More parenting theoreticals

Vinny08

I just had lunch with my sister and her 7 year old daughter.  On the way back, I was in the middle of telling my sister something.  Her daughter started doing the, "Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom"  in the backseat.  My sister told her to wait until I finish my story.So then I finish and my niece can't remember what she was going to say.  For the next 10 minutes of the car ride, she sat there forcing herself to cry and yelling at my sister for making her forget what she was going to say.  "You should have just let me say what I wanted to say!  You made me forget!"My sister did what my sister usually does.  She talks to her calmly and explains that she needs to wait her turn, Auntie Vinny was in the middle of a story, etc...Her daughter just continues to yell at my sister.It seems her parenting technique is just to try to ignore her daughter.  She will always try to calmly explain things at first, but she gets to a point where she just does whatever she can to get her kid to shut up.So, for all of that explanation, how do you/plan to instill respect in your kids?  I respected my parents as a kid.  I was always afraid of disappointing them and making them angry.  They were not stern with me.  I never saw the backhand or anything like that.  I would NEVER try to argue something with them like that, even as a 7 year old.

wingedbride

I think consistency is key. If you let a child get away with some behaviors some of the time, they are going to push. There are times that all kids push boundaries anyway no matter what parenting style you use. I think that is just natural. Kids get spoiled way to frickin much these days. I plan on not doing that. I also think you ahv to lead by example. I see parents fall out in front of their kids all of the time and am not surprised when the kids do the same.

notquiteblushing

Obviously when your did won't say "hi mommy" you just starve and humilate him and then finish off with a 30 minute spanking. Actually I don't know yet.  Most kids that I see that are brats are spoiled so it seems like your sister is doing the right thing.

Vinny08

I agree Winged.  I see this happen all of the time: a kid asks for something (candy, a toy, whatever).  The parent says no 47 times.  On the 48th time of asking, the parent gives in.  If your kid knows that they will eventually get what they want, why would they stop obsessing about it? By the way, what are you still doing awake?  Isn't it late in your neck of the woods?

wingedbride

It's 10. I am sitting here with my MIL waiting for my H to get home. This computer is keeping me sane. I am currently reading an email from a mail order russian bride who apparently wants me to rescue her.

HappyTummy613

"You should have just let me say what I wanted to say! You made me forget!"My instinctual response was, "maybe if you were smarter, you wouldn't forget things so quickly." My second response was, "the world doesn't revolve around you."I think I'm too mean to raise a child.

FallinAgain

I'm so freaking impressed that your sister didn't let her interrupt in the first place that I don't think that the rest is that bad.  I sometimes think ignoring the fit is the best way to handle it, but I wouldn't go for the yelling at me part.

wendyld

And Fallin sums it up perfectly as usual.