WWYD?

jasmineh7777

Hey ladies.
My brother just informed me that he and his fiancee' have broken up. She cancelled her wedding shower for this weekend.
I don't know if they will work it out or not, but for now at least, everything is on hold.

Here's my question--Should I see if I can cancel the order on my very expensive BM dress? She just "added" my recently because someone else dropped out, and then she went and ordered dresses. So..um...what do I do? Sit and wait, and probably not be able to return it? Or contact the shop right away and see if I can cancel?

Even if they do work it out, I am thinking the wedding date will change now. So, erm...what the heck do I do?

tidetravel

If they have called it off officially, I would cancel the order.  I may or may not agree to be a replacement BM again, if they were to get back together.

katiewhompus

Oh no! I would say cancel it and then reorder if they work it out. Are they the type of couple to do this for nothing or do you think it's the real deal?

btrflykate1230

OH OH! Pick me! I have experience with this!

So, when I canceled my wedding, once the dresses were ordered, the was no turning back. Any deposit that was made not only couldn't be refunded, but they had to pay off the rest of the dress. So, my friends have a $160 dress in their closet that they're not wearing, at least to my wedding.

I would call them immediately and see if anything can be done, but IME, you're stuck.

I offered to reimburse my BMs. None of them wanted me to, but, I would hope your brother or his exFI do the same!

I'm sorry for your brother! And you!

jasmineh7777

They have done this many times before, but that was before they were engaged.

Originally, she wanted me to be her MOH. Then she decided to have her 3 friends be the only BMs. Then one dropped out and she added me in.

opalsky007

Cancel. Will you lose a deposit or anything? Better than getting stuck with the dress--I got stuck with one last year. Sorry your brother is going through this!

Celles

Ditto Tide.  On both counts.

Sorry, Jasmineh.

vegasgroom

I would cancel, but also probably would not have accepted being a second choice WP member either, I hate it when people do that.

jasmineh7777

Thanks everyone. I'm not really upset, nor do either of them seem to be. The whole situation is just...odd.

I didn't actually go order the dress. She just texted me after she ordered it and let me know. The shop is closed now, but I'll go by tomorrow and see what my options are.

[Deleted User]

I agree to cancel. You can always reorder it if need be.

opalsky007

You were MOH, and then not in at all, and then a replacement? Yikes.

jasmineh7777

Thanks. I feel so much better now! I don't want to be insensitive, but the dress is $200, and I'd rather not waste that much money. 

katiewhompus

I wonder if, worst case scenario, you could sell it somewhere.

KatyRoseM

Its not insensitive, its acting on the information you were given. 

MarriedInAFever

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[QUOTE]Thanks. I feel so much better now! I don't want to be insensitive, but the dress is $200, and I'd rather not waste that much money. 
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

Yeaaah. I don't blame you at all there. I would definitely cancel.

Sorry to hear that!

jasmineh7777

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[QUOTE]I wonder if, worst case scenario, you could sell it somewhere.
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]

It is floor length, teal, and kind of Grecian. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-sealed.gif" border="0" alt="Sealed" title="Sealed" /> I could put it on oncewed or something if all else fails. Good idea.

PetraStonegirl

Jas- I'm sorry you might get stuck with this dress. I'd definitely put it on onceweb, and even the classifies here, if you can't cancel the order.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I agree with mica. It sounds like the shop does not have your credit card information? If so, the dress was ordered by bro's ex-FI and therefore, I assume, she paid the deposit? Or did you reimburse her for it? Either way, I doubt they'll come after you to pay it.