FF Friday

bridgetlb

i've never started one off.... so here i go!!!


If one more person at my work that i cheerfully say "good morning" too, and they completely ignore me or look at me like i'm crazy.... i'm going to scream!!!!! how rude can people be! are you kidding me!!! would it be better for me to text everyone "good morning"? bet they'd respond to that!!!

lesalyric

A friend/BM wants to get married this time next year. She refuses to plan or do anything right now even though she wants to spend less than $5000 total on her wedding and have a full Catholic mass; her FI is not a Catholic and they are members of no church or parish.

We were talking about it last night and she said "well, I think I am just going to get married where you are and use all of your vendors so you can do all of the work for me." She was being serious.

I know they say imitation is the highest form of flattery, but I just feel put out with her right now.

Also -- Good morning to you Bridget!!

shortgirltx

I still have not cleaned my dress.

I'm getting annoyed at my dad 'making me' acknowledge my step mother on Mothers Day (in the past my mom took up the entire weekend and all the energy I could muster, now it's less draining) and her birthday by calling and sending a card/present.  Well I've been sending a card/present and calling for the last several years but she nevers answers, hardly says thanks for anything we do get her for anything.  Yet I don't get a card or even a call for my birthday.  I know no one has to acknowledge my birthday, giving a gift isn't based on getting a thanks in return but it's lame that I *have to* do for her but I get nothing in return.  Maybe I'll just do cards.

sparklingdiamond

I'm frustrated right now because my dad and my stepmom are possibly going through  a divorce and I have talked to my dad everyday about it.  I don't mind listening and I know he needs someone to talk to....but it is a little draining sometimes.  I do feel guilty for feeling that way though :-(

ewinkler1977

My allergies are kicking my butt. I have a migraine all day and I have to listen to these kids, most of who don't behave, all day.  I'm so ready for summer.  Also wondering when I will stop having allergy problems.

tnickel06

Even though I really didn't like all the wedding planning, I am sort of missing it. I have nothing to do except work. I need to find a new hobby!

Tiffany618

I have a weird work situation.   I don't technically have a local boss (he is in NJ) and I work directly with local managers in almost 20 cities around the country.

Well...I didn't invite the Dallas local managers to the wedding.  We aren't close and never hang out outside of work, etc.  FI invited his boss (same company, different department) because she has non-work related events at her home and he has been invited on multiple occasions, etc.

Now I feel really bad for not inviting the local managers here...especially after they hooked us up with the car yesterday. 

fallbride1109

I also haven't cleaned my dress.  And I cut my straps off of it so it's sort of just in a sad heap in the corner of my closet.

I didn't call Ben's mother on Mother's Day.  I celebrated with my own mother and daughter then came home and took a nap.  He called his mother and grandmother and gave them cards.  The other day when he called his grandmother, she cried on the phone for 5 minutes saying I don't like her and why didn't I call.  Um, because you're not my grandmother?  Now I don't know what to do.  But I still don't think I was wrong.

juliebug1997

Bill called his mother on Mother's Day and we spent it with mine.  He sent her a gift certificate to Amazon; I'm not sure if he put my name on it.  I really don't care.  If they can't acknowledge my birthday or the fact that I was even in the hospital then why should I waste my time and effort only to be shot down later and feel hurt and disappointed?  My goal for the future is to **try** not to take things personally when it comes to them.  However, I'm pretty sure they're going to have a fit when Bill tells them that we're only coming down for three days this year at Christmas and that we won't be staying with them.  This past Christmas, I was directly spoken to by my IL's approximately ten times.  I virtually did not exist. 

Once TAKS and AP Tests are over, we might as well not even school in my district.  These next two weeks are a waste of time for us and the kids and they have totally checked out. 

shortgirltx

I think along the same lines Stephie.  They aren't your grandmother or mother, they are our DH's.  However if I had a better relationship with MIL and GMIL (and in the past when we did) I might be inclined to do something but it just depends on each person.  What did Ben have to say about it?

juliebug1997

Now that I think about it, I should have sent Mother's Day cards to his aunts and grandmother.  They actually like me and I love them all very much.  I think I'll go find some "Just Because" cards later today and send them off. 

If I had a better relationship with MIL, then I'd do it.  I also wouldn't have a problem with us going down to be with her on Mother's Day every couple of years.  I don't know...

fallbride1109

He said I need to call them but left it up to me.  He said they are just very sensitive.  His mother got upset at Christmas when I didn't invite them to my family's Christmas party.  Um, hello, you're Jewish?!

His family is very nice, love me and my daughter, visit my grandmother when she's in the hospital even though they are way across town, etc.  They are very dear people and our relationship is very good.  But he has a very different relationship with his parents than I have with mine.   I guess I just need to be more sensitive.  It's not my strongest trait.

bsn1752

My dad - ugh.  I know I've complained about him before but I just don't know how someone can be so disconnected.  Everyone seems to think that he is so great and I just don't see it... my mom passed away when I was 11 years old, and maybe it's just my fault for thinking/assuming he would step up and kinda act as both parents throughout everything.  On Father's Day/His Birthday, we make a big deal... go to dinner as a family, have a bbq, shower him in gifts, etc.  For mother's day... you know what he did for me?  Sent me a text at 10 pm on Sunday saying, "happy mom's day".  WHY WHY WHY do I let it bother me so much?? 

On top of that, he can't even answer my email/text/call asking him about our father/daughter dance at our wedding.  Is it wrong that I would rather have my grandfather (whom I love with all of my heart, he is so supportive and loving) walk me down the aisle??

Sorry for the rant, it just bugs to crap out of me.

-Brianna

Tiffany618

Stephie -  I don't think your wrong at all, they aren't your mother/grandmothers.   If DH's grandmother feels that way then she probably considers you as one of her own, which I think is pretty awesome. 

Maybe you could do something for them, "just because", like Julie said.  To make them feel special to you.

juliebug1997

I'm watching Casey James on KKiTM right now with no sound.  The sound doesn't really matter--he's just cute.  And I don't normally like guys with longer hair.

emimayor

We sent cards to his mother and grandmother who both live out of town. And I briefly spoke to  my MIL on Mother's Day, thanking her for sending me my first Mom-to-Be card. I don't think it would have been a big deal if I had not spoken to her, but out of respect to my husband and his family, I feel it is necessary to acknowledge it yourself, regardless of whose parent it is. Thats just me... I also have a great relationship with my MIL. The grandmother was just a nice gesture and something that I have to push or else Jeff will forget. She's 90; she enjoys cards and she sends us cards all the time.

My mom is passed on so it is a little more difficult and I think my MIL understands and sympathizes, but I still can't use that as an excuse to not recognize her too.

I still cleaned my dress, either.

stephl3055

I'm glad I'm not the only one having IL issues.  We haven't spoken to anyone in David's family (except his older sister) in 2 months.  We didn't see his mom for Mother's Day or sent her a card or anything. 

She blew up at David after Christmas saying that she wants me to call her Mom and it was upsetting her that I wasn't.  I told David that if she treated me half as well as she treated her own children then I would consider it.  She has double standards for everything and actually told David that all she really cared about was getting her 2 daughers married and then after that she could rest easy because her job was done.  She didn't seem to care about the fact that she has 4 sons. 

I hate that he's pretty much cut his entire family out of our lives, but this is the most peaceful I've felt in years because his family isn't calling every 10 minutes asking us to come over or fix something for them. 

bsn1752

I am so sorry for everyone's IL issues... I am so lucky to have a FMIL that completely acts like my mother/best friend... now my future BIL and his wife... are a different story.  Neither of them miss a chance to put me down or make me the butt of the joke... and normally I wouldn't lie down and take it, but for the sake of my FI, I have to be nice. UGH!  Don't you wish you could tell them all where to stick it?!

shortgirltx

I'd love to tell some people where to stick it.

Jay+Marissa

Once TAKS and AP Tests are over, we might as well not even school in my district.  These next two weeks are a waste of time for us and the kids and they have totally checked out.

That always pissed me off when I was in school. Just let me go home if you aren't going to teach!

fallbride1109

Ok, I didn't want to do this, but I'm flaming Nicole for not AWing her wedding pictures.  I waited patiently all day yesterday for them and everything.

llc2011

Stephie - I saw them on the blog earlier this week, they're very pretty!

I'm going to flame Auto zone for selling Chris a POS fuel pump.  Long story short, he had issues with his car back in January, my mom and brother helped to take his car and get it fixed.  Now not even 4 months later, same problem...repair guy at Good Year told me they didn't trust/use Auto Zone for that exact reason. 

Well after paying for 2 fuel pumps and labor, you better believe we are taking that defective one to Auto Zone and I will let them have it.  As my family calls it, it's my "West Indian" temper that I get from my dad.

Terriniski

Lesalyric - I'm pretty sure my mom will do the same thing with my sisters' weddings.  I wouldn't be surprised if my mom suggests they wear my wedding dress because I'll never wear it again.  Oy, some people...

SarahandAlex2010

aw I am sorry for everybody IL issues. I have a great relationship with my IL's and I am very glad! For awhile we didnt get along but they have started to accept me because they realize their son is happy with me. I have to agree with Emi, even though she is not my mother, we still spent some time with her and bought her flowers out of respect to my FI. He has that respect for my parents as well so I show the same.

juliebug1997

Marissa,
I want to teach.  The kids have shut down their brains.

Donnaaries

Stephie, sounds like they're a sensitive family.  FI's side is the same.  For practically every phone call, we're on speaker phone speaking to them as a "unit" instead of just him calling them.  It's sorta funny.  They're a lot more formal than my family, so now I just make an extra effort to do things like send cards whereas in my family an email is considered totally acceptable for all occasions

Jay+Marissa

Haha, Julie, I don't doubt that. I just hated sitting doing nothing after AP tests, because there really wasn't anything to do. But heaven forbid LISD doesn't get every penny for having us there ridiculously long time.

In other news, our apartment complex gave us a 3 page list of things to clean before we left. REALLY? Apparently they don't plan on cleaning before the next people move in--they expect you to do it, and will charge you if everything isn't scrubbed down. That explains why I had to scrub my own shower when I moved in!

bsn1752

Marissa - I saw your post about the new place a couple weeks ago... it's beautiful! Where did you find it?  We're looking for a place right now!

shortgirltx

The only good thing about AutoZone is their check light machine is free! 

The only thing I liked about the TAAS was the breakfast burritos the school provided.  Plus the downtime let you work on homework and take a nap!  But later on in high school it was boring.

After a lot of back and forth about letting our student worker go,  I asked to no longer be his supervisor and she accepted.  Woohoo!  No more babysitting...he is her problem now.  I am FREE!

juliebug1997

The kids are on crack.  That is the only explanation at this point. 

We have a minor celebrity coming to the prom this year.  She is BFF's with one of the boys and, had she not dropped out to go to Disney, then she would be graduating with them.  She's not very popular because she accused the entire school of bullying several years ago.  I hear things differently....Anyways, now all these adults are having panic attacks about her coming.  I just want to tell them to grow up and take a pill (or ten).  BTW, she dates a Jonas Brother.

bdettecrow

I'm going to let you ladies flame me. I just dropped Ollie off at the pet hotel and about cried. You'd think Ollie was my child, but no, he's my dog. How pathetic am I?