gather round young bride grasshoppers

_Fenton

in addition to having an open bar, please for the love of god, do NOT put your registry information in the invitation!  Your grandmother and I will both judge you harshly.

And your mom shouldn't host the shower.

But the gap of doom is OK, if you're catholic.

that is all.

megandjay

you forgot the honeymoon registry...or asking for CASH

CaliopeSpidrman

Fenton, I still judge you and your Gap of Doom.

[Deleted User]

We will not be having an open bar (or a cash bar for that matter, it's BYOB and we provide the rest). People can judge me all they want, as long as I don't have to go broke paying for their major alcohol demands.

And who puts their registry information on the invitation? I wouldn't buy someone a gift if they did that. That just comes off as greedy. Also, what the hell is the gap of doom? When the ceremony and reception are hours apart? We got lucky--ours are in the same place.

megandjay

Blueyed- that is crazy cakes! So basically they are asking their guests to pay for the wedding, literally?

And I do want to note that I am not opposed to Honeymoon registries in theory, but the ones out there for now are basically just bank accounts, and they charge your guests a fee! So, why not do a DJ, Photo, Limo...hey how about for the reception too?!

I also have a GAP, but luckily I am Catholic, so I will not be going to hell for it, since I will be forgiven all of my sins shortly before the gap. ahahaha.

shanollee

Also, what you mean to say is "I couldn't care less about..."  you know, could not care less

ChristinS

Stop judging us Cali.  IT'S OUR CULTURE!

RogueQueen

I agree with all except getting married secretly before the wedding. Also how would you know, isn't it a secret? hmmm.....

est2005

Damn, now I have rethink my entire wedding. But having a Disney wedding is classy right?

brimcleod

Hey, I like Disney weddings. If I could afford it, I totally would.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE] I also have a GAP, but luckily I am Catholic, so I will not be going to hell for it, since I will be forgiven all of my sins shortly before the gap. ahahaha.
Posted by megandjay[/QUOTE]

Im not catholic, but Im having a catholic wedding.  I wonder if my sins will be forgiven before the gap too, lol...........I may be in need of an old priest and a young priest.

buddhagouda

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: gather round young bride grasshoppers : Im not catholic, but Im having a catholic wedding.  I wonder if my sins will be forgiven before the gap too, lol...........I may be in need of an old priest and a young priest.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

<div>Is it possible for you to make a post without mentioning either your Catholic wedding or your budget? </div>

est2005

http://tackyweddings.com/2008/10/15/disney-obsessed-couple-plans-over-the-top-cinderella-extravaganza/

This is what I think of when I think Disney Wedding. I fail at making it clicky, btw.

buddhagouda

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: gather round young bride grasshoppers : Ughhhhh, will you just drop it Buddah? 
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

<div>Drop what? That's the first time I said anything. You seriously need to rethink your internet posting habits if that comment irritated you. </div>

kristinalily

Why my wedding follows the 'rules': No cash bar (no hard liquor either but unlimited beer and wine), seating for everyone, reception right after the ceremony, no registry info on the invites.

Why my wedding is 'tacky': no DJ (friend working the iPod), buffet dinner, and probably lots of other things.

BUT it's MY wedding and I don't give a crap what people think! Just sayin...

OH! I forgot about the honeymoon too. FI and I are honeymooning with another couple. But don't worry, I've already been told I'm not going to enjoy it and and called 'crazy' and 'co-dependent' on these boards for that one. haha

mromag1

I am really happy to have avoided this catholic gap while still having a catholic wedding.  That would just piss me off to have wait hours to party.  

megandjay

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[QUOTE]I am really happy to have avoided this catholic gap while still having a catholic wedding.  That would just piss me off to have wait hours to party.  
Posted by mromag1[/QUOTE]

Oh then you would hate my guts

weddnovice

My mom hosted the shower.  I didn't ask her to.  Didn't really talk to me about it, she just did it as a surprise.    Judge me harshly if you will.

notquiteblushing

We're having a gap.  Suck it.

gower2be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: gather round young bride grasshoppers : Hate the dress and groom/groomsmen outfits, but LOVE the carriage. If I could ride away in that carriage I'd be a very happy bride indeed. But I wouldn't have a Cinderella wedding (though my cousin did, with little plastic slippers as favors and a real slipper for her new husband to put on her foot), mine would be Beauty & the Beast. Poor fiance, wonder what he'd have to wear....
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]
were doing german fairy tale wedding believe it or not its not coming out tacky at all lol. you should sneak some beauty and the beast elements in there just for fun

Lenore2010

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[QUOTE]We're having a gap.  Suck it.
Posted by notquiteblushing[/QUOTE]

<div>You know, I love your attitude and you actually have me thinking that maybe we need a short gap. I could actually use a little time after the ceremony to collect myself before we do dinner.</div>

Jackal-Chizstar

Okay so i plan on having a registery (cos my fiance and i dont live to gether yet but we are getting an apartment together later this year and plan on moving into a house as soon as the wedding is paid off :P.

I dont want to pu the registery details on the invitiation or the wedding website address http://weddings.theknot.com/pwp/pwp2/view/MemberPage.aspx?coupleId=7197993694512783 (check it out) .

So what do you think about a seperate litte card that comes with the invitiation, that says if you want to give a gift and/or having trouble picking a gift please see our gift registery ( our extended families have disgusting taste) and its says if youa re interested in further details about the wedding please view out wedding website.

Oh and majority of my fiance and mine's family are alcoholics in denial, so we aren''t having an open bar. Instead, we are spending the money on a better photographer and videographer.  That's our choice and we are sticking to it . . .

Lenore2010

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[QUOTE]Okay so i plan on having a registery (cos my fiance and i dont live to gether yet but we are getting an apartment together later this year and plan on moving into a house as soon as the wedding is paid off :P. I dont want to pu the registery details on the invitiation or the wedding website address <a href="http://weddings.theknot.com/pwp/pwp2/view/MemberPage.aspx?coupleId=7197993694512783" rel="nofollow">http://weddings.theknot.com/pwp/pwp2/view/MemberPage.aspx?coupleId=7197993694512783</a> (check it out) . So what do you think about a seperate litte card that comes with the invitiation, that says if you want to give a gift and/or having trouble picking a gift please see our gift registery ( our extended families have disgusting taste) and its says if youa re interested in further details about the wedding please view out wedding website. Oh and majority of my fiance and mine's family are alcoholics in denial, so we aren''t having an open bar. Instead, we are spending the money on a better photographer and videographer.  That's our choice and we are sticking to it . . .
Posted by Jackal-Chizstar[/QUOTE]

No mention of a gift registry should be included in an invitation envelope. Put the regisrty link on your website and mention the website on your invite or enclosures. Hypocritical? Yup, but still more polite than the god-awful mention of a registry on or near your invitations.

Alcoholic family so no open bar? Bravely go NO alcohol is all I can say, and everyone who usually just comes to weddings to get drunk will leave earlier, which is not all bad.

megandjay

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[QUOTE]Okay so i plan on having a registery (cos my fiance and i dont live to gether yet but we are getting an apartment together later this year and plan on moving into a house as soon as the wedding is paid off :P. I dont want to pu the registery details on the invitiation or the wedding website address <a href="http://weddings.theknot.com/pwp/pwp2/view/MemberPage.aspx?coupleId=7197993694512783" rel="nofollow">http://weddings.theknot.com/pwp/pwp2/view/MemberPage.aspx?coupleId=7197993694512783</a> (check it out) . So what do you think about a seperate litte card that comes with the invitiation, that says if you want to give a gift and/or having trouble picking a gift please see our gift registery ( our extended families have disgusting taste) and its says if youa re interested in further details about the wedding please view out wedding website. Oh and majority of my fiance and mine's family are alcoholics in denial, so we aren''t having an open bar. Instead, we are spending the money on a better photographer and videographer.  That's our choice and we are sticking to it . . .
Posted by Jackal-Chizstar[/QUOTE]


So then I am assuming you are having NO alcohol. Because if you have a cash bar people will still drink and get drunk. Having no bar because of you and your FI's feelings about alcohol is different than having a cash bar, people also have no bar sometimes due to religious reasons.

Putting an insert card with registry information in your invites envelope is no different. Do a website insert and include registry info on your website, along with other info such as directions, accommodations, etc.