC around your wedding. Please decide from that information whether or not you want me in the wedding."

This is really one of the weirdest things I've ever heard. Do you have any idea where this phobia came from? I'm scared shitless of fire and people think that's really weird, but this is just nuts to me.

carabu1210

Ok Ladies here it goes,
I am the future SIL, current BFF and MOH to this upcoming bride and wedding!! I think that the question initially asked has many holes that many of you DO NOT know about! Anyone including the BM who posted this, knows that the bride has pregnancy issues. We may not understand them, but they are as real to her as fear of spiders or crowds are to others, so who are we to judge her fears, that she is currently working on!!!! I dont imagine that this conversation went exactly as you all think it went, to my knowledge the BM asked the Bride and initiated the topic, it is not like the Bride is going around interviewing all of us about our family planning details. Now, you are probably thinking she is vein and only cares about what her bridal party looks like well you couldnt be further from wrong.....there are woman of all sizes and ages in her wedding. She has an overweight bridesmaid, her FG 50 year old Aunt, her 9 year old niece, a woman with braces and one with glasses in her wedding, her ONLY concern is her fear of pregnancy , which is no one elses problem but hers. How dare anyone assume she is being a bitch......why should she suffer on her wedding day??? I am a mother of 3, this bride has sucked it up, brought me to the hospital, came to my baby shower and is the best Aunt to my kids, but all those things were for ME....this wedding is about HER so why should she have the shakes, be uncomfortable and medicated on HER wedding?? She loves this bridesmaid very much and it is not a personal thing, this is an issue she seeks treatment for and maybe in 18 months it will be a non issue, but today it is. And as for her wanting her bridal party even, I wanted mine even, and so do many people. Again, this is her day, NO one elses. This question was a very simple one and many of you could have answered a little nicer, I think the bridesmaid in question just wanted a few pieces of advise not for you to rip my SIL a new one!! You should know the facts before you go running around saying some very inappropriate things!!

amyb140

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[QUOTE]Ok Ladies here it goes, I am the future SIL, current BFF and MOH to this upcoming bride and wedding!! I think that the question initially asked has many holes that many of you DO NOT know about! Anyone including the BM who posted this, knows that the bride has pregnancy issues. We may not understand them, but they are as real to her as fear of spiders or crowds are to others, so who are we to judge her fears, that she is currently working on!!!! I dont imagine that this conversation went exactly as you all think it went, to my knowledge the BM asked the Bride and initiated the topic, it is not like the Bride is going around interviewing all of us about our family planning details. Now,<strong> you are probably thinking she is vein </strong>and only cares about what her bridal party looks like well you couldnt be further from wrong.....there are woman of all sizes and ages in her wedding. She has an overweight bridesmaid, her FG 50 year old Aunt, her 9 year old niece, a woman with braces and one with glasses in her wedding, her ONLY concern is her fear of pregnancy , which is no one elses problem but hers. How dare anyone assume she is being a bitch......why should she suffer on her wedding day??? I am a mother of 3, this bride has sucked it up, brought me to the hospital, came to my baby shower and is the best Aunt to my kids, but all those things were for ME....this wedding is about HER so why should she have the shakes, be uncomfortable and medicated on HER wedding?? She loves this bridesmaid very much and it is not a personal thing, this is an issue she seeks treatment for and maybe in 18 months it will be a non issue, but today it is. And as for her wanting her bridal party even, I wanted mine even, and so do many people. Again, this is her day, NO one elses. This question was a very simple one and many of you could have answered a little nicer, I think the bridesmaid in question just wanted a few pieces of advise not for you to rip my SIL a new one!! <strong>You should know the facts before you go running around saying some very inappropriate things!!</strong>
Posted by carabu1210[/QUOTE]
1)  Actually I was thinking she was artery.<div>2)  So . . . how were we to know "the facts" if the OP didn't post them?</div>

musicalsunlight

What the hell.

chrryblndchick

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[QUOTE]Ok Ladies here it goes, I am the future SIL, current BFF and MOH to this upcoming bride and wedding!! I think that the question initially asked has many holes that many of you DO NOT know about! Anyone including the BM who posted this, knows that the bride has pregnancy issues. We may not understand them, but they are as real to her as fear of spiders or crowds are to others, so who are we to judge her fears, that she is currently working on!!!! I dont imagine that this conversation went exactly as you all think it went, to my knowledge the BM asked the Bride and initiated the topic, it is not like the Bride is going around interviewing all of us about our family planning details. Now, you are probably thinking she is vein and only cares about what her bridal party looks like well you couldnt be further from wrong.....there are woman of all sizes and ages in her wedding. She has an overweight bridesmaid, her FG 50 year old Aunt, her 9 year old niece, a woman with braces and one with glasses in her wedding, her ONLY concern is her fear of pregnancy , which is no one elses problem but hers. How dare anyone assume she is being a bitch......why should she suffer on her wedding day??? I am a mother of 3, this bride has sucked it up, brought me to the hospital, came to my baby shower and is the best Aunt to my kids, but all those things were for ME....this wedding is about HER so why should she have the shakes, be uncomfortable and medicated on HER wedding?? She loves this bridesmaid very much and it is not a personal thing, this is an issue she seeks treatment for and maybe in 18 months it will be a non issue, but today it is. And as for her wanting her bridal party even, I wanted mine even, and so do many people. Again, this is her day, NO one elses. This question was a very simple one and many of you could have answered a little nicer, I think the bridesmaid in question just wanted a few pieces of advise not for you to rip my SIL a new one!! You should know the facts before you go running around saying some very inappropriate things!!
Posted by carabu1210[/QUOTE]

First of all, you don't need to end every sentence with multiple exclamations points. It makes it hard to take anything you say seriously when you write like a 12 year old girl.

It's great she's getting help and that her BM was concerned and considerate enough to mention it to the bride. But as PP has already said, we only know what OP gave us. Also, the mere potential for uneven sides is not enough for the BM to step down. This is a purely hypothetical situation. Wanting even sides is fine, but it is not the end of the world if they end up uneven.

It is NOT "her day," it is her and her FI's day. This is a pet peeve of mine, that it's the bride's day, it's all about her, blah blah blah. Not true, it's about two people joining together and when you invite other people to be a part of that you also have to take them into account.