FI and I are FINALLY official!! But when we told his family about it, we also mentioned that we were considering an adults-only wedding. We were told that there would be hurt feelings, but were in NO WAY prepared for what has happened.We have gotten phone calls, screaming at us, guilt trips, and any other host of things so that FI's two aunts can bring their children. His grandmother refuses to come if we do not include the children. We could handle all this, if it weren't for the fact that his parents told us in no uncertain terms that "it is NOT your day, it is everyone else's day". His father told us that he would take the money they would contribute to the honeymoon to a bigger venue so that we can have *everybody* at the wedding.We do not WANT children at our wedding. There are specific kids in our family that we simply could not handle, as their parents don't really keep them behaved, and we can't invite some children and not all children. So I guess my question is this: Is it really so wrong of us to want this to go our way? It isn't even that they want their kids to see us get married- when we told them that their drama was making us consider eloping and then having a reception later, the answer was "well the kids won't be invited to that either!"We are having a late-night ceremony and reception, with copious amounts of alcohol and loud music. It is not the appropriate atmosphere for children, to my way of thinking.At this point, even the idea of compromise is beyond them. To them, either their children are COMPLETELY included, or none of his family comes. Is it really fair of two aunts and a grandmother to hijack what is supposed to be the only day that is what WE want??