So.. I have no idea what to do. Looking for some advice.
I am in the beginning stages of wedding planning. I was really hoping to keep the bridal party really small (2-3 bridesmaids). My fiance decided he wants his dad to be his best man, his brother-in-law, and his sister's boyfriend to be groomsmen. He also decided for me that his younger sister WILL be a bridesmaid. Therefore, i insisted my younger brother WILL be a groomsmen.. so that's all fine and good. Moving on..
His older sister just had the first baby of the family.. and people are acting like a baby has never been born before. Originally, I wanted no kids at the wedding for a variety of reasons. As we were discussing this as an OPTION, my fiance took it upon himself to tell his older sister that I don't want kids at the wedding so her son can't come. Exactly how he phrased it... way to throw me under the bus.
Of course she flipped out, the younger sister also lost it (bridesmaid) and informed me that no kids is not an option, saying "you upset her so much, there WILL be kids at your wedding."
In an effort to make things a little better, my fiance and I were trying to think of small ways to include sister and baby in the wedding. He suggests to me that his sister CARRY the baby down the isle to act as ring bearer. I did not like this idea. No ring bearers, No flower girls, Obviously kids are coming to the wedding now, but I don't want kids in the party. This is not a celebration for other people's kids.
What does my fiance do, AGAIN? Hauls off and tells his sister she can carry her kid down the isle as ring bearer, again before the both of us have agreed on a decision. I think this is the tackiest, most ridiculous after-thought idea ever. The kid is too young to walk! What does she wear? How do we do pictures? Just... all things wrong in my opinion.
The only thing I can think of is making her another bridesmaid, which I don't want to do. The party is already bigger than I wanted, I'm buying the dresses for the girls. And now I'll have a bridesmaid standing up holding a kid? Um no. I'm furious. The damage has already been done, and I don't know how to fix it.
If it's not obvious, clearly I'm delighted that my father ad I are spending a ridiculous amount of money, so that my husband's family can have a celebration for a baby.
If anybody managed to read all of this, some feedback would be extraordinarily helpful. What do we do with the sister? What do we do with this damn baby?
PLEASE HELP! Thank you!!!